This is the first deployment for me and the first time I've dated someone in the military. My DB is infantry and I know that communication is few and far between however it's been 9 days; nothing, nada. This is the longest we have gone with no communication. I'm started to feel like I'm just talking to myself in e-mails to him. I know no news is good news and I know he hasn't been online. I just miss being able to talk to him :beg
How do you deal with long periods of no communication?

It's my first too :hugs

When he first got there, we didn't talk for a week straight and I think I was about to kill myself :lol. It was very hard, but seriously, I know you hear this a lot, I just kept busy. I have 2 wonderful friends that are going through the same thing so I hung out with them a lot and I got a part time job so now I'm working. I started planning out his care packages. I even made him some things to pass the time.

You can do this girl, we're all here for you. And I hope you hear from your DB soon!

This is my first deployment too. It's frustrating when you have to go for days without hearing from him. They can get so busy. But you have to remain busy too!! Find a routine. Make plans to do stuff. It will help. You CAN do this!! :hug

This is our 2nd deployment.
Don't worry sweetie, it is definitely hard, but you can SOOOOO handle this. It's easy to go batty when you don't hear from him, but you have to have to have to do whatever you can to take your mind off of it. Read a book, go for a walk, go shopping, get a manicure, do ANYTHING. Trust me, when DB left, I was a wreck for the first week I didn't hear from him, and right now he is on a "trip" and doesn't know when we'll be able to talk again (could be a week, could be a month). But I am trying my hardest to do things that take up my time so that the days go faster. Take some time to just cry it out, have your own little pity party--ice cream and fuzzy slippers work for me-- and then pick yourself up and get moving.
Good Luck to you. You are stronger than you think. :hugehug

Our last deployment we went through huge blocks of time with no communication. It really starts to grate on you. How can it not? I just tried to have faith that he would contact me when he was able to and I stayed as busy as possible. :hugs

:hugs Hang in there!

Thanks girls for all your support and sweet words. I'm trying to stay busy, but it seems the longer I haven't heard from him the harder that gets.

After this week I'm leaving to work at a summer camp for 2 weeks, so I'll be busy and without internet. I'm just stressing I may not get the chance before then.

It may be time for a walk...

Somehow I survive. I dont know how I do. I survive because what other choice do I have? Live my life without him, hell no!! I tend to get into my creative stuff because that stuff gets me busy. I usually make him something or write him a letter since we can't talk. No communications suck, but also remember it could be worse. I always tell myself that. You know he WILL contact you as soon as he can.

We go through frequent, extended periods when he's not in touch. It sucks, but like everyone has said, you can make it through. Keeping busy helps, as does writing to him in a journal and rewarding myself for staying sane. I'm a big believer in retail therapy as a cure-all for comm blackout blues. My shoe collection has grown exponentially since DB has been gone. :mrgreen

my dbis infantry as well...and its hard when u go through a long time of not talking..but just have to be patient and love him and write him letters (they love those the most) send carepackages (they love that even more) and never expect a call...and keep busy...

You can do it sweetie! Hang in there and write a post for "celebrations" when you hear from him :)