So I was talking to a friend of mine who is deployed right now. During our conversation somehow we got on the subject of packages from home. Well he told me that since he has been there, and he has been there for a while, his fiance has NEVER sent him anything. Well okay. So her excuse is that its just way to expensive. Now my uncle is deployed, and we send him packages, I know that its not cheap. BUT.. this girl has a VERY good job, and she doesnt have to may bills at all, they are all taken care of. And on top of that, he sends her a very large amount of money every month. So come on now :duh Its bad enough that she cant send him anything with her own money but dang, she could at the very least, use his. I dont get it. He doesnt get many packages at all. He told me hes lucky to get an email from anyone, so when he gets them he will read them over and over and over. It just makes me sick. Even IF she couldnt afford to send him packages... WHY THE HELL cant she even send him an email :vent He was just so upset, and it has just really hurt my feelings. He was so sad. He was just like, you know I am okay with not getting things from home... i mean it sucks when everyone else is getting things, and I have no mail... But the only thing that really bothers me is she cant even send pictures of my son, and im missing him grow up! AHHHH! It seriously broke my heart :unlove I am just so pissed at her and I really just want to kick her ass. What is wrong with her? Am I just being way to harsh and overreacting?

So I am def going to start emailing him, and sending things to him. That just sucks.

Anyways... so I was just wondering... if you send your S/O packages, and how often. I havent went through a deployment yet (we dont have all that long until our turn). But... :dunno

Someone needs to tell her to get it together....JMHO

Agh! I would be pissed at her too! That's ridiculous, she's his fiance and she can't send him emails or carepackages?! My boyfriend has only been there for a month and I've sent him one carepackage already, two cards, and I email him multiple times a day. The thought of him being incredibly happy that he got a carepackage makes me want to send him a carepackage everyweek, but I recently got laid off so I can only send them once a month for now.

Someone needs to tell her to get it together....JMHO

I agree! Maybe she just doesn't know or understand.

Packages go out about once a week to DH. Sometimes they're fun, sometimes they're necessities.

I would feel the same as you. I think you're being a very good friend. :yes

I send between a 2-8 boxes a month. I send him cards and letters about every 3 days or so. I also send him boxes that are for everyone so that people don't feel forgotten. DH told me about month 6 he's gotten more boxes in one month than some people have gotten the entire deployment. After that I increased how much I was sending for other people from one large box to two large boxes.

I think you're a great friend for taking up his DF slack. Is there any way to get pics of his kiddo too? I know that's asking a lot but I bet even just a couple pics would mean the world to him.

There's a couple of websites, America supports you is one, that you/he can sign up for and he will get sent care packages from them.

I understand care packages are expensive, but I just watch for things when they go on sale, KWIM? Maybe she just needs some help in learning how to do one?

i sent him a package every two weeks i wish i could send more but they DO get expesive but i send him cards and letters a couple times a week and emails multiple times a day that sucks she isnt communicating well with him:(

That's sad. :( I send packages out at the absolute least, when we're broke as can be, twice a month. When we're doing ok financially, it's more like once a week. Dh has been gone a little less than 2 months and he's gotten 6 so far, and I am working on another one at the moment. Dh is always so so happy on mail day when he gets packages. Even if it's the silliest stuff, just getting something from home and knowing that we are thinking about him and are taking the time to put something together and send it, it makes him feel loved. I think that's awesome that you're going to send him stuff, sounds like his fiance needs a wakeup call!

I try to send one every pay period....we're trying to get out of25k in debt in the next 2 years, so money is tight....

At first I was sending a package every couple of weeks but they started going to once a month....and now since its close to him coming home I wont be sending anymore. But the reason I quit sending so much is because he told me he didnt want so many snacks just to take care of me and the kids....I didnt listen at first but he kept insisting ..I did make sure he would get a holiday package(which is about every month) But I do email him all the time. He is more worried about the "joes" getting their their mail and packages he says that he and his team are all older married guys who know how much they are loved back home that they dont quite "need" the support like the younger guys...not that I really agree with that..but he said that just yesterday because a friend of ours sent a bunch of snacks and things ...and they gave a lot of it to the younger guys.

I send mine a pckg every payday and email him everyday sometimes a couple times. We right letters too and send cards. I couldn't imagine not sending him things because of money. I will go broke if I have to. Especially since we have kids. He needs to be involved in their lives as much as possible. I love him so much and it would kill him if I just left him out of things just because he is gone.

i send 1-2 packages per month to db. then ill also send him random funny cards and letters throughout the month.

I send between a 2-8 boxes a month. I send him cards and letters about every 3 days or so. I also send him boxes that are for everyone so that people don't feel forgotten. DH told me about month 6 he's gotten more boxes in one month than some people have gotten the entire deployment. After that I increased how much I was sending for other people from one large box to two large boxes.

I think you're a great friend for taking up his DF slack. Is there any way to get pics of his kiddo too? I know that's asking a lot but I bet even just a couple pics would mean the world to him.

There's a couple of websites, America supports you is one, that you/he can sign up for and he will get sent care packages from them.

I understand care packages are expensive, but I just watch for things when they go on sale, KWIM? Maybe she just needs some help in learning how to do one?


Well her excuse is she just cant afford it... which is complete BULLSHIT. But still, even if that was true, i know she can afford a damn letter, or pictures.

And I wish i could send him pictures of his son, its not at all a lot to ask. But, I moved out of state (where they are from) so i have no way to see his son. However I have many friends still there, and I am checkin on who has "access" to his son. To see if i can get some pictures! Im trying!

I send about 3 or so every month. Give or take sometimes. He tells me not to send too many. Has he told her how he feels about this?

Also, care packages aren't that expensive, maybe if you send a lot of them. But mine are usually pretty big and packed with all sorts of stuff and the most I've ever spent was like $20, and that was because I sent over his guitar!

i sent him a package every two weeks i wish i could send more but they DO get expesive but i send him cards and letters a couple times a week and emails multiple times a day that sucks she isnt communicating well with him:(

Right. I completely understand things are expensive. But.. she has more than enough money. I mean she could at LEAST send one a month right? And what about letters? And there is absolutely no excuse for her to not be sending emails. I just do not get it.

APO boxes are $10 or so
thats not too bad...
Some people really don't care though.

I send mine a pckg every payday and email him everyday sometimes a couple times. We right letters too and send cards. I couldn't imagine not sending him things because of money. I will go broke if I have to. Especially since we have kids. He needs to be involved in their lives as much as possible. I love him so much and it would kill him if I just left him out of things just because he is gone.

:yourock

I send about 3 or so every month. Give or take sometimes. He tells me not to send too many. Has he told her how he feels about this?

Also, care packages aren't that expensive, maybe if you send a lot of them. But mine are usually pretty big and packed with all sorts of stuff and the most I've ever spent was like $20, and that was because I sent over his guitar!

:dunno if he has said anything to her about it. I think its one of those things that... he just feels that she doesnt care so why bother. Then its just because he told her to, and whats the joy in that... :dunno

Care packages can get expensive, but if money is an issue you can find creative ways to fill a box without spending too much. Start at the $1 store! And shipping is not that much either. I think her excuse is crap! I feel sorry for the guy.

That is a cruddy situation. Even if you don't send packages, e-mail is free! I e-mail DB pretty much daily. I have a policy that there will always be at least 1 new e-mail from me waiting in his in-box. He is always in my mind and in my heart, so why shouldn't I always be in his in-box? :mrgreen

I can't imagine being engaged to someone and not writing them, sending e-mails, or care packages or anything! What the hell kind of fiance is that?! I'm sorry...that sort of thing just chaps my hide.

When my ex-DF was in Iraq, I sent out a package once a month (and money is tight with me!). I also got together with our friends, and if I couldn't get another package out, then one of them would do it. We'd make sure he got at least three packages or so per month.

I mailed out letters daily. I e-mailed him at least once a week...if not more often.

I feel so bad for that poor man...sitting there getting nothing, when he has a fiance at home he's sending money to! ARGH!!!!

That poor poor guy! Your thread really broke my heart!

Do you have any friends or know his family? Maybe you can rally people together to mail him things?!

Someone needs to tell that woman what a jackass she is!

mine has been gone for 4 months and ive sent him 6 packages, and email everyday. i think u are being a very good friend. i feel bad for your friend! i hate when i hear the girl back home isn't giving any type of support. :(

oh boy thats just mean i would be pissed too!! i feel so bad for him his fiancee really need to get her ass kicked!!

i sent DH every other week 2 packages sometimes more (i sent him 4 packages june 9th) and letters and emails as well

i sent u a PM :)

I send 4-5 packages a month. They don't have to be exspensive you can go to the dollar store and buy stuff there. Its not whats in them that matters the most to the guys its just that someone CARES enough to send them something. I write letters everyday. I also send motomail almost everyday too! Geeze...I'd be rethinking of getting married to her if I was him!

i know its prolly a stupid question lol but what is motomail i have no clue lol :dunno

That just makes me so sad for this poor guy. She can't even be bothered to send him emails? What kind of relationship is that? Sorry, it's not my place to judge, but this just sounds like a crap situation.

DBs been gone for a little over 3 months and I'm send a package a week (14 total). When I'm feeling poor, I send magazines in the flat rate envelopes that cost $5 to send. I also email daily.

You're a good friend to be so concerned for him.