I don't know how you cope with no email for the duration of a deployment. :no Jason's ship is so new that they won't have the email and such up for a while. Being completely out of touch has got to be the WORST feeling ever.

I've already written a few emails to his account and started them off with "I know you won't get this until you get back but..." :lol b/c I just want to write and talk to him, even though I know he won't read any of them until he's already home.

When he was deployed on the carrier (on his last sea duty), we always had pretty good communication. I'd say that he got to email me MOST days, unless the email was down for security reasons or something, but I never went more than 3-4 days tops and we normally didn't have to go more than a day or two without email.

So, not having any email or communication at all is just plain SUCKING! I don't know how you sub wives do this for months on end. I'd go out of my mind!

Do you journal or write him emails to read when he gets home or something?

I'm so used to telling him about small things like funny things that the kids do or say, or just random things about my day or what happened, it feels so strange to not be able to tell him and then hear back from him about it.

So, needless to say, he's going to come back home to several "good night" emails b/c I just feel like I need a way to talk to him about my day, even though I know he isn't reading or responding :lol

Good grief, I miss him. :sigh :crybaby

:hugs When does he get back, Brandi?!? I know it's hard!!

Just flood his inbox. :lol I bet that he would read them all when he gets back. :yes

Maybe he can find a way to be all crafty and sneaky and get something to you! That would be awesome. Like a carrier turtle or something :teehee

We get email! There are some blackout periods but it isn't for the entire deployment. Like you I just write the emails and let him read them when he can.

I wish you'd quit with the cry baby emoticon Brandi. Hellloooooooooo you are NOT a cry baby. You miss your husband. There is NOTHING wrong with that, as a matter of fact I'd be worried if you didn't. Waaay back in the day when you started NavySOS it was specifically for support for people in the very situation you are in right.now. Sure sunshine and roses or rainbows and butterflies or what the hell ever are all nice and sweet and all but seriously - we know that this life can SUCK sometimes, and right now for you (and me even :lol) it does. We B here 4 us.

Ok. Lecture over. Get off your own back already woman.

:hugs Brandi. I'm not a sub wife/gf/fiance obviously but I don't know how they do it either. I was lucky to get at least one sort of communication daily during our deployment. I know it's hard but I think you're doing great by writing to him. When there were days that I didn't hear back from Justin, I would just write to him in my journal and maybe put some sort of momento of what I did that day. Like the logo'd napkin of the restaurant I ate at, or the movie ticket stub...stuff like that. He loved it!

we do get emails when they aren't on blackout(during missions)

Back in the ancient times when I was dating John he went in the field for 2 months, it was horrible. I got one phone call that whole time and NO emails. But I emailed him every single day and he read them all when he got back stateside, it helped he and I both because I got to feel like I could reach him and he didn't have to worry that he missed anything.

Aww Brandi, I just want to come give you a hug! And maybe a margarita! :D

We get email at times. I hope all my whining lately about black outs hasn't given the wrong impression. We had email for about 9 days, and now we won't have it for a long, long time. Once the mission is over, we'll probably get it again.

I think every sub deployment is different, depending on the nature and length of the missions.

I write every night anyway. I figure if the mission ends early, or if something comes up and they have to transmit, then he'll get lucky. If not, he'll have a lot to read when email is scheduled to be back. And that way, I don't forget all the little things I wanted to tell him.

Becca gave you good advice (as always). Don't be so hard on yourself! I fall into the trap now that it's been 5 years, of feeling like I need to be super wife. I've been there, done that, and I should be able to do it now with no problems, and set a good example for the younger wives. But it still sucks, and there are still days when I break down and cry over the silliest things. And then I go on a big guilt trip about it, about how I should be past that. But you know what, I'm wrong! I shouldn't be past it. It's freaking hard! And it's supposed to be hard! So we are totally normal for being upset about it.

:hugs

We drink a lot and shop a lot///JUst kidding:) Don't tell my husband that. I must say that every sub command my husband has been at I have made great friends. The shore and surface commands I have not met many ladies.:dunno
When he is attached to a sub the families are like one big family....with all the arguing, support, good times...etc.
Brandi-the other thing we did was keep journals. It was great to read what my husband wrote while he couldn't email.
I also read over previous emails and listened to past voicemails. I hope you hear from him soon!!:hugs

I'm not a sub gf, but extended blackouts are my mortal enemy. I journal a lot and write him daily. So what if I flood his in-box. I can't help myself. :giggle

Oh, well, for some reason I thought the subbie wives had to do the full 3+ months with no email or no contact... I thought it was due to them having to basically be untrackable and stealthed down there or something :suspect :lol Or maybe I just made that up in my head, I don't know why I thought that :lol :lol :lol But thank you for allowing me to be a whiner. Last night was my first night without him in a loooooooooooong time and it majorly sucked. I woke up a lot and felt sad that he wasn't there to hug :( and I kind of missed slapping his hand for trying to touch my boob a zillion times. :D

Well you know what they say Brandi...abstinence makes the heart grow fondler.

:giggle

Well you know what they say Brandi...abstinence makes the heart grow fondler.

:giggle

:lol

Some subs do have to go on comm blackout for the entire time they are deployed...which is why i can email my db but can't get anything back from him. But I get to hear from him every time he is in port and I would much rather hear his voice.

Well you know what they say Brandi...abstinence makes the heart grow fondler.

:giggle

:eek omg :lol yeah, thats probably true :lol

Well you know what they say Brandi...abstinence makes the heart grow fondler.

:giggle

:roflmao

:hugehug Brandi. I'm not a sub wife - but I go months without any communication from my boyfriend when he deploys - the two longest times were 16 weeks and 5 1/2 months! I just email everyday though, leave messages via skype or instant message on his computer and print out my emails so that he gets the "snail mail" eventually. It's not easy having a one-sided relationship for months at a time, but it's all we have and we manage!

i'm a sub gf...this entire deployment has been blackout.

it's hard not hearing from them for months at a time! you sort of just have to get in this mindset when he leaves and accept that you won't be able to talk to him. you just hope and pray for a port call haha!

i still email him every couple of days and he keeps a journal that i read when he gets back.

i really do appreciate the submarine love and i hope that you start feeling better soon!

you're amazing, hang in there!

what's even worse then sub are not hearing for months at a time from the men in the sandbox, you know they're looking hell in the eyes. I'm glad he's on a sub