Ok, my mind is going crazy right now! I got an idea and I was flying with it till it came to a brutal halt. I recently put up a post to navy wives asking bout getting on base for homecomings and how to go about it since im only a DG. I was gonna surprised DB by being there when he gets off ship. When his ship left he was telling me how a lot of peoples families were there to see them off and he sounded so sad that i couldnt be there. it was just heartbreaking. I dont want him to go through the same thing when he comes back. so i started planning. had it figured out financially. I will have just gotten my student loans, and a new car so I could drive, it would be a two day drive both ways. even with gas prices it would be cheaper than buying a plane ticket and a rental car when I get there. And I figure that way I could take my mom who has been dreaming of going back to cali for years and my little sis who has never seen the ocean... SO sounds all great everything would be perfect, right? well here's the dilema... I have an older sister who Ive only met a few times. she's my fathers other daughter, not my moms kid... so we lost contact after the first two times we met for about 6 years. well she somehow got my number and we've been reconnecting. she has been begging me to come see her and my 3 year old niece ive never met and eventually my new unborn niece. i havent had the money to do it. but when i get my student loans i would have the money. So now I have to choose between having a family vacation in SD to see my DB and going to see my sister after 6 years and my niece... I want to do both sooo bad. Going to SD would cost way more (gas, hotels) way longer drive, but I would make my family way happy and get to see DB. Going to see my sister would cost way less. She only lives about 9 hours away so not much for gas and I would stay at her house so no hotel. sorry this is so long. if you've read this far, thank you. just post what u would do or any ideas how to decide.

someone helped me kinda decide on a choice but I need more opinions...

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Hi Tiffany,
Gosh that is a hard one. Well, I don't know about your family, but if the relationship is like mine...I would go meet your DB. but that's just me. Maybe when he comes home, you both could make a trip to your sis's.
Hope you figure something out
:hugs

I'd go with family. Your DB will understand. While it would be nice to surprise him, that is gonna be a hassle in and of itself.

That said... I can understand realllllly wanting to be there for his homecoming, and I know I about died when I missed my DB's.... But I wasn't having to choose between him or family. I think family is more important sometimes? Gods, I don't know.

Good luck deciding and I wish you the best either way.

thank you ladies but i think ive made a decision. someone pointed out that my sister will always be there but DB only comes back from deployment once or well not as often. And it will be easier to save up money to go see her since she is closer and all so i can do it maybe a few months after. As for being difficult to get on base and all that to surprise him, I think I might just tell him bout it so he can try and get a few days off and then maybe help me with the expenses. and that way i could prolly stay longer :)

go see your db now and go see your sis once the other kid is born

go see your db now and go see your sis once the other kid is born


thats the new plan :)