Ok, I am just wondering, does it take one being on this site for a certain time period before they are acknowledged by other members? I don't want to come off as being mean or rude, but it just seems a little difficult to get people to respond around here. I dunno if I am not asking the right questions or asking for the right opinions, it would be great to know what I am doing wrong. My I am just being too sensitive. I posted this in here instead of venting because it's more of a question of being new then being upset. Can/Will anyone guide me with this?:sigh

Just jump in and start participating in the various posts. That is the easiest way. I know that I often skim through things because I just don't have a lot of time at the end of the day, but I try to jump in here and there. As people become familiar with you, you will likely get more responses! =)

p.s Welcome!

I haven't seen your other threads, but :hi. I hope you can find you niche here, the ladies on here really are great. Have you posted many replies, so people can get to know you too? :goodluck I'll see you around the board :)

I agree. I checked the threads you started and you've gotten more responses in the past few days here than I did when I first joined the site. And I'm still relatively unknown. lol. Good things take time. Just read and post. :)

This is a FAQ.......and :no there is no "magic" number of posts. You just have to build friendships slowly. Some people here post alot more than others, not everyone reads all the new posts, and sometimes if you post a thread and it doesn't get a response it can get buried way on the back pages. That's why you see :bump alot...to "bump" up the thread for more responses.

So, don't feel bad. No one is ignoring you....just keep jumping in, post your thoughts and opinions and take some time and before you know it you'll be making friends faster than you can say I'm addicted to this site :lmao


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Just keep posting posting posting. It takes a bit for people to get to know you! Hi by the way I'm sierra :)

Just comment on random threads that are of interest. Even if its just saying hi! or giving a little bit of an acknowledgment that you're alive and you wish them well. And to get replys on your posts, well thats kinda hard. lol. some posts have better responses than others. nothing ot contorl that

It will take time, i will say this is a fairly large board, so there are a lot of people here... you may think you're going unnoticed, but i doubt you are :)

It definitly takes time...and a little effort....start reading posts and reaching out to members who you have something in common with...send PM's start convos...trust me you will feel right at home in NO TIME!!!

it takes a while. Eventually you'll find a little niche and start to feel more comfortable, but with only 24 posts you're really new! Just keep posting. Comment on other threads and try PMing people you think you have something in common with!

I know, for me, I respond where I think I can help or the subject intrigues me. I don't respond or not respond based on who the thread is by. There are a ton of memebers here. I can honestly say I don't read all of the threads. Sorry if that upsets anybody. If you hold your cursor over the title you can read the first bit of the OP. If I respond usually depends on what I read right there. Some of the threads I know right off the bat that I have no help to give that person. And sometimes I open up a thread, notice it has gone off to left field, and so I decide I'm not going to respond. I don't think there is any defined time frame to get noticed. I know I'll post things and get no answer sometimes. I think it is that way for everyone. You just gotta get out here and post. That is the only way we will get to know you. I hope that made sense.

I hope you give this site a bit more time. I know, for me, you are more than welcome here and I hope you stay. I'm sure there is something valuable you can give to us. As well as, I know I would like the chance to get to know you. :D

this is actually my 2nd time coming to this site...I actually was addicted about a year ago and was on here quite a bit before I really started talking to people. And now since I just came back this week I feel like I dont kno anyone all over again, and I have to be honest it does kind of feel that way at times but I agree with the other ladies just from my previous experience on here you have to just keep posting and talking and dont be afraid to private message someone when you see you have something in common or feel like you really fit with their personality. Everybody seems to be very welcoming....I know I am...so feel free to PM me anytime!!!

When you are new you need to make your precense known. It took me a long time before people would respond to my posts. So dive right in so we can get to know you.

i actually was gunna write and ask the same thing.. ive been on here for a while now and posted and tried to jump in but it doesnt seem to work for me.. or maybe no one like me lol..jk

Ok, seriously it took me almost 2,000 posts before I started getting responses. Like I said, jump in. You can't expect people to respond to you if they don't know who you are.

it's all online so you know..they have to continuously see your siggy, name, or avatar before they recognize you. i don't think anyone is purposely avoiding you. :hugs

I noticed you! :D And I feel like the new kid too, just give it time. My DB is headed to Hawaii very soon (too soon) and I have no idea how we're going to manage the distance. I'm totally jealous that you're able to move to be with him, I wish I could do the same!

I've only been on for a week, but the couple of threads I've posted have gotten responses. I don't really think it's the amount of posts you've made, but if people feel they have something helpful or meaningful to say to you.

I haven't been here long enough to make any close friends or anything, but I'm sure it will come with time:)

I'm Tiffy by the way!

you just gotta jump in.
also to, if you post a thread, and no one seems to be responding, just bump it up.
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welcome to sos!

I noticed you! :D And I feel like the new kid too, just give it time. My DB is headed to Hawaii very soon (too soon) and I have no idea how we're going to manage the distance. I'm totally jealous that you're able to move to be with him, I wish I could do the same!

You will manage the distance easier than you think. My DB is NOT one for long distance and we have made it this far. Have faith. You can come to me with questions. You can even come visit... I am looking for a roommate to live with out there...Hint Hint... lol:P

Also, if you post around dinner time, when there are hundreds of members all posting at once, many messages and posts just get missed due to volume.

It also depends on WHERE you post. If you only post in let's say the deployment section many of us will not necessarily see that post or have answers for you.

ETA: I looked at your post history and you have started a total of 6 posts (including this one and your intro) and there weren't any in there that I would consider to not have gotten attention. You got several replies to all of them.

Just pm me if you want to talk I will respond as soon as I can, I also spend a lot of time in the chat room.But I will be gone for 9 weeks for basic training.Hi I am Tania

:welcome

Like everyone else said, you just need to keep jumping in and "talking" with people.

:hi Welcome, just jump right in.

:hugs I feel like this a lot too. I just try to keep plugging away...keep leaving posts :)

I'm only new here - I have found the ladies really supportive and welcoming. I just spent hours on here the first weekend after I registered and clocked up 100 and then 200 posts - I guess when you reply heaps people start to notice you. I try and welcome all newbies and send PMs to those who I think I may have something in common with - that's what's worked for me. I'm Ali btw.

it took me a while - and still not sure if people notice - but I just keep posting away! haha!

I have been a member since March, it just takes time to get to know people and let them know you. You just have to jump in and let people start to recognize you. It just takes time!
And Welcome!

hey another houston girl :woot we can start having get togethers. :teehee.
seriously though you have to make the effort as well i used to lurk a lot and then when I posted it seemed like no one noticed. well duhh i posted few and far between. Just keep at it and you will find it is easy and people will notice you more.

yes i know how it can feel. I am the same i have been posting for a few months and still getting to learn everyone. Best of luck.

takes time its a HUGE board :D just post away trust me it took me a good 6 months before i felt like anyone knew who i was and:welcome

yes it does take some time. but just being consistent will help alot. it's just like moving to a new place as well. you dont have best friends as soon as you get there. it takes time to build those relationships and more time when it is online be/c you don't see the other person in most cases. I don't live anywhere near anyone on this site and the people that are in driving distance are still to far. come into chat sometime at night. you will make friend fast that way!

This is a FAQ.......and :no there is no "magic" number of posts. You just have to build friendships slowly. Some people here post alot more than others, not everyone reads all the new posts, and sometimes if you post a thread and it doesn't get a response it can get buried way on the back pages. That's why you see :bump alot...to "bump" up the thread for more responses.

So, don't feel bad. No one is ignoring you....just keep jumping in, post your thoughts and opinions and take some time and before you know it you'll be making friends faster than you can say I'm addicted to this site :lmao


:welcome

that's what bump means???!! ha i couldn't figure that out for soo long. cool.

ps. welcome! :)