I am new..and i only have one question?how do you all deal with this separation.You all must be special.Its so hard to get used to being without him for so long.

i came here a lot! :teehee

WELCOME :D

thank for the love back.
talk to me.
tell me as it is.

honestly, there's no one way to deal with being lonely. you can come here for support from people who know what you're going through. get involved in something where you will feel productive and creative. volunteering. talk to your friends and family. take care of yourself - go to a spa, get your nails done, whatever. cook. keep busy. and don't forget that its okay to get upset. what we all go through is a tough thing. and really don't forget that everyone here is willing to listen to you and be supportive.

:welcome i wish i had some advice, but my boyfriend is only just headed to basic soon. However, like everyone said, just keep busy, and as always don't be afraid to talk to us!! We love to be supportive!

:hi and welcome to SOS!

:welcome theres no way to deal with it really, you just kind of have to learn to cope with it. stay as busy as possible and write as often as you can. and of course, if your feeling down or need some advice, come here!

Welcome to SOS

welcome to sos

I write him EVERY SINGLE DAY, work constantly, school, all those things manage to keep me pretty busy. Just stay busy and before you know it you'll be seeing him again. Its never easy but dealing with it gets easier, hang in there you can do this too! I'm Megan, if you ever need anything feel free to PM me :)

:heythere Welcome to SOS. It's hard but as long as you're SO is worth it then ya.. it's worth it :teehee

:weldust It's not easy, but you'll get through it. You'll get lots of info and support here.

:welcome To be honest, you just deal with it. You stay busy and immerse yourself in activities so you don't have all this down time to wallow in it all.

:heythere Well... we do it one day at a time really. You'll make it through. Just be sure to surround yourself with GENUINE friends who care about you and your SO. :)

Welcome to SOS

:hi and wlecome. For me it helps a lot to not hold in all the emotions, cry when you need to cry, pretending that your not a bit sad about it, will just make it worse. Just keep busy and DO NOT feel guilty for having fun. You can do it. (it helps to come here too)

:welcome to SOS. I won't lie. The loneliness never stops. The missing him never stops. But you figure out a way to force yourself out of bed and face the day because you have no other choice. You find things to keep yourself busy. You figure out who and what can still make you smile. And you hold on to all of your memories while making plans for new ones. You get through because he is worth it. It's just what ya do. :D

Welcome!

I just deal with it cause really what's the other option? I come here a lot now. Try to keep busy. Write him.

i forgot to mention, someone gave me a great idea when i asked the same question 4 months ago (:D), she told me to keep a journal/scrapbook for when he's gone, and then you get to give it to him when you see him!

Welcome!
I try to stay busy. I work alot, hang out with friends and my family. And I just started scrapbooking.

Welcome! I don't know, you just do it because there isn't another option. :lol
Stay busy so that you don't get caught up in the "he's not here" thing and come to MSOS! :D

hey, i'm caroline! we're glad you joined! there isn't really one set way to get through the seperations and deployments...you just do whatever you can to keep yourself preoccupied. :hugs

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you just gotta keep your self busy

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Welcome to SOS!! :D

:welflash It's hard, but you just learn to deal with it. Like everyone says, keep busy!

I like to take lots of pictures, even if its just me sittin at the computer reading email. I'll keep a folder on the computer and in it there is a folder for each day (or week or month or whatever) and in that folder are pictures from that time period and a couple of word docs about whats going on with me and our lil one. Then I can periodically burn them to a disc and send them to him...it keeps me busy and creates something special to stick in his care package. I also spend a lot of time on boards like this one...(all of my others are pregnancy support boards, but the gals are still great). You learn to build a quality network of people around you to help keep you busy so the time passes. Keep support close, cry when you need to cry, and treasure the communication you two share. :)

I don't think it's easy for anyone, I think everyone has to deal with it in their own way. Welcome to msos though and I hope you enjoy it on here!

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I'm new to the site too and I'm also an army girlfriend. Welcome. Like everybody else says, find something that makes you happy, keep busy, and take it one day at a time. It's so hard, but you can do it. There's tons of other people that do it and you can too. Feel free to PM me if you want. I'm looking for friends and support too. The most important thing to remember is NEVER NEVER NEVER give up! Even when things seem impossible and you feel like you can't take it anymore, as Dori says in Finding Nemo, you "just keep swimming." :)

welcome to sos

you keep yourself REALLY busy and you talk things through with people - especially on here -because people here tend to understand what you are going with and many have experienced the same thing so they can give you better support!

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Welcome!

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