With spending money on non-necessities? You or your SO?


Does anyone else have the problem of their SO not being able to stand seeing money in their account? My DH just can't function knowing that there's money out there that he could be spending!

DH is totally the big spender but then he freaks when theres no money.

I think we are equally bad in different ways. Dh nickels and dimes our money on little things all the time. I spend money less often, but spend more at one time. I am more likely to blow $100 at the mall, and then not spend any more for a month or two, but DH will eat out here, buy something small there.... etc.

SO!!! i barely buy anything that boy is always getting something lol

DH is totally the big spender but then he freaks when theres no money.

DITTO DITTO DITTO!! Matt will get all kinds of stupid shit and then biotch and moan when there's no money and just freak the heck out. I have to sit him down and show him all his recipets. He doesn't seem to understnad how much the little things add up

Sadly - i am totally the spender :( MY DB has his moments but he is VERY cautious about his money

Definitely Kevin...

My hubby is bad too! I mean, I spend money, today I spent 100 dollars, but for myself, I honestly just got a pair of pearl earrings (haha, they were on sale for 5 bucks though) and a black bra that I was really needing. The rest of the stuff went towards our apartment.

DH just called and told me he got 100 bucks out of his account for next week for lunch money. I said "that's 20 bucks a day for lunch, why don't you just come home like you know you have time to do?" Then he said "well I gave 15 bucks to this guy for giving me a ride" (that probably took all of 5 minutes). I just don't get this part of his brain, and I never ever will!

most certainly lee....GOD he buys knives, guns, switchblades...all sorts of stuff it drives me NUTS

DH is the worse but since I keep track of the checkbook I know when he buys something so it really isn't that bad. Now this time last year, we were broke all the time. I'm so glad it isn't like that anymore.

that would be....me, I'm the spender in the family

My hubby is the worst... he just doesn't think and never realizes how much the little things add up!! Drives me crazy...

We're about equal, but we always have some money in the account. I tend to buy video games and clothes and he buys sports stuff (and lots of old baseball cards).

we're both pretty frugal but he definitely doesn't care about shopping around for a bargain. he'll buy whatever whenever if he wants it. i'll figure out if i can get it cheaper somewhere first

DH all the way. I grew up in a very frugal family (my dad was a mill worker, my mom returned to work when I was in 1st grade to try and supplement that and we were still poor - though I never knew it as a kid, just knew that we were frugal - if htat makes sense). When I went out on my own it was as a single mom so that was the sole support for DD and I - MAJOR frugal times there.
DH, on the other hand, was an only child and very spoiled. He then spent nearly 10 years as a bachelor with nothing to spend his pay on than anything and everything he wanted. He is very much into the newest, best toys - HAS to have new vehicles (not used), electronics geek, etc. He buys stuff just to have stuff.

DITTO DITTO DITTO!! Matt will get all kinds of stupid shit and then biotch and moan when there's no money and just freak the heck out. I have to sit him down and show him all his recipets. He doesn't seem to understnad how much the little things add up

Isnt it annoying? I get bitched at for spending too much on groceries meanwhile I find out he's bought lunch, a video game, $1000 at Home Depot, $2500 TV. I buy baby stuff and food lol

Isnt it annoying? I get bitched at for spending too much on groceries meanwhile I find out he's bought lunch, a video game, $1000 at Home Depot, $2500 TV. I buy baby stuff and food lol

OMgosh are we married to the same man!! Groceries is his HUGEST complaint yet he buys Xbox games and crap HE wants. Makes me :vent

Dh Definitely!

OMgosh are we married to the same man!! Groceries is his HUGEST complaint yet he buys Xbox games and crap HE wants. Makes me :vent

I'm starting to think we are lol Tommy will bitch at me for buying anything but I better not mention what he bought! I even buy all the groceries at the commissary with coupons! (its 30mins away too) I do like to remind him that he would starve if I didnt buy what I did lol

John is the worst out of the 2 of us. He is ok if I give him cash but if has the debit card forget it.

Oh, he says the same, too, about me spending all kinds of money even though it is at the grocery store, Walmart, or clothes for the kids (cause God forbid I buy them clothes so they aren't going butt naked). Yet he blows $100 in 1-2 days on I have no idea what. I never see it so I have no idea.

We are not really spenders but if we have to pick one of course I'll pick him :giggle

me me! i always have to spend whatever i have.. lol i cant ever keep no money! haha my db is ok even tho he just spent 450 on outfits at navy exchange lol

we are both pretty bad. but he gets more super expensive things aka he doesnt need 2 vehicles....grr

I am the one who will spend money on non-essentials, but thats because i have so much needs for me. I get my nails done twice a month, but that is about all i really do to pamper myself. I don't buy any new clothes maybe once a month at that. But when i do i spend quite a bit.

My Dh does not spend money and he can go months without having to buy anything for himself. All he need is a new game every few months. Even at that he let me know ahead of time so i can budget it in. He's great with not spending money.

I also budget for everything, so when i am spending on non-essentials its already budget in so i am not blowing my budget.

def. me

Df an I are bad in our own ways. But we are working on changing out ways. Were planning on doing a joint account when we get back from MN. (we share everything already) Were going to be saving like crazy for the future.

Definitely him!!! :lol

DH is way worse, thankfully I'll be able to save alot while he's gone on deployment

Oh goodness. I think both of us have certain issues with money. I am the one that spends TOOO much money. He is the one that doesn't like to balance the checkbook. We are actually work on improving this. Its a battle but we are getting there.

I am more likely to blow money as I go along (hello 70 pairs of shoes!). DB is more likely to save up and buy something really big and expensive, like a new ATV. So we both like to blow money, just in different ways. Neither one of us are much for self-denial if we really want something.

That would most def. be my DH!!!!!

DB I am tight wad, I try to save up and be cheap as I can. He blows money like it grows on trees.
My pet peev he never ever saves the recipts! Sorry had to let that out.

That would be me. I am horrible. If I have money in my account it's like I find things to buy. DH is pretty good about rationalizing his spending.

we both are. But we always make sure bills are paid & food is bought before we start buying BS

We are both good.
But put me in a kitchen, bead or yarn store and all bets are off.

I spend more over all but he buys the things he doesn't "need". Its not been a big issue lately though

Does anyone else have the problem of their SO not being able to stand seeing money in their account? My DH just can't function knowing that there's money out there that he could be spending!

I swear, you just described DF to a T.... he is the exact same way, and what he forgets is at the end of the month, there are bills and then he cant' figure out where the money is.... ugh!

DH is totally the big spender but then he freaks when theres no money.

DITTO DITTO DITTO!! Matt will get all kinds of stupid shit and then biotch and moan when there's no money and just freak the heck out. I have to sit him down and show him all his recipets. He doesn't seem to understnad how much the little things add up

My DH is the EXACT same way!:duh

Though, I will admit he has gotten a lot better over the past year since we got married! But he has had a few slip up in there. Drives me NUTS-O!!!

By far dh. Thats why I handle the finances

DH is totally the big spender but then he freaks when theres no money.

:lol df is same way too.

me:( but im really working on it :D and im doing SO much better

He is, but I have my moments too...

DB is definately the spender out of the pair. I was always very aware of how much money I have, and enjoyed the feeling of always knowing that I had money in my account. DB, however, can't seem to keep money in the bank. We've been working on it though, and I've been trying to show him different ways to think before he spends ("Do we really need this?") He's improved a lot, but still has some hitches now and then.

I used to be terrible. But now I'm the one that's responsible with money, whenever we have a few grand of free cash I'm always suggesting it go to his debts. I want so many things, but they won't disappear by the time I do have the chance to get them- so I wait. Dh, wants everything NOW!

Er like the bowflex :rolleyes

DH for sure. Lets see, 4 wheeler+trailer, motorcycle, truck, 50 million pocket knives (ok, maybe not that many), dvd's... the list goes on.

DH is definately quicker to go with name brands, to get too much of something, to order the most expensive thing on the menu, etc. He can go thru money really fast and sometimes really thoughtlessly.

In his defense, while I can save money, I have no interest or ability to invest it, and he's very very good at it. So we decided that I plan for the now and he plans for the future.

I honestly couldn't tell you. We both don't really spend a lot of money. I "spend" more than he does but that's simply because I do all of the grocery shopping, cleaning supplies shopping, etc.

DH spends money at the gas station for drinks and gas. He likes to get fast food and he eats at the Defact every morning. But it irritates me that when ever I have to go out and get something, he acts all pissy about it. The other day I had to go to Target to get some more Resolve and Dishwasher detergent, and he was like "All right...fine". And then he insisted we bring the cats with us in the car. I asked him if it was to make me shop faster in the store because I'd be worried about them...he said "No, but is it working?" :vent

So I guess I spend more money than he does, but I haven't gone shopping for myself in over 3 months. When I "indulge" it's usually at cold stone or a bag of jelly beans. :mumble <----- and that's what he does every time I say we need something like MILK, or groceries, or cleaning stuff, or cat food!!! Gah! It bugs the hell outta me!

We take turns.
So it is worked out where we always ask "permission" for spending joint money on non essentials. Usually when one wants to... the other is smart enough to explain no... or we can come to an agreement.

So far it is working great for us :D

We both suck but are working on improving together.
He spends a ton of money on food, and stuff he swears he NEEDS (a new hat, an iPod, ect).
I buy clothes and makeup and girly stuff- and I'm a brand name snob.

definetly DB. OMG the boy can spend all damn day if I let him. I let him have his account last month for June and out of $1200 only $150 went to bills AND $200 went to overdrafts because he hasn't learned to check his account and see what needs to come out yet, what is in there and what's due in the next couple weeks. The boy sees for now and no wonder we can't get ahead :duh

I honestly have not spent money on myself for a long time. I buy stuff for Austin but never me. My mom was just commenting about I have the same few things to wear I have had for months and that my hair isn't done(I used to wear all the latest clothing and I used to get my hair color and highlighted as well as cut every couple months) I just don't have the time and also I can't see spending money on things for me when Austin may need something or the bills need paid

DH is worse than me, but in general we don't really buy that many wants

i am the worst spender in the world. when dating someone I should really make sure they are a saver or I will be screwed.