this morning... and he's deployed... :sadeyes I don't really know what to do to try to help him. I hope he gets his mom's email that she sent him. It's just so sad that he won't be able to come home to say goodbye to her and be with his family during this time. I hope he opens up to me a bit and doesn't hold all his feelings in. :sadeyes Just a sad day.

She should Red Cross message him. They may be able to send him home for the funeral.

I am sorry for his loss.

I'm so sorry for his loss. She should send a Red Cross message if she doesn't hear anything from him. They can get a message to him much easier. They can make arrangements if he wants to come home as well.

Just be there for him. I'm sure he will really appreciate it.

I'm so sorry for his loss.. will you be attending services even if he can't make it back? I'm sure he'd appreciate that.

Depending on his command, and how close he was to his grandmother, they may or may not send him home, even with the Red Cross message. When G deployed in 2004, his grandfather died a few weeks after.. his mom contacted the red cross, and his command was willing to send him home because his grandparents practically raised him and his siblings. He opted not to return to the states because they only granted 7 days leave, and with 30 hrs. total travel time each way, he wouldn't have had much time. Plus our DD was only 3 weeks old.. he refused to come back to the states and not have time to see her.

His grandmother sent a DVD that the funeral home made... That might help him if he's not able to come home.

To send the Red Cross message, you'll need his full name, rank, SS#, ship's mailing address and Commander's Name I believe.