I know that it sounds horrible. I have just reached a point where I am not sure that I can do this (deployment) anymore. Esp when he is mean. I wrote thread about it the other day. I love him more than anything but I am just not understanding why he is being the way he is?? He's short, grumpy, and just plain mean when I do talk to him and the last time it was 22 days. I thought that he would be happy to talk to me. I have tried to talk to him about all of this... He just hasn't responded... I just don't know what to do. I used to write him every single night, but I haven't even felt the urge to... I just don't know what to do...

I know that I am a good girlfriend. I take care of our son, I have NEVER cheated on him. We have had problems before, mainly things that he has done, but I have forgiven him. I take care of our house and all of his things.. All I want is for him to just appreciate it. To appreciate the fact that I am at home every night instead of going out with friends, and the simple fact that I love him and miss him more than anything... Thats all.

:hugs I am sooo sorry that he is being such an asshole. You are a great person.

Thanks, I am just having a really bad day. Normally, after a day or so I just get over it and continue on my way... I am just tired of it all being about him. I love him but I don' even have time to go to the gas station without it being a big deal. And all I really want to hear from his mouth is that everything will be ok...

:hugs I completely understand not writing. I've stopped. He is shutting me out by not communicating with me and I am tired of it being a onesided effort. In my heart I know that I have done nothing wrong. This is his issue, his problem... not mine. Sometimes they just get overloaded and act like a$$es. I'm tired of reaching out for nothing. So I completely understand and it does NOT make you a bad girlfriend.

I completely understand you I am going through the same thing I feel that this is a one-sided effort he has been in port 3 days and I have only gotten 1 call really? I am thinking of just ending the whole thing, I can do deployment I just need some kind of support from him as well. The military should also give them courses in how to deal with their SO's while deployed, THAT WOULD BE GREAT!!!! Hang in there and do what you think is better for you and your son....

well see what happens if you continue to not write him. if he doesn't respond or care then i would leave him and then get child support from him. it should never be all about him. my husband may not be perfect but he doesn't try to control me or what i do. i tell him what i'm going to do and he trusts me to make the right decisions. i don't hear from him every day but i know i am loved and missed. if you are not getting that from him then maybe it's time to move on, honey. you are a beautiful girl and there are men out there that can give you the love and attention you need and deserve.

I agree with classes... Even his dad got upset with him for the way he was when he called... His dad never gets upset but I wouldn't want to get the letter he sent...

I know I have gone through this as well as countless girls on the board. You are not terrible for that. You can only give so much before you need something in return. You aren't a cactus that operates off of absolutely nothing!

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I'm so sorry to hear you guys so up :-( You are so strong and selfless and giving in committing to a man who's so far away so much of the time. I can't imagine how hard it must be to not get much, or anything, from him. Well screw them if they don't appreciate you, becuase girls like me DO. Supportive women like you allow our men to go and do their jobs to keep us safe. They may not appreciate you, and likely don't deserve you... and maybe you should even find better- becasue let me tell you, I'm amazed by so many of you woman on here, and if your men aren't AMAZED by you and SHOW you that, then they're crazy.

As sad as it is to say, I feel better that my guy isn't the only ass out there! Although I wish we all had sweet and wonderful guys that I sometimes read about on here!!!

You are a good girl friend. I'm sorry you are feeling this way but it is normal sometimes when you feel unappreciated. I hope he comes to his senses and tells you how amazing you are. :hugs