that doesnt competely hate this whole deployment thing? Dont get me wrong, I miss my baby a LOT and I would rather have him home anyday, but I guess I have found things to be easier. Let me explain before you think Im crazy, lol. He's navy so he's just out on the ship, not in any real danger and its only a 4 month deployment. Our only communication is through e-mails about once a day and one phone call a week. What I find to be easier is that I dont have to worry about figuring out when we can talk cuz our schedules clash or wondering where he is or what his stupid buddies have talked him into. We havent had a single fight or argument since he's been gone (besides the first call but that was his friends fault... ) I always know when he is gonna call and I can check my email whenever I have time. I feel almost as independent as I was before we got together. I mean the first week he had left was hell. I fell into a short depression, wouldnt come out of my room unless necessary, debating on going to work and hardly showerd. But as soon as I was over that things seem to be great. Ive planned when were gonna see each other next so now Im just counting down the days... anyone understand what im saying? or have a thought or opinion?

my husband is never home (DI), and im fine with it except i could use some more sex now and again.

It's easier cause i don't have to make dinner for him, or do half as much laundry.. or wonder what too expensive of an item he's dreaming of buying next.

i see my husband from 9 or 10pm-4am. our communication is text messaging and sometimes we talk about meaningful stuff when he's home but its mostly about our days.

my husband is never home (DI), and im fine with it except i could use some more sex now and again.

It's easier cause i don't have to make dinner for him, or do half as much laundry.. or wonder what too expensive of an item he's dreaming of buying next.

i see my husband from 9 or 10pm-4am. our communication is text messaging and sometimes we talk about meaningful stuff when he's home but its mostly about our days.

HAHA I definitely miss the sex! Im not ok with that part at all! lol. glad you understand though :)

i don't think it's the WORST thing ever because it gives us some time to catch up on ourselves. but i do have days where i want nothing more than to cuddle him and make out and :sex and hang out. sometimes i just pretend i'm single again (minus cheating on him) and do things i like to do that he hates.

im right there with you! mines is in the navy as well and his deployment was 4 months too i did just fine only communicating thru emails. i was only sad the first few days but after that i just did whatever. so i know where your coming from! only time i was really worried was when they hit port and i was only worried about how much he was goin to drink lmao. (:

i don't think it's the WORST thing ever because it gives us some time to catch up on ourselves. but i do have days where i want nothing more than to cuddle him and make out and :sex and hang out. sometimes i just pretend i'm single again (minus cheating on him) and do things i like to do that he hates.

:agree

I like to take this time to do stuff that I would do less of when he's around - spend time with my girlfriends, watch my tv shows (he doesnt understand America's Next Top Model), read more... I'm enjoying myself and it doesnt mean I miss him any less, I'm just living my life as best I can in the meantime

i guess im kinda like you. Dh has been deployed three times and through each of them ive held it together. I miss him like crazy, want him home asap, worry about where he is what hes doing, and when im gonna talk to him, but...i hold it tgether, i do stuff for me, i enjoy my independence. There were no days of wallowing in bed and crying non-stop. im not saying thats bad, it just didnt happen for me. I saw no point in it....you make the best of what you got, pray for you loved one and support him.
so no, youre not the only one lol.

I totally know what you mean. I like having time to do the things I want and live the way I want(watch what I want on tv, ie ANTM), not having to do twice as much laundry and such.However, for me it is cool for 4 mo or 6 mo., but after that it royally stinks. So being that we are doing a almost 15monther.... Ask me is 7 1/2 mo. if I still feel the same way.

awesome. now i dont feel as bad, lol.

I don't think you're the only one.

I think that all of us have times where being on our own is easier. Like grocery shopping or doing laundry.

There's tons of things that I do not miss. Like his hair from shaving on my bathroom counter.

At the end of the day though I think we still would prefer to have them home with us :D

I don't completely hate it. I know I can handle it. I get lonely every once in a while but I'm not miserable. Hubby is in a safe place, with good friends, and he calls me now more often. So it doesn't even feel like he is gone entirely.
not just that but a 4 month deployment kind of feels like its going by so fast.
I can't believe I'm already half way.

I know you are not the only one but I do hate them. I hate deployments, I hate not having my husband home, I hate not being able to talk with him everyday just normal as if he was home, I hate not knowing when will I hear his voice next, I hate not having his voice fresh in my memory, I hate waking up in the middle of the night after having a horrible nightmare and not having him there to hold me. I worry about if he is ok. I'm grateful for those emails cause every and each email confirm to me that he is ok. Now I know how to deal with deployments better and I know how to keep my self busy but that 1st deployment was like a big slap on my face.

I know you are not the only one but I do hate them. I hate deployments, I hate not having my husband home, I hate not being able to talk with him everyday just normal as if he was home, I hate not knowing when will I hear his voice next, I hate not having his voice fresh in my memory, I hate waking up in the middle of the night after having a horrible nightmare and not having him there to hold me. I worry about if he is ok. I'm grateful for those emails cause every and each email confirm to me that he is ok. Now I know how to deal with deployments better and I know how to keep my self busy but that 1st deployment was like a big slap on my face.

Oh I'm with you! Our first real deployment sucked sooo much! Our 3rd was 6 months long and although it sucked it really didn't seem as bad as that first 4 month one. I'm not looking forward to the next one but at least I know I deal with it better. :)

im okay with the deployments i never complain cause why complain when you can do anything about it so i :dunno im a very laid back person and i dont need him around im very independant. dont get me wrong i love my husband with everything i am but his job needs him more than i do. so i excpet he has to go away but its like i know ill see him again we always will no matter what.....

but i dont get phone calls, i just get the email every month or so and the oh so rare letter :lol but i know he misses me and loves me so i dont need anything to remind me that he is thinking of me cause i dont know i just feel it. if that sounds right lol

i guess im kinda like you. Dh has been deployed three times and through each of them ive held it together. I miss him like crazy, want him home asap, worry about where he is what hes doing, and when im gonna talk to him, but...i hold it together, i do stuff for me, i enjoy my independence. There were no days of wallowing in bed and crying non-stop. im not saying that's bad, it just didn't happen for me. I saw no point in it....you make the best of what you got, pray for you loved one and support him.
so no, you're not the only one lol.

:agree

I dont mind he is gone at all...I think it makes us apperciate eachother more this way...I mean every once and a while I'd like for someone else to mow the lawn or drop the kids off at daycare but in all its not bad...Your not alone.

For me, it doesn't suck because I am:
A) using this time to work out :exercise
B) PETRIFIED of intimacy! :lmao SO, I have time to avoid those deep, meaningful conversations and such!! LOL
C) LOVING sending and creating care packages
D) enjoying the drama of having a deployed SO :dramaqueen ... SUE ME! :hystericlaugh

My first deployment was really hard. This last one was difficult for other reasons but I don't find myself in utter dispair when he isn't around. You learn to cope and adapt. You have to or else you will be miserable A LOT.

I don't hate it because I knew it was coming soon :pukey


I do miss having my best bud around :(