But the connection died...again.

He said the sweetest things and said he promises to call me more on a regular phone (we only have been talking through internet on Skype) because the connection has been shitty lately. He said he missed me, loved me, wants to be with me, ect. Yet I still couldn't be happy. Like right after the connection died, I just start bawling :tears. How am I going to make it through this deployment? I feel like DH and I never talk anymore. Like all we ever have time to say is "I love you, miss you" then it dies. I want to tell him everything about my day, about my fears, my thoughts, ect. So I write him emails but he only has time to read them, not respond.

:gloomy

Also, I started smoking a little again. Which is terrible. Every time I'm massively depressed I start to smoke. It's just something I've been doing since I was 16 and I need to seriously stop. Someone tell me I'm stupid and I don't need cigarettes to make me feel better.

I wish DH was here just to tell me it will all be okay.

Eh, I smoke like a chimney. It's disgusting but it's how I cope.

I'm so glad you heard from him love!

we are all here to tell you it will be ok...soooooo

IT WILL BE OK sweetie...it really will...I promise

omg I now exactly what you mean! I've been dying to start smoking again but I know I cant or I wont go to the gym because I'll make the excuse that I can't breathe.
Hun please please please PM me. I know exactly how you are feeling down to the past week has been a bad week. I'm always here.

Hang in there AND STOP SMOKING BEFORE IT IS TOO MUCH OF A HABIT!

We're here for you.

JB

Hang in there AND STOP SMOKING BEFORE IT IS TOO MUCH OF A HABIT!

We're here for you.

JB

:agree

One way that I started to look at deployment was in terms of little victories: phone calls, emails, packages, etc. For example, we just had our final phone call before he returns (in 2+ months)... rather than focus on the last phone call part of it, I try to focus on the fact that it just means he's that much closer to coming home. Or, even if I miss his call (which trust me, brings me to tears every time), I try to keep in mind that now I have a message I can listen to any time I want to hear his voice. Does that make any sense?

:hugs You CAN and WILL get through this!!!!!

You need to have mini goals. For instance next month I am going to get a massage. You could get a haircut or something.

You WILL survivie this. We will all support you hon. :)

I am so glad that you got to hear from him!!

mini goals are a good thing. i think i'm going to start treating myself to something every month that passes and every 5 pounds i lose. you will be ok hon at least you get to hear that he loves and misses you, just remember those are the most important things to know IMO. also i wish i could say stop smoking but i haven't been able to myself. :depressed

But the connection died...again.

He said the sweetest things and said he promises to call me more on a regular phone (we only have been talking through internet on Skype) because the connection has been shitty lately. He said he missed me, loved me, wants to be with me, ect. Yet I still couldn't be happy. Like right after the connection died, I just start bawling :tears. How am I going to make it through this deployment? I feel like DH and I never talk anymore. Like all we ever have time to say is "I love you, miss you" then it dies. I want to tell him everything about my day, about my fears, my thoughts, ect. So I write him emails but he only has time to read them, not respond.

:gloomy

Also, I started smoking a little again. Which is terrible. Every time I'm massively depressed I start to smoke. It's just something I've been doing since I was 16 and I need to seriously stop. Someone tell me I'm stupid and I don't need cigarettes to make me feel better.

I wish DH was here just to tell me it will all be okay.

OOOOoooooooooooooooooooh...I'm so sorry! You know, I used to smoke and I really really liked it and turned to it for any emtion. Now, I go to sunflower seeds...don't know if you would even like them...just a thought.

I hope you feel better soon! I'm sorry honey! :(

I was one of the ones who stayed in bed and cried with you all day Monday. :unlove And I really, literally couldn't get out of bed. But I talked to db today also, and although I miss him just as much as I did on Monday, yesterday was a bit better and today is a bit better.

You are SO strong and SO SUPPORTIVE, and you are amazing! Therefore, even though your heart breaks, you will get through this for him! You are already doing it (although it may not feel or look pretty right now :hugehug) you are already doing it!

We both just made it through 2 more days- which IS an accomplishment cause 2 days soon turns into 2 more weeks, 2 more months, etc! :youroc

Hang in there!

Ugh, I hate disconnections - Ruins the whole call!

Thanks ladies, as the day went on I feel a bit better now. I still wish I would have gotten more than 2 minutes so I could have told him some important things I need to say. :hugs to all of us!

hang in there hun! you CAN do it! :hugs

I used to smoke and now whenever I get the urge I exercise. Plus if I ever picked it up again, DF would not be very happy with me. Hang in there! :hugs Deployments suck!

Girl STOP SMOKING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but everything will be ok!!! feel free to PM me anytime!!!!!!!! :)

"Just Say No" to smoking!! :giggle Hang in there girl you can do this. I absolutely hate disconnecting phone calls!! It happened to me today. That's why we say "I love you" first. Usually I try to say important things right away. Also, I write them in letters cause once dh gets it, he wants to call me and talk about it. Maybe you could do that? Just hang in there and NO SMOKING!! I quit on 06/11/2007 so I know how it feels.

you can do it girl!!

Stop the smoking. Its bad for you and i dont want you to make a habit out of it. (i just recently stopped smoking, so i know how it is)

When i don't get to talk long enough I will either write an email or letter. the other thing i do is start a book of my feelings and stuff during this deployment. its kinda like a journal that we'll read together when its all over.

I am sorry the call got dropped. :( I just came up with a great idea...start the calls off with I love you and miss you...then if it get dropped then the important stuff we girls need to hear was said right off :) Only not sure if the guys will go for it :)

Your stupid you don't need to smoke (you told me to tell you :) so I did ) You will make it though you'll be okay I PROMISE! We all are going through it too! So your not alone!

:agree

One way that I started to look at deployment was in terms of little victories: phone calls, emails, packages, etc. For example, we just had our final phone call before he returns (in 2+ months)... rather than focus on the last phone call part of it, I try to focus on the fact that it just means he's that much closer to coming home. Or, even if I miss his call (which trust me, brings me to tears every time), I try to keep in mind that now I have a message I can listen to any time I want to hear his voice. Does that make any sense?

:hugs You CAN and WILL get through this!!!!!
That's great advice
It really does work hun, just give it a try.
We can all do this together! Things will be okay! Your man loves you, and wants to be with you, and is doing his best. So don't give up for his sake.
We're here to keep them going. Trying this out will help you keep going.
ask him to write you letters.
Send him the stuff for it so he gets the hint just in case. I'm sure he won't mind.
I like that bold part I actually did that alot when he was at basic :lovestruck

Eh, I smoke like a chimney. It's disgusting but it's how I cope.

I'm so glad you heard from him love!

Hey Brit, I smoke too and I hate and it too is how I cope.Glad to see that I'm not the only one!!!!!!!!:pukey