i dunno whats wrong with me i dunno how i am gonna be able to do this... i keep asking myself if id be better off single.

Hang in there. The first few weeks are awful. But you will find your way. Have a little faith in yourself. You can do this. :hugehug

awww...sweetie...It is really really really tough that first week or so...but trust me it does get better with time!!!

You have to ask yourself if he is worth it...and if the answer is yes...then you can do ANYTHING...plus you have us here!!! If you need to talk you can PM me or IM on msn messenger ANYTIME!!

You can do this just hang in there. It's really rough now, but it does get better. We're here for ya. :hugs

so youre thinking about breaking up with him just to ease your pain?...im sure its hard for him too, hun. If he's honestly not worth the temporary heart-ache then go ahead. but i know that you can get through this! we've all done it! I promise you, it does get easier! the first month of the first deployment is THE WORST! we're all here for you :) :hugs

i dont wanna break up with him its just freakin hard right now

i dont wanna break up with him its just freakin hard right now

Hunny, That is how I was yesterday. I came here and I got so much help and support. Hang in there, the first few days are really rough. Then you get better and then you go back down. Its a horrible rollercoaster ride. Im trying to change my attitude about things and trying to find the positive out of everything, I did good today. But I would hope that I did good today because it was the first of many more to come. You will be able to do this. You can do anything you set your mind to. Cry....its ok. You feel better when you get it out. And TRUST me come here when you feel like you cant do it. You will get so much more inspiration, everyone here is great and so kind. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! :hug

:hugs It really is hard the first few weeks. I'm sure that he is going through a hard time missing you also. Hang in there.

I've felt like that recently, it's only been 10 days for me. Hang in there, WRITE to him! Seriously when that first contact comes around, it'll change all of this, I promise!!

There are funks you definitely have the first weeks, but they get further between as it goes on and you start to figure out your own schedule. :hugs

Sweetheart, this is your first day. You are going to feel like absolute poop. The first month is a struggle. You will develop a routine and when you hear his voice it will make this so much easier to take! :hugs

thanks for all your girls helps i am feeling a little better now i just hope i stay better for a little longer

I have been doing this for 3 months and the other night I totally felt the same way (it was one rough day) and I came on here and a buch of girls kicked my ass all over the place. And it was just what I needed ;) And yesterday and today I got my groove back :grin: I feel so much better with all this support and today I am making an awesome care package for my honey!

You will have those days, and like all the other girls have said, it is OK to cry and the first few weeks are the hardest, but you pull through and then you realize how strong your love is!

You CAN do this!!!! :hug

:hugs Hang in there!

:hugehug You just have to ask yourself whether you'd cry more if you ended it or if you waited it out. But do take into account the things the other girls have said. I remember being in your shoes not too long ago. I didn't see how it was possible and now I'm half-ish way through. It DOES get easier and there ARE still hard days sometimes..but that's what this site is for. :D Hang in there and PM me if you need to talk.

I remember the first couple days...I couldn't STOP falling apart!!...what you are going through is normal sweetie...it is...you can do this...just get through the first week and let both of you fall into a routine...routine makes it so much easier...

you can do this...im here to help...we all are

Stay strong and hang in there. You can do this. We all know how hard deployment is and we are all here for you. Once you hear from him and get into your own routine, it will get better. Do what you have to ie: cry, yell, stay in bed watching tear jerker movies, write him a letter or in a journal, whatever it takes. Just remember we are all here for you!!

it says he's only been gone for two days. if you start thinking that now then you will be thinking it more later and that's no bueno. if you truly love him, love can conquer anything. i wasn't a total wreck when mine left and the only reason is because i was a total wreck BEFORE he left, which actually made it harder on him but ANYWAYS... like everyone is saying hang in there. if you two have a good solid relationship that is worth keeping then hang on to it and don't let it fade away because you're scared. i have nightmares all the time about my hubby leaving me and though they suck i always wake up and think, he's still with me. thank God. that's how i know he's worth it, because of how much of a mess i would be without him. just take a chill pill, he'll be back before you know it. try to push him from your mind sometimes, whatever way you can do that. that may sound bad but it helps me not to constantly think of him. i know he wants me to stay strong and i'm proud to say i have only cried over him 2 times since he's been gone.

Writing in a journal and venting/whining on here really helped me get through the first couple weeks, now I've gotten into somewhat of a normal routine with work, the gym, going out with friends. Of course, wherever I go, my phone is attached to my hand, but that is also normal (or so I hear..)
You CAN do this. We will all get through our rough days and good days together. You can come on this site whenever, and you will never be alone. All the girls on here are amazing and everyone supports each other.
Just mope for now, it actually made me feel better. Then after a few days, I forced myself to go out and at first, it was hard, but it gets easier to start having fun again. It just takes a little time :)

i dunno whats wrong with me i dunno how i am gonna be able to do this... i keep asking myself if id be better off single.

you have to hang in there baby. It gets a little better. Soon it will be bearable. Be strong for the both of yall and you will get through this.

i dont wanna break up with him its just freakin hard right now
:hugs it is hard! but we're all here, and breaking up because you think you can't take it won't make things easier, if anything I think you'll have more heart ache, just because if you truly love him your heart will tell you so.
You aren't the only one, most of us have either finished a deployment, are going through one, or are about to start. You wouldn't be the first or the last one to go through all this.
We're all here for you!
:hugs

I am almost one month into my first deployment and it was really hard the first week or two but I promise it gets easier....just hang in there and try to keep yourself busy!

It gets better.. Hang in there!!