Poll incoming, but:

If someone calls your workplace claiming to be a friend, relative, or business partner of someone you work with, and asks for their last name, address, or phone number, is it ok to give it to them?

What about when someone logs on here and says, "Who on here has ever: Been divorced? Had an abortion? Known someoneone with an alcohol problem? Lives overseas? Lives at :specific base:?" Or anything else. Does it bother you when people say, "Oh I think :username: lives overseas" or "I think :username: has an uncle who went to rehab after a family intervention. Ask her."

I would take down their name and phone number and have them call you back. I NEVER give out that information. Not my business to.

Poll incoming, but:

If someone calls your workplace claiming to be a friend, relative, or business partner of someone you work with, and asks for their last name, address, or phone number, is it ok to give it to them?



nope never ever ever at my old job all our calls were recorded and had we done this the shit would have hit the fan
customers would constantly get upset because they would ask where they put the shipping address too and we would need them to proveide both possible addresses but it was our policy

If the person calling was really a friend, relative, etc., then they should already have the number. If not, then I take their name and number down and give it to my co-worker.

On these boards, I don't worry too much, because we're not listing first and last names. Now...if someone gives out personal info like that, then we have issues. LOL!

The world is a scary place and people are manipulative and deceptive . As far as I know a stalker could be wanting to know . Read too many stories of murders happening because someone was trying to hide and some one innocently gave out too much information ....extreme ...but who wants that on their conscience?

I would never give out someone elses personal information and would hope noone would do that to me. Who knows who the sycho person is.

Poll incoming, but:

If someone calls your workplace claiming to be a friend, relative, or business partner of someone you work with, and asks for their last name, address, or phone number, is it ok to give it to them?

What about when someone logs on here and says, "Who on here has ever: Been divorced? Had an abortion? Known someoneone with an alcohol problem? Lives overseas? Lives at :specific base:?" Or anything else. Does it bother you when people say, "Oh I think :username: lives overseas" or "I think :username: has an uncle who went to rehab after a family intervention. Ask her."
at work no, i would say i'll have them call you.
On here if they have already posted said info then its fair game. If it was given to me via PM then I don't say so and so lives here does this.
My feeling is if you put it out there by your own hand. Ie making a post about where you live or family troubles then you don't mind when people say that you are familiar with xyz.

i have a list of everyone who works in the building and unless they work directly with the person i won't even give out their work phone number. that is the only information i will give out. i would not want anyone giving out any of my information.

I dont mind giving out some of my information. Obviously Ill PM my mailing address instead of posting, that sort of things. And I try to not say other people business unless they are okay with it. But like BrittanyJo did the other night, she posted that someone should PM about Alaska and moving here since I lived here forever, totally cool with me, dont mind at all. I kinda figure if I have posted aobut it, then its free for other to use, if I dont want everyone to know it, I PM or dont say anything, this is the internet people, come on now.

Poll incoming, but:

If someone calls your workplace claiming to be a friend, relative, or business partner of someone you work with, and asks for their last name, address, or phone number, is it ok to give it to them?

What about when someone logs on here and says, "Who on here has ever: Been divorced? Had an abortion? Known someoneone with an alcohol problem? Lives overseas? Lives at :specific base:?" Or anything else. Does it bother you when people say, "Oh I think :username: lives overseas" or "I think :username: has an uncle who went to rehab after a family intervention. Ask her."

It can really depend on the situation. If someone posts online then it's okay to refer to it because they made it public. But in our office, unless the co-worker has okay'd you to give out other information, you can get into big trouble for it. As a general rule, I take the info from who ever comes in or calls and pass on the message if that person is not here.

at work no, i would say i'll have them call you.
On here if they have already posted said info then its fair game. If it was given to me via PM then I don't say so and so lives here does this.
My feeling is if you put it out there by your own hand. Ie making a post about where you live or family troubles then you don't mind when people say that you are familiar with xyz.

I agree. If you already put it on here, then if someone else mentions something you have already said, then it's fair game (so long as it's kept on here). If it is in a PM, then NO.

The world is a scary place and people are manipulative and deceptive . As far as I know a stalker could be wanting to know . Read too many stories of murders happening because someone was trying to hide and some one innocently gave out too much information ....extreme ...but who wants that on their conscience?

I'm the SAME way. Even on here, if someone says, "Who's in Minot?" I would rather be linked to the post and given the choice of whether I want to tell someone myself. Sure, they could search the posts for the word Minot, and not take long to get to me, but I'd rather that, than someone else giving out information I might want to keep to myself for as long as I can. Especially with such a small base, it's not hard to track someone down. It makes me nervous, lol.

I'm the SAME way. Even on here, if someone says, "Who's in Minot?" I would rather be linked to the post and given the choice of whether I want to tell someone myself. Sure, they could search the posts for the word Minot, and not take long to get to me, but I'd rather that, than someone else giving out information I might want to keep to myself for as long as I can. Especially with such a small base, it's not hard to track someone down. It makes me nervous, lol.
well if you don't want people to give out that info then don't post it. I don't have my location labled anywhere but people know where i am because i post in the G2G threads or location threads. If i didn't want people to know I wouldn't ever mention my location. For instance I don't know where eelo is because she has never ( that i have seen) mentioned i'm here in xyz.

no i would never give out no one elses info and i would hope no one would give out mine!

well if you don't want people to give out that info then don't post it. I don't have my location labled anywhere but people know where i am because i post in the G2G threads or location threads. If i didn't want people to know I wouldn't ever mention my location. For instance I don't know where eelo is because she has never ( that i have seen) mentioned i'm here in xyz.

I'm not going to go postal on people for saying it, I'd just prefer it otherwise. I'd like to at least know about it. I know what I'm doing when I post, it's just a matter of people actually giving out my information without letting me know, even if it's public access.

Just like if someone called work looking for my phone number, and someone gave it out saying, "Well I thought it would be ok, because it's in the phone book!!" It's still requiring more effort to go LOOK for it, than it is to be handed the info. Plus, for all anyone knows, I've moved to F.E. Warren since I last posted about being in Minot, so unless someone gives my info out, nobody knows it to be up to date.

When I used to work, I would not say "nope sorry can't give you so and so's last name" because what am I supposed to do? Sit there grilling the caller about why they are calling and looking for the last name? I didn't have time to do that when I worked in a company with over 1000 employees. The only thing I kept confidential unless I knew the caller was the cell phone numbers. Everythign else from work ext, to work email, to work address, and last name were given out as freely as the air we breathe.

As for when people ask "who's in such and such area" I don't care if someone says "yeah there are a ton of us, :blahblah :blahblah :blahblah" I put it out on the boards that Im in nightmare san diego. So it's free information to hand out.

If someone's asking for advice on divorce or a custody issue and someone else says "hey go PM Chevy_Gurl, she's been through it" :rolleyes Im not going to have a fit because I CHOOSE to put myself out there on the boards and people know I've been through it.

If you don't want people to know bout you then stop posting your personal information. :rolleyes it's really simple

For the stuff on the boards...if they've already posted about it then I don't see the problem about saying suchandsuch does that; pm them and ask questions.

You don't give out info about people at work though. Many businesses have things against that.

1st Q: I would NEVER give out that kind of information because that info could lead to identity theft among other things.

2nd Q: It just depends how personal it is. I have a couple of friends on here that I have said, hey "so and so has a DB at the same location, you should talk to her." But this is after I have good judgement of the person, but definitely not right off the bat.

Scenario 1 - if they are such a good friend they would HAVE that information rather than needing to ask for it from a random co-worker of the person. As was poitned out - take down the caller's info and pass it on to the co-worker in question so they can decide whether they want that person to have the information or not. Not long after DH and I had married and moved to NC my ex-husband contacted my former employer (he was unaware I had moved/left the company) asking for me. My co-workers there had my information but weren't about to pass it out to some random guy calling claiming to be my husband (yes, he forgot the "ex" part and they knew I was married to DH so that made his whole call seem fishy). She took HIS info and then called me with it so I could decide if I wanted him to be able to contact me or not.

Scenario 2 - if the other person had made it public knowledge (ie by posting about it previously, etc) I don't have an issue with them being referenced. However, if I am aware of that person's "history" via private conversation, that's not up for sharing. I would contact :username, tell them about the post/poster and leave it to them to decide if they want to discuss it with the person or not.

Scenario 2 - if the other person had made it public knowledge (ie by posting about it previously, etc) I don't have an issue with them being referenced. However, if I am aware of that person's "history" via private conversation, that's not up for sharing. I would contact :username, tell them about the post/poster and leave it to them to decide if they want to discuss it with the person or not.

I do that a lot. Especially if I know someone's going through a similar situation at that time. That way, it's up to them whether to contact the other person.

i have a list of everyone who works in the building and unless they work directly with the person i won't even give out their work phone number. that is the only information i will give out. i would not want anyone giving out any of my information.
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