I feel very strongly about this, so it's hard for me to see the other side...

Can someone who is against(would NOT want your organs or those of your children or spouse to be donated)explain to me, why?


Religious reasons aside, please....that is a whole different box of cookies, and I would never want to debate the value of someone's religion.

TIA.

nope I cannot. I always been VERY curious to know why myself.
I do know that there are religious reasons

I can't justify it. I want everything that can be taken to be taken... and if I die from some disease that prevents my organs being harvested, I want my body donated to research.

I should edit the OP for that...thanks, Berk:tu

i am all for organ donation & i am a donor.

but some people believe that in a hospital, life or death situation, they are more likely to save the person who is not an organ donor because they want the donor's organs. load BS if you ask me. but that's what i've heard.

I want mine donated if there is nothing that can be done.

The one thing though that I would be weird about though is donating my eyes. I'm just weird about that.

I want to be cremated, so by all means, if you can salvage my organs and put them to good use, do that before they get toasted.

i am all for organ donation & i am a donor.

but some people believe that in a hospital, life or death situation, they are more likely to save the person who is not an organ donor because they want the donor's organs. load BS if you ask me. but that's what i've heard.

I've heard that too. I'm with you Loretta, I am curious to know reasons (other than religion) why not to donate. Not to threadjack, but did you know that in IN, even if you have a living will, ANY family member can override your donation decision?? I told my mom(she lives in IN) NEVER to do that to me.

I would be one if I could but medical reasons do not allow me to be.

is it true that if you're in a pretty bad car accident and the medics look at your ID, that if they see you are a donor they won't recessitate (sp) you? It's probably a lie, myth, whatever.. I was just wondering because I've heard it.

Edit:: I didnt notice that this was already discussed

It's a total lie....myth, rumor, whatever.

My dad's organs and tissue helped over 35 people. I know a 16 year old girl got one of his lungs. :wub

I'm all for it. I really want mine donated but my husband gets so angry when we talk about it. He feels that if it says you are a doner that the doctors wont work as hard to save you if you are near death. That is just what he has told me... I don't know that would ever happen but you never know. My name is still on the organ donation list though.

I'm completely for it. I'm not going to have any use for them when I'm gone so by all means put them to use for someone who NEEDS them :yes

is it true that if you're in a pretty bad car accident and the medics look at your ID, that if they see you are a donor they won't recessitate (sp) you? It's probably a lie, myth, whatever.. I was just wondering because I've heard it.

Edit:: I didnt notice that this was already discussed

They would, simply because you have to be alive in order for your organs to remain alive. If there is no hope in saving your life, they would probably induce a medical coma until they can harvest the organs.

All of me every last scrap they can take will be donated

My dad's organs and tissue helped over 35 people. I know a 16 year old girl got one of his lungs. :wub

That's the reason why I want to donate my organs. I want someone to have the chance at a fulfilling life.

i am all for it...they can take anything they want from me...I would love to know that I saved someone elses life

I'm all for it do what you want with me after I die what do I care. :shrug I think the only reason I wouldn't want my body to be used (organs take em all) is because I want to be cremated and have my ashes either saved by a loved one or scattered in different places. Again though I'm dead so eh.

I'm an organ donor. I would want someone to help my loved ones...so of course I'm going to do the same.

I see that most people are saying they would donate everything. I myself have not indicated on my drivers license that I will donate my organs. I do have a living will however that my parents have in a fire safe box that explains EVERYTHING that I want to be done....in case of the worst.

I think tv dramas have helped perpetuate the myth that if you're a donor they won't fight to save you.

I'm all for it do what you want with me after I die what do I care. :shrug I think the only reason I wouldn't want my body to be used (organs take em all) is because I want to be cremated and have my ashes either saved by a loved one or scattered in different places. Again though I'm dead so eh.

My dad donated everything they would take and there was still enough of him to fill up a big container with ashes.:giggle Trust me, there will be enough left to scatter, I bet!

is it true that if you're in a pretty bad car accident and the medics look at your ID, that if they see you are a donor they won't recessitate (sp) you? It's probably a lie, myth, whatever.. I was just wondering because I've heard it.

Edit:: I didnt notice that this was already discussed

If anything they will work harder to sustain you (at least mechanically) becasue many of your organs need to remain profused by active circulation in order to maintain their usefulness for transplant. Because of that, simply letting you pass away would be counterproductive. The optimal situation is for your body to have respiration and circulation maintained in a controlled setting (on machines) to give them time to find proper matches and most closely coordinate the various teams from multiple locations BEFORE they harvest the organs because there is a very limited shelf life on each type of organ.

I AM an organ donor BUT in doing so it means I can not have a full Jewish burial as it goes against Jewish beliefs for a kosher burial. Which sort of makes me sad if they chop up my body for parts then it means I can not be ritually cleansed and that sounds like it would be nice to have my body lovingly cared for like that. :(

http://www.snopes.com/medical/emergent/donor.asp

If I'm toast, seriously, have at me. That being said, my husband is hesitant. Maybe because his perception of being dead is much more realistic than me and it just freaks him out, I don't know. It kills me (no pun intended) that he wouldn't donate but I'm working on him.

So no one so far has come here to explain why they are not organ donors. I know ther are a few here because I have seen them in past posts about this.
I am an organ donor and everyone in my family knows and it's in my will as well as on my DL and MIL ID.
There was somethig awhile back in the news how some people want everybody to automatically be organ donors unless otherwise stated. I know a lot of peole have a problem with this but I don't. Once your dead your body is of no use to you. You are not your body, this is just an earthly vehicle for your soul/spirit. Why not let someone else have a chance when your time is up?

They can have every part of me, but I do not want them to take my corneas.

I'm an organ donor but just as I believe a woman has the right to choose what she can do with her body even if I don't agree with those choices, so can every other human being regarding their body and organs before and after death. :dunno So the explanation doesn't really matter to me. Does it sadden me that more organs could be harvested and save lives, yes. But it's not my business.

They can have every part of me, but I do not want them to take my corneas.

Why?

Why?

Because if she is being buried she may want an open casket.

So no one so far has come here to explain why they are not organ donors. I know ther are a few here because I have seen them in past posts about this.
I am an organ donor and everyone in my family knows and it's in my will as well as on my DL and MIL ID.
There was somethig awhile back in the news how some people want everybody to automatically be organ donors unless otherwise stated. I know a lot of peole have a problem with this but I don't. Once your dead your body is of no use to you. You are not your body, this is just an earthly vehicle for your soul/spirit. Why not let someone else have a chance when your time is up?

I have agreed to donate my major organs like my heart, kidneys, pancreas, lungs, and liver but I don't want my tissues donated. It's just my choice, I don't exactly have an explanation. I just don't want to.

Why?

Maybe she just watched "The Eye"? Chelsea saw that and was so scared she puked in her sleep from a nightmare. :ohno

Looks like I'm the only one. They can do whatever they choose to with almost all of my body parts....except my eyes. For some reason, the idea of someone having my eyes (or parts of my eyes) skeeves me out to no end. Take my heart, my brain, my liver, I don't care. My eyes will be cremated with me.

Maybe she just watched "The Eye"? Chelsea saw that and was so scared she puked in her sleep from a nightmare. :ohno

:rofl I watched that last night!!!!!! I jumped like 5 times! It was horrible tho. Dumbest movie ever...LOL

They can have every part of me, but I do not want them to take my corneas.

I can understand that as I feel the same way. I think your eyes are windows to your soul. No two people have the same eyes... no matter what color or size. They are incredibly individual.

No, I've never seen "The Eye". And yes, I want to be buried, and yes I want an open casket, and no I don't want my family to see me without my eyes. And besides that, it's something that I can't explain. It's just something I feel deeply about.

I can understand that as I feel the same way. I think your eyes are windows to your soul. No two people have the same eyes... no matter what color or size. They are incredibly individual.

Yep.

they can have all of me. i don't care for any of it...whatever can be used, so be it!

This is why I am no longer a donor (first couple things I could find to back my choice, might have time later to find more):

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/03/17/AR2007031700963_pf.html

http://www.ahrp.org/cms/content/view/501/80/

I currently work on a Kidney Transplant Unit and see daily the miracle organ transplantation brings to families....ITS AMAZING being able to see a dad finally get to do the small things such as go on vacation for the first time in years and not have to worry about dialysis every other day...just little simple things we soooo take for granted!!! The question did spark my interest and I only found this one article about the topic......

"People have different reasons for deciding not to donate. The Gypsies for example are against organ donation. The Gypsies beliefs are tied in with their idea of after-life. The Gypsies believe that for one year after a person dies, the soul retraces it steps and the entire body must be intact as the should maintains its physical shape. Another reason why people don’t donate is that they believe that it will bring about more sorrow to their families or relatives knowing that you are opening and removing organs and giving them to another individual. A lot of other issues deal with that most people who are eligible to be organ donors are usually people who have suffered a traumatic or sudden death. The majority of donors are from young people who were in some sort of accident and have died, but can still provide critical organs for transplantation. Families really need to consider the effects of organ donation and how it can benefit the lives of so many people. This is just a hard task to accomplish as the family is in to deep of a sorrow process or they are still in shock with the sudden death."

I can understand that as I feel the same way. I think your eyes are windows to your soul. No two people have the same eyes... no matter what color or size. They are incredibly individual.

Yep.

That and how weird would it be for one of your family members one day to see someone walking around and look at them and see your eyes. I for one would be SO FREAKED if Vinny died and donated his eyes and I was out somewhere 4-5 years down the road and ran into a guy and looked at him and saw Vinny's eyes. I love his eyes and would recognize them anywhere. That would be very difficult for me.

Looks like I'm the only one. They can do whatever they choose to with almost all of my body parts....except my eyes. For some reason, the idea of someone having my eyes (or parts of my eyes) skeeves me out to no end. Take my heart, my brain, my liver, I don't care. My eyes will be cremated with me.

Ditto :D

Even though I don't relieve believe in life after death, I like to think IF it did exist I would need my eyes. :giggle Sounds dumb I know, but oh well.

i would probably be on a red-eye flight to give my mom a kidney, or a lung once they stop working from her abuse of alcohol and tobacco over her 30+ years of doing so. I'm not against it. I'm just afraid of what those articles are saying. I'd hope that doctors are a little smarter than that though.

A lot of people don't donate because they don't even like thinking about death and the things that come with it. "I don't want to think about it." type of mindset.

This is why I am no longer a donor (first couple things I could find to back my choice, might have time later to find more):

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/03/17/AR2007031700963_pf.html

http://www.ahrp.org/cms/content/view/501/80/

Doesn't change my mind a bit:shrug

If I'm bed-bound and unconscious, and my best possible outcome is death...they are more than welcome to "hasten" it all they want:tu

If I'm bed-bound and unconscious, and my best possible outcome is death...they are more than welcome to "hasten" it all they want:tu

I agree. If I'm that bad off, and minutes from dying anyways why not take the organs then so there's a better chance of them being functional in somebody else? I don't believe souls exist through eyes and I think thats a huge reason why people don't wouldn't want to donate their eyes. If they do, then that sucks because I wouldn't mind having my eyes taken.

Doesn't change my mind a bit:shrug

If I'm bed-bound and unconscious, and my best possible outcome is death...they are more than welcome to "hasten" it all they want:tu

I understand your position, I used to be a donor until I did more research and thought about it for a while. Now, though I feel differently. Not trying to change your mind, just giving you the opportunity to understand the reason I changed mine, as you asked in your OP. :)
I feel very strongly about this, so it's hard for me to see the other side...

Can someone who is against(would NOT want your organs or those of your children or spouse to be donated)explain to me, why?

Religious reasons aside, please....that is a whole different box of cookies, and I would never want to debate the value of someone's religion.

TIA.

Indeed. Thanks, Schaele:yes

LORETTA CLEAR OUT YOUR PM BOX!!!!!!! Please

I am not an organ donor. I don't have to explain to anyone why I'm not. It's a personal decision I have made :)

Well the X was firmly against organ donation (to the point that he told me that even if I had "organ donor" on my card, he would refuse to donate MY organs because they need family approval or whatever). His reasoning: if you donate your organs and you are reincarnated, something will be wrong with your new parts that you donated in your past life. Like if you donated your corneas, you'd probably be blind in your next life.


As for me, can't take anything with me when I go, so I am more than happy to donate whatever anyone needs. And I had an uncle with severe diabetes who got another 5 years of life because of a kidney transplant (he died a couple of years ago from the diabetes) that he wouldn't have had otherwise.

I am not an organ donor. I don't have to explain to anyone why I'm not. It's a personal decision I have made :)

Then why respond to the thread?

Then why respond to the thread?

'cause she wanted too?

Then why respond to the thread?

To point out how nosy my question was, maybe... Though I wouldn't be bothered by that at all, I know it's a personal inquiry. :yes

I am not an organ donor. I don't have to explain to anyone why I'm not. It's a personal decision I have made :)

Well of course you don't but why answer the thread and say you won't..LOL Now I'm just more curious

'cause she wanted too?

I'm just curious because it didn't answer the question. Why answer the question just to say you don't want to answer the question.

I'm just curious because it didn't answer the question. Why answer the question just to say you don't want to answer the question.

b/c you want people to know that you answered the question to say you weren't going to answer the question that people asked you to answer :rofl
Sorry had to! I have to do that when I get the opportunity!

b/c you want people to know that you answered the question to say you weren't going to answer the question that people asked you to answer :rofl
Sorry had to! I have to do that when I get the opportunity!

That just made my brain hurt :puzz :lol But I totally understood it.

I'm just curious because it didn't answer the question. Why answer the question just to say you don't want to answer the question.

Why do you care how others answer a thread YOU didn't post? :puzz

:poopstir

I'm not going to explain why I'm not a donor b/c I will be bashed and don't say I wont b/c it's a lie

She did answer the question.

It's an instnsly personal question and maybe she doesn't know why she isn't, maybe she doesn't want YOU to know why she isn't, maybe she just wanted people to know that there are people out there that are not organ donors and it doesn't mean that they are bad people, they have just made a different choice than you have.

I'm not a donor, for a lot of really personal reasons (and religious), and the fact that they most likely would not be able to use 99% of my organs. But at the same time, I wouldn't be able to accept an organ from someone. I feel if I can't donate mine, I don't deserve to receive them.

I think Jess explained why she doesn't want to answer fully. She said it is a personal decision for herself that she chooses not to share with people. She is allowed to answer the question in however she sees fit. To jump her for it is childish. Don't like her answer just keep reading till you get to a better answer that allows for a better debate, rather then sitting there and making up reasons why she didn't. :rolleyes

I am a donor, but I can understand why others choose not to. I may not agree with their decisions but I respect their decision.

I wouldn't bash you or lie to you, Jess, I was just curious(hence posting the thread)about the topic, I'm sure plenty of others will post:hugs

That just made my brain hurt :puzz :lol But I totally understood it.

LOL

I'm not going to explain why I'm not a donor b/c I will be bashed and don't say I wont b/c it's a lie
I personally wouldn't bash you but as I said of course you don't have to explain why.

I think Jess explained why she doesn't want to answer fully. She said it is a personal decision for herself that she chooses not to share with people. She is allowed to answer the question in however she sees fit. To jump her for it is childish. Don't like her answer just keep reading till you get to a better answer that allows for a better debate, rather then sitting there and making up reasons why she didn't. :rolleyes

I am a donor, but I can understand why others choose not to. I may not agree with their decisions but I respect their decision.

My gosh!! WTH She asked one simple question!! Noone is jumping anyone! Right now JP is NOT the one shit stirring!

You might not bash her, Loretta, but others already are, just because she said she has personal reasons.
I think she answered the question. So its not the answer ya'll were hoping for....who cares? She answered it fully in my opinion.

Given the reaction of some to Jess' response I can understand her not wanting to expand on her answer :dunno

You might not bash her, Loretta, but others already are, just because she said she has personal reasons.
I think she answered the question. So its not the answer ya'll were hoping for....who cares? She answered it fully in my opinion.

Am I missing a post here?? All Joy said was why did you answer to say you didn't want to answer. I agreed. I wasn't bashing her? I was just curious. And AS I SAID of course she didn't have to answer.

Am I missing a post here?? All Joy said was why did you answer to say you didn't want to answer. I agreed. I wasn't bashing her? I was just curious. And AS I SAID of course she didn't have to answer.

I dont see any bashing going on. And I DID post something, and a little bit of an explanation, and no response. :( :sadeyes

Well... I will be a donor considering I'm dead, who cares. Cut me up, dole me out. Those that reap the benefits of organs I haven't screwed up yet... so be it. Good for me. :D

I am a registered organ donor. I think it's a very personal decision and nobody has a right to pass judgement on anyone who is not comfortable with organ donation. It's really not my business why someone wouldn't want to.....It's their decision, just like donating blood. I donate blood when I can, but never would chastise someone who decides not to. I would let that person know why I do.

I am a registered organ donor. I think it's a very personal decision and nobody has a right to pass judgement on anyone who is not comfortable with organ donation. It's really not my business why someone wouldn't want to.....It's their decision, just like donating blood. I donate blood when I can, but never would chastise someone who decides not to. I would let that person know why I do.

I agree. I cant donate blood either, although that is one thing I would do if I could. I get very sick if I donate blood, and I pass out every time, no matter what.

Then why respond to the thread?

Because it's her right to respond that she won't but not have to explain her actions. Just like it's someones right to abort and not explain their actions, it's her body, dead or alive. JMO

'cause she wanted too?

:dunno I'm not her :giggle

To point out how nosy my question was, maybe... Though I wouldn't be bothered by that at all, I know it's a personal inquiry. :yes

I don't think she was doing that really :puzz Unless I missed some undercurrent. Am I missing something?

is it true that if you're in a pretty bad car accident and the medics look at your ID, that if they see you are a donor they won't recessitate (sp) you? It's probably a lie, myth, whatever.. I was just wondering because I've heard it.

Edit:: I didnt notice that this was already discussed

not necessarily true, but it does happen. it may be for personal reasons. maybe they havea cousin on the kidney donor list and this could put them one more sopt closer to getting one. But being in that profession I's like to think that medics do everything they can to save the life.


That being said, I used to be against being an organ donor. I was uper selfish and thought that if hey did that, I wouldnt be myself and my family would recognize me at my wake...... Thankfully I have come to my senses and hope that someday I may be able to save a few more lives when mine ends

I don't think she was doing that really :puzz Unless I missed some undercurrent. Am I missing something?

I don't think so either...I was just taking a wild stab in the dark :lol Wouldn't bother me a bit if she was, though, because I did ask a pretty nosy questron!

not necessarily true, but it does happen. it may be for personal reasons. maybe they havea cousin on the kidney donor list and this could put them one more sopt closer to getting one. But being in that profession I's like to think that medics do everything they can to save the life.


That being said, I used to be against being an organ donor. I was uper selfish and thought that if hey did that, I wouldnt be myself and my family would recognize me at my wake...... Thankfully I have come to my senses and hope that someday I may be able to save a few more lives when mine ends

Just wondering if you think that all people that are NOT organ donors are selfish, or if you just were saying that you were selfish at the time and after some self realisation you decided to donate. Just curious...

The reason I said I wasn't and left it at that is b/c I wanted people to know not everyone is a donor. In threads like this, I feel some people put what everyone else is putting for the sake of not being diffrent. KWIM? So I was just putting it out there, that I was telling the truth and wasn't affraid to be diffrent. I'm acually not 100% on what I want to do. So for now I'm not a donor, I never said that wouldn't change. I just have my own reason why I'm not at this time.

Just wondering if you think that all people that are NOT organ donors are selfish, or if you just were saying that you were selfish at the time and after some self realisation you decided to donate. Just curious...

I was wondering the same.. because I'd hate to think that people think it's selfish for a person to want to keep their body intact. It's THEIR body, it's the one thing that is theirs & only theirs.. it shouldn't be considered selfish at all if they don't want to donate. It shouldn't be looked down upon either.

I was wondering the same.. because I'd hate to think that people think it's selfish for a person to want to keep their body intact. It's THEIR body, it's the one thing that is theirs & only theirs.. it shouldn't be considered selfish at all if they don't want to donate. It shouldn't be looked down upon either.

:yes I agree.

Why do you care how others answer a thread YOU didn't post? :puzz

:poopstir
:rolleyes

I'm not going to explain why I'm not a donor b/c I will be bashed and don't say I wont b/c it's a lie

You might not bash her, Loretta, but others already are, just because she said she has personal reasons.
I think she answered the question. So its not the answer ya'll were hoping for....who cares? She answered it fully in my opinion.

I was just asking why bother? No one would have pm'ed her and asked why haven't you posted in this thread. Didn't realize it was going to light a powderkeg.

The reason I said I wasn't and left it at that is b/c I wanted people to know not everyone is a donor. In threads like this, I feel some people put what everyone else is putting for the sake of not being diffrent. KWIM? So I was just putting it out there, that I was telling the truth and wasn't affraid to be diffrent. I'm acually not 100% on what I want to do. So for now I'm not a donor, I never said that wouldn't change. I just have my own reason why I'm not at this time.

That's more than fine. I wasn't saying that you not being a donor wasn't "okay". The above reply answers my question. Especially the bolded.

Quoting everything you've said on this thread.....

I think tv dramas have helped perpetuate the myth that if you're a donor they won't fight to save you.

Why?

Then why respond to the thread?

You haven't answered the question....why are you responding to the thread?

I'm just curious because it didn't answer the question. Why answer the question just to say you don't want to answer the question.

You're here, posting away too...

:rolleyes





I was just asking why bother? No one would have pm'ed her and asked why haven't you posted in this thread. Didn't realize it was going to light a powderkeg.

That's more than fine. I wasn't saying that you not being a donor wasn't "okay". The above reply answers my question. Especially the bolded.

OMG :threadjacked:offtopic

I don't think anyone meant ANYTHING ill by what they posted, let's cut out the witchhunting now, kay?

I don't think anyone meant ANYTHING ill by what they posted, let's cut out the witchhunting now, kay?

:agree

OMG :threadjacked:offtopic

Could not agree more.


Btw, I can't answer the question because I am in fact an organ donor.

I'm not an organ donor and never have been. For some reason something keeps me from committing to be one. I have a few theories as to why I may feel that way but have never fully understood why I just cannot go through. I have A LOT of off the wall feelings on things (life in general) and am a little wacky too so no one would probably understand MY reasons in the end anyway. BTW my feelings have nothing to do with them possibly not saving me in an accident.

I'm also agnostic, so it's not a religious thing with me ....sometimes I wish it were, they seem to get an easy out and no "why not" glares.

I am an organ donor. I would most definetly donate every organ in my body. Eyes especially just because my son is blind. My dh however thinks donation is wrong. He wants all his parts when he leaves this world. I dont know why but its his decision.

I'm a donor, so is DH, I figure i'm gone anyway might as well help someone else live.

im a donor!!!!!!!!!!

I would love to say that I am... but for some reason, something keeps me from saying that. Do I know why? No. I'm not sure I will need anything, nor would I want anything...and I'm not sure I want an open casket...

I think it's just that I have a hard time thinking about my own death and I would rather just leave those kinds of decisions to my family members. And if, for some reason, I should die quickly...I don't know.

I just don't know.

All of Me
~ Louis Armstrong
Duke Ellington video
Video

You took my kisses and all my love
You taught me how to care
Am I to be just remnant of a one-sided love affair

All you took I gladly gave
There is nothing left for me to save

All of me
Why not take all of me
Can't you see
I'm no good without you
Take my lips
I want to lose them
Take my arms
I'll never use them
Your goodbye left me with eyes that cry
How can I go on dear, without you
You took the part that once was my heart
So why not take all of me

For the longest time I was not an organ donor. Something about that scared me. I am not really sure what. Mostly I think death scares me and I didnt want to think about it and such.

As I got older my decision changed and I am now an organ donor. I have it on my MIL id and my DL. I am also on the national bone marrow donation list etc. I have never donated blood and cant right now because I just got a tattoo and it has to be 12 months I think since recieving one (i read that when I was gonna donate for the fist time)

I think whether you do or you do not is a very personal decision between someone and their family.

All of Me
~ Louis Armstrong
Duke Ellington video
Video

You took my kisses and all my love
You taught me how to care
Am I to be just remnant of a one-sided love affair

All you took I gladly gave
There is nothing left for me to save

All of me
Why not take all of me
Can't you see
I'm no good without you
Take my lips
I want to lose them
Take my arms
I'll never use them
Your goodbye left me with eyes that cry
How can I go on dear, without you
You took the part that once was my heart
So why not take all of me


is it strange that this post made me tear up?
Probably didn't help that 'everything' by lifehouse was playing as I read it...

Anyway, I'm a donor... purely for the reason that I don't have a reason NOT to be one (for me personally, not in general) I don't believe I will need any part of my body once I die... and although I full believe in the possibility of reincarnation, I believe that only the soul is reincarnated, you get a brand new body FOR the soul. And if I am not reincarnated, it is still only my soul that moves on... all my organs are purely to keep the body holding my soul alive so that my soul can be seen by others.

I don't know about what kind of funeral I want either... I've considered being cremated.... I don't feel I need any part of my body for a funeral because of that. I personally find open casket funerals creepy so I doubt I'd ever want that. especially if little children were to be in attendance. I remember all to well how it felt looking at my uncle when I was four. I wasnt SCARED... but it just felt too wrong. I kept waiting for him to sit up and go 'just kidding!' It unnerved me as a child that the man I had played with not too long ago was never going to smile at me again.

I simply can't find a reason for ME to not donate as much of me as anyone will need. I'd even be willing to flat out donate my (what is left of my) body to science as well if any part of it were needed/wanted after my organs have been taken to help others live.

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If my kids DECIDE they want to donate - they can (decide that at any age, too)
But I'm not going to decide that FOR them if I'm faced with the horrible tragedy of them dying.
To me - if it hasn't been agreed on ahead of time - no one should make the choice for you after you're gone - which is why it's *important* to know your children's wishes and your spouses, family's, etc.

And, though I know the time is of the utmost importance - I find it to be highly disrespectful and rude, in fact, for a Dr. to want someone who's JUST lost their child to make such a quick decision when they've, yet, to come to terms with their own loss.
If I was in such a situation the last thing I'd care about is anyone else's child - living, dying, etc. I don't see how anyone who's grief-stricken can make that decision with a clear conscience and fully think it through.

So - though I've never been in the possition to think about it and never want to be. If I know myself well enough I can say that if I *was* presented with the horrible tragedy of my child's death and someone asked me right then and there if I would consider donating I would get infuriated, insulted and I think I'd be too fucked in the head over EVERYTHING to make a decision and so - when in doubt - I always say no.
However - a small part in me after that initial reaction would want to know more about the child in question - what's their story and would it truly help, etc...I might say yes. Humor me if you're asking me to allow you to remove my child's organs for the sake of some kid I'll never know.

Which is why I feel it's up to the individual - and I, also, feel that someone has their perfect right to want certain things without getting grief over it and without having to be burdoned with guilt trips because of it.

I can't tell you why. I have already decided that I am going to donate my organs. So I don't know what to say.

I am not because I want my parents to make that decision should I die when I am still living with them.

My sister was not either and they were kind of hounded about it at the hospital before she had really died :tears

I just don't care either way, if I can save a life after I die and it won't be too painful for my parents, then I say go for it. But I will be gone, so I want the decision made by my parents. And they know that/have that written.