On your baby shower invatation have you ever put.. bring a pack of diapers and then your name will be put in a raffel and you will win a prize??? I am hosting a baby shower for my friend and she put that on her's..?? We already gave them out but I am still a little shocked that she would do that?? Have any one of you ever done that or been invited to a baby shower where they did that?? I have never heard of someone doing that.. I mean you are buying a gift and bringing a pack of diapers.. that's seems a little much to me.. ??? I really dont think it should be all about the gifts it's about the new miracle..!!BTW.. this is just my opinion, so no one get mad at me please. :)

That's tacky, in my opinion.

That's tacky, in my opinion.

I agree!

My friend had a baby shower and they asked everyone to bring a thing of diapers and a small gift. I dont know.. I guess whatever works for you.

I think it's rude to "ask" for anything. A gift is called a gift because someone was thoughtful and wanted to do something nice. It takes all the fun out of it when you are asked to bring something... that makes it a request or a requirement... Not to mention, if 15 people bring size 1 diapers, she is going to have 9 packs left over with no way to return them.

I don't know, I just personally would NEVER do something like that.

Yea I wouldnt ask them to bring something that's rude. If they bring it on their own great but dont ask for it. :dunno

I have received several invitations with that on there......I agree it is over the top.

On any Baby shower I have given....I would not put that on there.....there are several games to be played that don't require someone to bring diapers.

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Personally I like to receive invations that are "THEMED"....such as TIME OF DAY SHOWER.....that really helps if you don't know the person TOO well.

Yes, I agree with Trey--tacky to me.

Extremely rude. Just like sending a list of places ur registered at or asking for monetary "donations/contributions" instead of gifts sent in wedding (or baby shower) invitations. Very bad manners.

I've seen this over and over in advice columns in newspapers, and all the etiquette experts agree: it is in poor taste to tell people they must bring you a gift and/or what to bring (including registry lists).

i've never gotten an invitation like that. it is rude to tell people what to give you.

i have no problem if they say they specifically need items but to tell guests what to bring is rude.

I think it's rude to "ask" for anything. A gift is called a gift because someone was thoughtful and wanted to do something nice. It takes all the fun out of it when you are asked to bring something... that makes it a request or a requirement... Not to mention, if 15 people bring size 1 diapers, she is going to have 9 packs left over with no way to return them.

I don't know, I just personally would NEVER do something like that.

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I've never had that happen, although my friend threw me a Baby Book Shower for my last pregnancy. Everyone bought the new baby a book. They are still sitting in a bag in Gwen's closet as she isn't old enough to be able to read books to. It was nice of her, but no one had to do it IMO.

And ALSO IMO-
ASKING for gifts and INFORMING your guests of a baby registry are totally different!
Asking for gifts is TACKY.
A baby registry is only meant for those who would LIKE to buy the expectant mother a gift. This usually assures that you get her something she would does not already have, likes and needs for the new baby. I would rather get an invite with a registry card in it than someone asking everyone to bring a particular item!

I think it is rude however, the people who are invited are her family and friends. If she sent the invites out then its on her. I would never throw anyone a shower and request that in my invite.


BUT! I have thrown a pamper party before. The parents already had 2 male children under 5 and this was their 3rd. They really didnt need toys, clothes, and other normal shower gifts. So only diapers would have really helped. Going about that way, and calling it a pamper party kind of changed the fact that it was a baby shower.


There is a difference in my mind even though they do kind of sound similar. :dunno

Extremely rude. Just like sending a list of places ur registered at or asking for monetary "donations/contributions" instead of gifts sent in wedding (or baby shower) invitations. Very bad manners.


I don't think it's tacky to list your registry or to mention if you'd like to give a gift, to do donations/contributions :shrug

I think that's very tacky.
Regiestries are one thing, asking to bring diapers is something else.

No one every threw me a baby shower for any of my 3 but if I had, had one I would NEVER have put that on there... It's Tacky IMO.

Asking for stuff is tacky. Adding a registry list is definately not, and MANY people think it's helpful.

In response to another comment, as far as proper manners, everything I read wedding wise always said not to include registries in wedding inviations, but definately include them in bridal shower invites...that is the proper way to do it.

I've never heard of that nor would I ever do that!:refuse :duh

On weddings, if you are doing registeries don't put them in the invites, just the bridal shower invites (from my books and research, someone may think differently)

With baby shower invites, registeries are ok. If not you will get 1000 people asking you "what do you want/need" OR you will get 5 of the same gift. But to put specifically in your invite what to bring it not appropriate.

Personally, if I got an invite like that the package of pampers WOULD be my gift.

I don't think it's tacky to list your registry or to mention if you'd like to give a gift, to do donations/contributions

Not according to advice columnists like Ann Landers and Miss Manners. I don't really know what's right or wrong, I just go by what I read through them. Otherwise, I don't know what's proper....

In response to another comment, as far as proper manners, everything I read wedding wise always said not to include registries in wedding inviations, but definately include them in bridal shower invites...that is the proper way to do it.

That's interesting. I'd never heard that. But I don't pretend to know it all or be an expert either... I just know what I remember what I've read. This is good advice to know....

With baby shower invites, registeries are ok. If not you will get 1000 people asking you "what do you want/need" OR you will get 5 of the same gift.

It's the same thing with Weddings, so I really don't see how it's different. Anyway, it's when people ASK what you want/need, THAT is the time to tell them where you are registered...

Well to avoid answering the question 50 times over, that is the reason for the registery notices. Every one doesn't use them and not everyone even does registeries. Bridal shower and Baby shower invites are the same, but not wedding invitations (as far as including registry announcements because wedding invites are "formal" the others are more casual).

But I do agree with out right asking for a specific thing to be bought in your invites is not right.

No one threw me a baby shower with Sydney but if I would have had one I wouldn't have had that on the invitations, it's rude and tacky.

Thank you ladies for your answers.. I really thought that it was kind-of rude too. I seriously was thinking about just getting a pack of diapers and that's it. But I decided that I am going to get a gift and no diapers. I think that's to much to ask from someone!!! :)

What is the point of the registry if someone has to call to find out you have one?

What is the point of the registry if someone has to call to find out you have one?

So you don't have to tell people a specific item to get you or keep a running list in ur head of things to tell people when they ask and hope 2 people don't get you the same thing. When they ask, you tell them where ur registered and they get a list and decide if they want to get u anything off that list, and it also helps you to keep from getting duplicate items.

I guess the reason u wouldn't send registries in invitations is it makes people feel like they HAVE to get you a gift and they have to get it off that list. If they ask, u giving them the list is more because they asked for an idea instead of u forcing "ideas" on people and assuming they will be giving you a gift. Maybe it is different for baby showers and bridal showers than weddings, I don't know. From what I read, it came off to me that this was something rude no matter what type of invitation it was-maybe I'm just remembering wrong....

I really dont think that it's rude to put the registery information inside the invatation.. because it is alot eaiser for people to know what to get for the baby.. it doesnt mean that that's what you have to get them. I know that when I have a baby shower that I defiently will have a registry! :)