My db is underway for two weeks and has been gone since Monday. I get to see him Tuesday night because they're porting close enough that I can drive down one night. I am still having a really rough day and night. I was pretty dizzy today and not feeling all that well so everyone I know of course asked if I could be pregnant. Which I guess is a possibility but not what I want to add to dealing with him being gone. We've talked about having a baby and we both want one so no big deal there and I know what I signed up for when I decided to love this man that is gone so much but I guess I'm just having a rough night. :( It's nights like this that give me so much respect for the women here who have suffered through multiple deployments. They also make me wonder how the hell I am going to get through six months without seeing his face or kissing his lips. Blah, ok I'm shutting up now. There is no real point to this I guess but to get my thoughts out. Maybe it should be in the venting section? :dunno

How do you guys do it? I am still learning and getting used to this and I just feel like it's never going to get any easier having him gone.

You know, the only thing I can say is you just do it. You handle it the best you can, keep moving forward, and stay busy! I won't lie or sugar coat it, because it is very hard. This is our third deployment, and it doesn't get any easier, but you learn how to handle it better each time. It has been very hard for me to not see his face, hear his voice everyday or kiss him, but I always remember the motto "nothing lasts forever", meaning that he will be home :). Hang in there, and you will do fine.

:hugs :hugs :hugs

:hugs I know it's hard my DH has been gone a month and I have 3 more to go and it really sux. I'm already not looking forward to the next one. :giggle It is hard but you will make it through. :hugs

It doesn't get any easier to have them go away, but you do learn to handle it better as time goes by. Our 3rd deployment's coming up in a couple months, and while I'm still very nervous and upset that he's going, I know more about what to expect, and I know that he's coming home to me ASAP. This is all a part of his job, and he's at the beck and call of the Navy while he's under contract with them.. The hardest thing about him leaving this time is that our daughter will be 2, and is very close to her daddy..When he's away I just always remind her that Daddy's at work, when she asks where he is, and she says "ok, daddy's at the ship." I remind her daily that daddy loves both of us and that he'll be home just as soon as he can..

The best advice I've ever heard is to just stay busy, and take things day by day. Set goals for yourself, even if it's just I'm going to have the house clean today, or I'm going to get some holiday shopping done early..doesn't matter, as long as you keep yourself occupied. Make some friends in your area that are people you have things in common with, and make plans to get together with them regularly. Stay strong, and know that he's missing you just like you're missing him. Make sure that your letters to him let him know that you're missing him, but don't dwell on sadness in them.. nothing's worse for morale than knowing that you've got a depressed or sick SO at home.

First of all tons of :hugs to you.

It is VERY hard the frist time when your man leaves. I try to look at the positives of the deployment.

1. I can eat waht I want when I want it. If I want cracker jacks for dinner...so be it.

2. I get to read my book without being interrupted.

3. I can take LONG HOT showers without someone saying "you are using up all the hot water".

4. I dont HAVE to cook if I want to.

5. I get the COVERS all to myself on my bed!!!!!!!

6. I don't have to watch any stupid Kung FU movies.

7. I dont have to watch any HORROR flick.

8. I get to watch all the chick flicks I could ask for and not have the rolling of the eyes.. :rolleyes

9. I get the tiome to pamper myself. Get a massgae, pedicure, manicure, etc.

10. MY DF is so much nicer when he is on Deployment he misses me soooo much more then when he is here. THey send love notes...

11. My Df appreciates me more on Deployment.

12. I get to send him care packages and get creative with them.

13. He gets me gifts from foreign lands.

14. I get to see part of the world through his eyes (pictures).

15. YOU get GREAT homecoming SEX!!!!! :hump

16. I AM GOING ON A CRUISE TO BERMUDA!!!! :yahoo :yahoo

So there are things that you can do to keep you busy. Get a project that you like to do. The time will go by VERY slow in the begining and the end and will fly by in the middle. Before you know it he will be back in your arms.

It's a odd thing but I get a little sad when my DF is coming home. I guess cause I feel like I am losing my individuality a little bit.

Keep strong and turn to us when ever you need someone to talk to.

[QUOTE=LuvMyGunrMate]First of all tons of :hugs to you.



It's a odd thing but I get a little sad when my DF is coming home. I guess cause I feel like I am losing my individuality a little bit.

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That's a very common feeling among military SO's... according to a book I got before DH went on our first deployment, it can take up to 6 weeks for things around the home and between the couple to get back to how they were before the deployment. That includes whole loss of identity and independence feeling...

:hugs :goodvibes

Thank you guys so much for all the encouragment. I got an email from him this morning that lifted my spirits. :lovestruck
I'm definitely going to sit down and actually make a list of long term goals for when he's gone for six months. Lose weight, save money, that kinda stuff. And I've been calling a lot of old friends recently to get together and hang out. I've definitely been trying to stay busy.
It somehow makes it a little easier to see all of you guys who make marriages and engagments and just relationships for that matter work through all this. If you guys can do it I feel like I/we can do it too no problem because we do really love and care for each other. So thank you! :)

Just like all the other ladies have said, It doesn't get any easier. You take one day at a time and keep your days filled up as much as possible. I have gotten SO MUCH accomplished since DH's been gone this time just trying to pass the time. Before you know it they are headed home. We are just finishing our third deployment and it seems like it's gone faster than the others, I think the difference is the kids keep me busy and I do a lot more than I did last time.

It's even harder for them I think. My DH says the time goes by SO SLOW but they are sitting out there in the water for weeks at a time. Seeing the same people and the same scenery day after day. We have an advantage in that respect!

:hugs my dh has been gone since Feb 6th of this year and guess what...he is coming home soon so time does pass.

take it a day a time, pm if ya wanna talk :hugs.