First I'll say that there is no reason to "out" yourself unless you don't mind. The poll is anonymous! ;)

So how old were you when you had sex? Was it how you always wanted it to be or at the "right" age?

My hypothesis is that most of us had sex earlier than we would like our children to. I know that hindsite is 20/20 so I am sure a lot of us would change the specifics of our first time. But I wonder if we are a bit irrational to expect that our children will wait later than we want them to & overcome what we did not? Especially in this day & age were our society is so much more sexualied. Highly sexualized, in fact!

I'm not saying that we shouldn't try to sway our children from waiting but do you think it is likely they will become sexually active sooner than we did?

Of course I could be totally wrong & the majority here be virgins until your wedding night....in which, my thoughts would be totally blown out of the water! :lol

Too young!

I was 19 when I first had sex. I am fine with the age but not who I slept with & I would definately change that if I could.

I do hope that my children will wait until they are atleast 18 & they will be taught that it is best to wait.

19 Wish I would have waited longer.

17, and that is too young.

1 month shy of 17, so I picked 17.

I wish I would of waited to. It was w/ my high school boyfriend whom at the time I thought I loved, but still...

Nothing to hide... Im 32 and have an 18 yr old daughter.. the math speaks for itself.

I hav eno problem :quote outing :quote myself.

I did not :quote LOSE :quote my virginity willingly until I was 17. It was taken at 14.

Was it anything I thought was going to be. Hell No. During the time I was 14 to 17, I had misconstuded views on what sex was and could be. I got lost in the rollercoaster way of a wayward hurt teen life style.

Do I expect Anya to wait until she is married. No Im realistic. I know 9 out of 10 it will happen before then. I can only continue to be open and free with her about my life and struggles so that she will understand why it is important to hold on as long as she can. To protect herself and not allow herself to be put into situations like I did where it can be taken.

If she does choose to have sex during high school, I can only hope and pray that I have done my job as a parent and that she will come to me openly about it.

I was 15. Well, it was like 6 weeks before my 16th birthday.

It is a nice memory.

I was 17, and it was my first love. (L) I didn't really have this magical age that I was waiting for, it just happened.

On our Wedding Night.......about 2 months shy of my 28th B-Day.

DH was 30

i lost it at 16, at that time i thought it was exactly what i wanted but i thought sex was overrated especially from what i had heard from my friends. but after the first time i kept wanting to have sex with him more. all i can say is i would like my kids to wait until they have met the right person but if they don't i want them to be honest with me and tell me that they would like to be on birth control or just discuss it with me. i didn't discuss who/where/why i had sex with the first boy i did but i did ask to be put on birth control.

1 month before my 15th birthday..So I was 14

I was 15. Wasn't that great but it was with a guy that really cared about me and even after we broke up we remained friends for a couple years.

Also, I wanted to say that even though the guy and I cared alot for each other I wish I had waited.

I was 18 and it was with my boyfriend that is now my husband!!

I was 15 with my ex. And I got pregnant 5 months later...

I was 17. It was the right time for me.

i was 14 and i wish i'd have waited...he pressured me into it...and i was 14 & an idiot.

I dont think my dd will be that young. My mom is an alcoholic (she has 6yrs sobriety!) but when i was growing up, i didnt have anybody supervising me. i did whatever i wanted. my boyfriends even spent the night!! i'm not the same kind of mother that my mom was(although i do remind myself of her sometimes...no!) so i think Val will not have to grow up as fast as i had to and i hope that will help her make smarter choices than i made.

I had my taken when I turned 13 by an adult. My Dh and I started having sex after he was 16 and I was a few months shy so I picked 15. I think it was partly due to that situation.

I think my kids will wait longer because we are both very different from our parents. And we both wish we had waited longer.

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I was 16.

I was 13..about 2 months before my 14th birthday. he was 17 and a HOTTY:oops He was a senior..i was a freshman..he was a football player, I knew i wanted him to be my first:duh what we do as kids! :screwy I hope my son waits till hes at least 18...I know..I am wishing:dunno

I lost my virginity unwillingly at the age of 15, hence Jr.

My actual "first time" was at the age of 18.

i was 18...used to hang out with the guy still until last month when he got a girlfriend! booooo

I was 17 and it was my first love and I don't regret it or think it was too soon. It's something that I can look back on and am ok with.

I had turned 20 about a months before that. Had my then boyfriend and I lived in the same country it would have been a lot sooner though. lol

I was around 20. I wasn't trying to save myself or anything, I just didn't feel like giving it up to anyone. And even then I still regreted it, it was not a pretty first time and the guy was the biggest loser, college, go figure.

I was too young! I don't know what in the heck I was thinking :screwy I :pray that Ericka doesn't make the same mistakes that I did.

I just turned 16. I was mad at the world and a guy that i thought that I loved. I had sex with a guy I really didnt know and that really didnt care about nor did he care about me. Really wish I would have waited. My children will hopefully wait until they are a lot older then I was. God help us.

I was 4 mos shy of being 18 so I was 17 technically-(I voted 17) & it was with my df who is now my dh & I have 0 regrets!(L) :thumbsup :D

i was 17 and it was with DH so i have no problem with my decision

I was 16.

I was 17 and it was with Nick :)

eighteen for me

it was on our wedding night so i am a ok with it
i cried like a baby though

23 (and a half!) we dated a year and a half first.

I was 16.. I regret choosing the person I did...

I was 25..my wedding night to my 1st

I was 13..about 2 months before my 14th birthday. he was 17 and a HOTTY:oops He was a senior..i was a freshman..he was a football player, I knew i wanted him to be my first:duh what we do as kids! :screwy I hope my son waits till hes at least 18...I know..I am wishing:dunno

dh waited until he was 21 and he's only had sex with me. it's possible

I had just turned 16. I wanted to be in the "in crowd", so I had sex.

I was 15, a few months shy of 16. I don't think it was too young-we ended up dating for another 2 years before we broke up, so I'm ok with it. I do kinda wish I had waited for DH, but he didn't so.....:P

i was 15.. with my first love

[found out he cheated on me witbh 2 girls and ALOT of other shit.. but at the tim, we were eachother's firsts, and it was before all that, so it is a good memory]

i was about a month away from being 14 and it was with my first love. i dont regret it at all it was sweet and romantic and a little corny cuz there were fireworks going off lol but it was nice he's a great person so i dont regret it although i do wonder how my life would have been if i had waited....

14 couple weeks shy of 15, he was my 1st love and we dated for about a year until I had moved away- I should have waited but I didnt have any distress over it, my parents were very very strict but I still found ways. I am glad we moved though I dont like the person he became in life, and I am with my soul mate now!!!

16 - I am ashamed to admit

I'll admit it, I was 14. The boy was my best friend since birth(our parents went to school together). We're still friends today, and he and dh are like brothers now. I was pretty young but already living on my own, so really I wouldn't change it.

I was 17, and it was my first love. (L) I didn't really have this magical age that I was waiting for, it just happened.

Same thing here. It is a nice memory and I wouldn't change it.

I was 20 and it was with my bf who now is my hubby :) I dont regret a single thing (L)

17 and a high school graduate

My best friend is 25 and still waiting for "the one."

18 1/2 and it was with db some I don't regret it at all

Well being a guy you may expect it to happen earlier then usual but I waited until I was 19 and damn if I didnt marry the tool, lol. I guess it happened for a reason because I believe I would have never met my wife.

20 years old for meee

Well being a guy you may expect it to happen earlier then usual but I waited until I was 19 and damn if I didnt marry the tool, lol. I guess it happened for a reason because I believe I would have never met my wife.

Same for my Bryan! :)

I was 14, my 1st (L) and it was on Oct 4, 1997@ 1:45am :D yes i remember the exact time!!!!!!!!!!!!

17 for me but I'd been with DB for almost 2 years and we're still together 3 years later. If I hadn't been with him then I would have waited longer I'm sure.

I was 19 and in love. I don't regret it at all.

I had just turned 15 a couple months earlier. My first was almost 16 and he is now my husband.

It wasn't very good (we both feel that way). We were both young, and inexperienced. I don't think it would have been any different if we'd been older.

Remembering the way things were then, it still seems right. Looking back at just how old we were, we feel we were too young. I don't wish things had been different-I'm fine with the way it happened even if we were too young.

I hope my daughter waits until she's older though.

i was 15..and it was my first love..i dont regret it!

I was literally less than two weeks from turning 18 (I clicked 17 though) and it was with my husband and absolutely perfect. We are the first for each other when it comes to intimacy (other than kissing) and after nearly three years of dating and nothing it was exactly what I had thought it would be.

I do not want my kids to sleep with people that young but at the same time, I think if they were in our shoes, dating for nearly three years (a month shy of three years), engaged and so forth and so on I would be a lot more understanding than if they were just sleeping around.

I wanted to wait for my hubby...and I thought he was going to be so I gave myself to him at 20. Now that i've met my DB I wish I woulda waited :( But you can't change the past. I was almost raped at 17 but I got away. My boyfriend at the time and his best friend tried to "gang rape" me but my cousin walked in and took care of them....shit happens. we grow from it so I don't hold anything over anyone.

i guess mine would be 20 and above since i have never actually done the deed


edit: I just realized I may be the only virgin on this website. While I realize 75% of you are married, I feel like yall are all at a party and I'm standing out in the cold cold rain lolz!! Oh wellz here's hoping for earth shattering sex on my honeymoon (uh huh yeah right)

4 days after my 18th birthday.

*Edit* Also, I didn't know good sex till I met DB last August ;)

And i don't have kids yet, but they're not allowed to have sex till they're 35. :)

i guess mine would be 20 and above since i have never actually done the deed


edit: I just realized I may be the only virgin on this website. While I realize 75% of you are married, I feel like yall are all at a party and I'm standing out in the cold cold rain lolz!! Oh wellz here's hoping for earth shattering sex on my honeymoon (uh huh yeah right)

Dontcha feel like that!!! I have a BLAST with my single, virgin 25 year old best friend. In my single days, we would have SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much fun!!! Now I can't do some of those things anymore...LMAO!!!

1 was 18..with my DF who is now my DH. It was right, I ahve NO regrets.

I was 18 and had no say in the matter. Life goes on :)

i guess mine would be 20 and above since i have never actually done the deed

edit: I just realized I may be the only virgin on this website. While I realize 75% of you are married, I feel like yall are all at a party and I'm standing out in the cold cold rain lolz!! Oh wellz here's hoping for earth shattering sex on my honeymoon (uh huh yeah right)

I think you're awesome!

i guess mine would be 20 and above since i have never actually done the deed


edit: I just realized I may be the only virgin on this website. While I realize 75% of you are married, I feel like yall are all at a party and I'm standing out in the cold cold rain lolz!! Oh wellz here's hoping for earth shattering sex on my honeymoon (uh huh yeah right)

You are awesome. If I hadn't found my husband, I'd still be in the V club with ya.

I was 15... I think his name was "Ballsy".. it was a 2 minute pain and whilst I don't regret it- it wasn't exciting. I never really had a vision that my first time would be perfect though- I imagined it happening at a party- lol and yeah- that pretty much happened.

Hmm it sucked.

Dh lost his at 13............:wow- I still can't get over that. Unbelievable!

i was 15. but it was with dh, who was obviously just db at the time.

i kinda regret doing it so young, but, it was with who is now my dh, so it doesn't bother me.

16 and i wish it didnt happen who it happened with because i was forced to

22... and that was the right age... I'm glad I waited...

15, nope not ashamed and no I wasn't "pushed" into it.

I was 19, and it was with DH-then DB. No regrets, it was right for us.

With DD, we will teach her that it is best to wait but we realize that in todays world things are very different. We will keep the lines of communication open as she gets older and I pray we can raise her to make good decisions for herself.

I was 19, I don't mind the age at all, but wish it hadn't been that person.

I was 22 and it was with DH (although we were not married at the time). I am glad I waited, and I want my son (and any other kids we may have) to wait until they are at least 18. I don't care if they're not married, but just wait until they are mature enough and ready to handle it.

I was 15. Toooo Young and I would of liked it to be with someone that I actually LOVED and not someone I thought I loved. Make sense?? I hope my kids wait until either they are married or are IN LOVE with that person.

I was too young 15 and he was this supper cool guy that was very popular and I was a stupid girl! After words I really regretted it! I hope my daughter is smarter than me.

15, i dont regret it. it was with the guy i am with now and i really do love him so no regrets.

I was 15. Toooo Young and I would of liked it to be with someone that I actually LOVED and not someone I thought I loved. Make sense?? I hope my kids wait until either they are married or are IN LOVE with that person.

I was 15 too. and I feel the same way you do.

I was fifteen and wayy too young. I was going through a really difficult time with my family, and I felt like I wanted someone to love me. Well, he didn't and I got caught eventually and felt like absolute crap. I still have a lot of guilt about the sexual partners I have had. I would give anything to be a virgin right now, so I could save myself for that special someone I haven't yet met. At this point, I don't even count my "marriage", the one I am still in the process of legally ending, since we were only actually physically together for ten days after the wedding. And that was an awful lot to say for just giving my age. Lol.

i was 16 and it was with my df so sweet

Way to young here.. wish I could take it back.. and yeah when I have a kid - i'd be whoopin some tail if they did the thing's I did.. LOL

16 with my first love. I have no regrets.

I was 15, and it was with my now DH! No regrets!

i was 18. we had waited a year before we had sex, we wanted it to be right. he set the mood and we did it. he was my high school sweetheart. but were not together anymore.

I was 19, and what's crazy is I figured the longer i waited, the less chance it would be something I would regret, and that it would most likely be with someone special, becuz I was more selective, but didnt work out tht way, wish I would have waited for DF, whom came along not much later

I was 12. :blush Way too young.

I was 16

18 with DH.

I was 19

I was 20. Hubby was my first...

I was 15 and it was with my DH (we just celebrated our 20th anniversary in April)......we also have a 19 year old son and I'm only 36:wink

in other words WAAAY too young:eek

i was 20 and it was my wedding night. just 8 months ago exactly in 6 days. lol it was amazing and i am so glad i waited. for my husband i was his second. and he still hates himself everyday for it. i don't want him to, but he feels like i waited to give that gift to the man i would marry and he didn't. somedays it could make me sad but it happened and there was nothing i could do about it i didn't even know him then.

I was 19. I definitely think I was mature enough, emotionally and mentally. I knew all about safe sex and the risks associated with sex. I also knew as much about the emotional implications of sex as I think you can before you experience it. I waited until I was with someone seriously, mostly because I just wasn't interested before that. Ideally I would like any kids I have to wait until they are at least an adult, and definitely until they are mature enough to understand the implications of sex (mentally, emotionally, and physically).

18 to my DH

15...and way too young...I would bust my daughter's ass if she ever does what all i did... not proud of my past....very proud of my present family, especially my army hubby who i love very much (i was his 1st);)

I was 16 and wish I had waited. I think at that age you have a missguided thinking that everyone has sex by now. There are so many things I would do different if I could go back in time.

Wow.... A year old thread was brought back to life! :lol

I was 15... I definitely should have waited.

14... young, dumb and naive... he told me what I wanted to hear and got what he wanted and was gone 2 weeks later.
I hope my children wait...

I was 17...he was my high school sweetie and my first husband...BIG BIG BIG Mistake!

I waited until I was 18. At the time, I thought being 18 meant that I was 100% responsible for my own actions...lol...my parents did not feel the same way!

Wow.... A year old thread was brought back to life! :lol


I didn't even realize that! haha, wow I just thought it was a new thread.

Really really young

I was 17 and he was 19.. it was both of our frist times. I married him so I have no regrets :D

I was 18 and out of high school, so all cool there. I'm great with it. I would've been fine if it'd been earlier, except I hadn't found DB yet. Later would've been fine as well, but I was already pretty much the last virgin I knew, so waiting too much longer might've driven me batty. My requirement was to be in love and to be sure, and I met those easily. And, of course, I knew/know all about safe sex and all that stuffs from my Esteemed Planned Parenthood Training. :lol

My Dad wasn't thrilled, but he was happy for me to be with someone I love. I hope I can show the same understanding for my children, and that they will have the same respect for themselves to wait for someone who is worth the endeavor.

I was 17...I thought I loved the guy...no big thing really.

I was 18 and about to start my second year of college. I just didnt believe in having sex until I was 18 and I almost made it to 19.

i was 14 ><. it was a long term relationship though; we stayed together for like, 11 months or something like that. anthony was my second. i wish i would have waited for him to be my first!

I was 16 and I wish I would have waited......DH has been the only other guy I have had sex with....the one I lost it too, YUCK!

17...the age I am now. I haven't regretted it yet, it was with DB who's at bootcamp and I don't regret it at all. All I regret is the situation we were in at the time. It's still a good memory though.

I was 17 a few months from turning 18. The guy was older and I dated him for years AFTER that but he was a complete ass to me. I still hate him. lol