I stole this from my baby boards...I was in :shock when I read this!!!

Click Here - She's bored with her kids (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=397672&in_page_id=1770)

That is friggin horrible. Why have kids if you feel that way?

what the fuck?!?!?!? why the hell did she have children anyway. parents like that piss me off. they think of children as a fashion accessory

:no That is VERY VERY sad, IMO. I can't imagine not being interested in my kids. :dunno

That woman sounds exactly like Tony's ex wife. :(

:loser :loser :loser

Look, some of us didn't want kids but had them and because of moral reason, kept them. Does not mean we have to like our kids or be interested in their live. :rolleyes



:roflmao Ok, just kidding. I love the my kids to death, and am utterly fascinated with their antics and different personalities. That woman is a sad example of a mother.

can I slap her or tell her off? she makes me so mad

That article made me so mad! Why have kids if you're not going to be a mother?!? Also, why put it into an article??? Her kids are likely going to read that someday and feel awful that their mother didn't like them.

How selfish of her :no What a piss poor excuse for an individual...

I sure hope her husband isn't a workaholic. Being raised by a nanny. :tsktsk This woman should have her tubes tied.

:no Wow I bet her children will feel loved when they read that article.

She needs to be b!tch slapped. Women like her are the reason people wind up in therapy:loser :vent

:mumble That woman just has no creative imagination & sounds extremely self-centred. Peeves me greatly to hear that she and her friend feel that their children are just a dull addition to their lives. She wouldn't last a day in my shoes caring for a class of 15 two year olds; and most likely would end up having a nervous fit! It takes day to day creativity and a great support system to raise children every day. I have that and am very greatful for it. I feel sad that she lacks positive support and only has support for the "shallow end" of her life. Later in her life after her children are grown, have moved away, and have their own children, how will she view her grandchildren? Will she see them and regret how she lived her life with her children? Or will she see those children in the same way she does now? How very miserable.

At the risk of starting an all out war, I think I have to agree with her just a bit. I am and have been and willl be a firm believer in having your own life. I love love love my husband to death but I need my own time, my own friends or else I'm just not going to function well at all. When I have kids it will be the same way. I will love my kids to death and I can't wiat to have them, but to make them the end all center of my life is slightly unresonable. I believe that there are no "centers" in ones life there should only be important people. ex. your husband should not be the center of your life, what life would you have if it were just you and your husband. Your husband should be a very very very important person in your life but so should your family, friends, education etc.

Let me just clarifiy, I dont feel that kids are boreing or dull, but to be honest, as much as I want to be a SAHM I'm really scared. I think I might drive myself into crazyness. I need adults and I need other people in my life. And maybe that makes me selfish.

I feel that her article whent a bit overbored, not reading to kids pushing off on a nanny etc. but I do believe she does have a few very good points. I"m sure she loves her children more then anything, I dont think she is a horrible mother either.

I am sitting after reading that thinking, wow ---one day she will kick herself for no being there.
I lvoe every minute of the day with my kids---even the bad days. LOL I know somedays I think there must be an easier way but then one ofthem comes up to me and says I love you or gives me a hug

Why did she have kids? Geeze - I feel even more sorry for her Grandchildren.

Is my Mom's name next to that article? Cause that kinda sounds like her lately... OOOOOoooo! Ouch! Was that uncalled for?! I gotta let some steam out somehow.... But that is really terrible...

Some women just are not cut out to be a mother, and sadly they dont know that until it happens. Why did she have a second after she knew when her eldest was only 10 months? maybe not the best thing you think, but at least he has a playmate. Thank goodness they are able to aford a nanny who takes them places and they are not being abused. Because there are so many mothers out there who are not willing to admit or realize they are not "mother" material and they kill their children.

I do not think the article is all that shocking or awful. She is an honest woman, taking care of her kids (in her own way), and maybe there are a few women out there that will relate and not feel so alone. :(

At the risk of starting an all out war, I think I have to agree with her just a bit. I am and have been and willl be a firm believer in having your own life. I love love love my husband to death but I need my own time, my own friends or else I'm just not going to function well at all. When I have kids it will be the same way. I will love my kids to death and I can't wiat to have them, but to make them the end all center of my life is slightly unresonable. I believe that there are no "centers" in ones life there should only be important people. ex. your husband should not be the center of your life, what life would you have if it were just you and your husband. Your husband should be a very very very important person in your life but so should your family, friends, education etc.

Let me just clarifiy, I dont feel that kids are boreing or dull, but to be honest, as much as I want to be a SAHM I'm really scared. I think I might drive myself into crazyness. I need adults and I need other people in my life. And maybe that makes me selfish.

I feel that her article whent a bit overbored, not reading to kids pushing off on a nanny etc. but I do believe she does have a few very good points. I"m sure she loves her children more then anything, I dont think she is a horrible mother either.


I have to agree. OK, her article was a little extreme but it was printed in a British tabloid- it's to be expected! The point of the article is that you dont have to spend every minute of your day with your children for them to grow up to be well-balanced adults, and if you lavish too much attention on them they could grow up to be ill prepared for the real world. Whilst I don't agree with having someone raise your kids for you, I do agree with the core sentiment of the article.

What the pictures don't show is the monotony, loneliness and relentless domesticity that goes with child-rearing.

I can completely relate to this statement BUT the fact is that I had kids. Just because it's not exactly bliss doesn't mean I'm going to be selfish and not bother to be involved in their lives. Just because I'm a mom and I talk about my children doesn't mean I can't have an adult conversation. I can be involved and still do my adult things. Maybe she's unable to multi-task this?

Kids are supposed to be fulfilling, life-changing, life-enhancing fun

I think this is her problem. She had kids for selfish reasons, to enhance her own life and fulfill it. She didn't get that so now she's bitter that they aren't making her happy.

No, I'm not completely obsessed with my children. Yes I get depressed because I feel expected to make them my whole life. The point is kids don't have to be your whole life but she sounds like she doesn't want to have anything to do with them at all if she can help it. Why bother with kids at all then? No wonder she's depressed anyhow if her husband works all day and then heads to the pub. He sounds like an ass and maybe he's the real problem.

Honestly, I can see what she's saying. I do agree that too many mothers have no life except for their children and it can be unhealthy. Even for the child. I agree with many points she makes But to make no effort to be a part of your children's lives? I can't agree with that.

That's just selfish and stupid. In some ways I understand but she takes it too far. I could not stay at home with my baby day in and day out - it's not for me. So I work and build my career and have a balance between the two. So when I'm at work, it's for me and when I'm at home it's for her. Why is balance SO difficult for people?

I admit I get bored with my kids somedays but not bored like her. I get bored after the 3rd hour of watching Cory build bionicles or after sitting through my little pony christmas movie for the 45th time. I agree that kids need to be left alone some times but not put off on the nanny to raise.

I was a nanny for a family similar to this lady and I really felt bad for the kids. The parents had the children as satus symbols. Nothing more. Children really don't fit into their life. Mom is a vice pres. of a very large company. Shes gone away on business at least 2-3 day a week every week. Dad is a HS teacher and football coach. Hes home every night and does a better job then mom but he leaves at 7 am and gets home at 7 pm. What in the heck kind of life is that for their kids? Why in the world did they have them and then go to so much trouble to have more? They have kids the regular way so they spend top dollar getting IVF. Its just stupid. About the only things they do participate in involve a grandma and/or a nanny to help them out.

Geez. She could at least give them a few minutes of reading time. Kids love it.

At the risk of starting an all out war, I think I have to agree with her just a bit. I am and have been and willl be a firm believer in having your own life. I love love love my husband to death but I need my own time, my own friends or else I'm just not going to function well at all. When I have kids it will be the same way. I will love my kids to death and I can't wiat to have them, but to make them the end all center of my life is slightly unresonable. I believe that there are no "centers" in ones life there should only be important people. ex. your husband should not be the center of your life, what life would you have if it were just you and your husband. Your husband should be a very very very important person in your life but so should your family, friends, education etc.

Let me just clarifiy, I dont feel that kids are boreing or dull, but to be honest, as much as I want to be a SAHM I'm really scared. I think I might drive myself into crazyness. I need adults and I need other people in my life. And maybe that makes me selfish.

I feel that her article whent a bit overbored, not reading to kids pushing off on a nanny etc. but I do believe she does have a few very good points. I"m sure she loves her children more then anything, I dont think she is a horrible mother either.

i agree with having hobbies outside of your kids. you should have friends even if they are other SAHM's who you can meet up with and have adult conversations with. getting a babysitter to go get your hair done or nails done or going to the grocery store without toddlers with you is a good break but this woman was nuts. everyone needs conversations with lucid people. my great grandma and my grandpa are not the most sane people and by the end of the day i just need conversation with someone who can have an intelligent conversation. there is nothing wrong with enjoying going for a run or going to school or going to an art museum because you appreciate art, but i do not believe that children should be an accessory to your life, that they are only ok if you have time for them. also the part with her not wanting to even go to their cricket games (i think it was cricket) was completely ridiculous, you are supposed to support your children. if she is really that 'bored' with them she should get a job

I totally disagree. I can understand that yes, taking care of your children is not 24/7 FUN. And yes, you do need some "you" time, but the way she described her feelings was just plain selfishness. A mother is supposed to be the nurturer. You are there to encourage them, help them build self confidence, encourage their imagination, and show them attention, love, & affection.

I'm sorry, but when you have a baby, it is no longer your life. It is that childs. YES, your relationship w/ yourself & your spouse needs attention, but really, I think we can agree that a baby & children take up A LOT of your time.

I can understand where a mother needs some one on one time or she feels she can contribute best to her childs life by working as she thinks she is a better mother when she is, but to talk about your children like that is disgusting. Than we wonder why some children are the way they are. THeir parents don't give 2 shits whats going on in their life and they let someone else raise them.

There is no way I agree w/ what she wrote. I'm sorry, but when you have children, your goal should be to be a GREAT mother. I find it VERY sad if someone doesn't feel that way.

I totally disagree. I can understand that yes, taking care of your children is not 24/7 FUN. And yes, you do need some "you" time, but the way she described her feelings was just plain selfishness. A mother is supposed to be the nurturer. You are there to encourage them, help them build self confidence, encourage their imagination, and show them attention, love, & affection.

I'm sorry, but when you have a baby, it is no longer your life. It is that childs. YES, your relationship w/ yourself & your spouse needs attention, but really, I think we can agree that a baby & children take up A LOT of your time.

I can understand where a mother needs some one on one time or she feels she can contribute best to her childs life by working as she thinks she is a better mother when she is, but to talk about your children like that is disgusting. Than we wonder why some children are the way they are. THeir parents don't give 2 shits whats going on in their life and they let someone else raise them.

There is no way I agree w/ what she wrote. I'm sorry, but when you have children, your goal should be to be a GREAT mother. I find it VERY sad if someone doesn't feel that way.

Very well said, Rach!!! :yes :thumbsup

A mother is supposed to be the nurturer.


blanket statement....

I think this story was horrible and sad! :tears I love more than anything to be with my son and to go to the playground, or to birthday parties. :yahoo She's crazy to think that! :screwy

:no That is VERY VERY sad, IMO. I can't imagine not being interested in my kids. :dunno

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I totally agree with you, Rach.

Of course I don't spend every second of every day just totally captivated by every little thing my kids do... they have their own time to do their own things, I don't just sit and stare at them 24 hours a day watching them put every single puzzle or every single block together. BUT, overall, I could never say I am bored by my children and allow someone else to totally raise them. Who knows if she will look back and regret it, but I feel very sad for her children who will never know what it's like to have that incredible mother and child bond. I don't think that bond always comes easily. Sometimes, I do believe moms have to really work at wanting to be a good mom. But to me, even if being a mom isn't what you thought it would be, it's your responsibility to stop being totally selfish and learn how to put your child first. I don't think being an individual has to stop, I don't think doing things for yourself has to stop. I do think that it's unfair to carry on with your life like you have no children though. My personal opinion on the matter is that I think it's very selfish to allow anyone to raise your kids anymore than you HAVE to. If you have to work, get a nanny for working hours if you can afford it. But allowing the nanny to take the place of mommy is just wrong :no

Maybe I just have a hard time seeing things from her perspective. I just don't understand how a mother could not want to be involved in everything possible. I would never WANT to miss out on their lives the way she is missing out on her childrens'. Once you realize how incredibly rewarding the small things are... watching your child put two blocks together, seeing your child pick up a piece of cereal for the first time, watching your little one start to dance when music comes on... that stuff really is INCREDIBLE. Those are the things I will NEVER forget and will really hold dear to my heart for the rest of my life. These things happen ONCE. You get ONE shot with each child. ONE shot to treasure today. And damn does it ever go by fast :( Like I said, I dunno if she will regret it one day. Maybe she will, maybe she won't. But I always think it's really sad when children don't get the chance to build a relationship and bond with their mom. That is something that carries on into adulthood and children learn from example.

blanket statement....

Than it is

I totally disagree. I can understand that yes, taking care of your children is not 24/7 FUN. And yes, you do need some "you" time, but the way she described her feelings was just plain selfishness. A mother is supposed to be the nurturer. You are there to encourage them, help them build self confidence, encourage their imagination, and show them attention, love, & affection.

I'm sorry, but when you have a baby, it is no longer your life. It is that childs. YES, your relationship w/ yourself & your spouse needs attention, but really, I think we can agree that a baby & children take up A LOT of your time.

I can understand where a mother needs some one on one time or she feels she can contribute best to her childs life by working as she thinks she is a better mother when she is, but to talk about your children like that is disgusting. Than we wonder why some children are the way they are. THeir parents don't give 2 shits whats going on in their life and they let someone else raise them.

There is no way I agree w/ what she wrote. I'm sorry, but when you have children, your goal should be to be a GREAT mother. I find it VERY sad if someone doesn't feel that way.


Very well said. I am a firm believer that once you have a child, it's not about you anymore, it's about your child. Yes you cannot neglect yourself but you cannot neglect your children for yourself either.

Ultimately, I hope that I am a great mom. The experience I've had being with my neice and nephew and my best friends daughter has taught me that time passes all too quickly and if you blink you might miss it so to cherish every moment you have with your children.

I feel sorry for that woman. She leads what sounds like an extremely shallow existence. :dunno :no

I totally agree with you, Rach.

Of course I don't spend every second of every day just totally captivated by every little thing my kids do... they have their own time to do their own things, I don't just sit and stare at them 24 hours a day watching them put every single puzzle or every single block together. BUT, overall, I could never say I am bored by my children and allow someone else to totally raise them. Who knows if she will look back and regret it, but I feel very sad for her children who will never know what it's like to have that incredible mother and child bond. I don't think that bond always comes easily. Sometimes, I do believe moms have to really work at wanting to be a good mom. But to me, even if being a mom isn't what you thought it would be, it's your responsibility to stop being totally selfish and learn how to put your child first. I don't think being an individual has to stop, I don't think doing things for yourself has to stop. I do think that it's unfair to carry on with your life like you have no children though. My personal opinion on the matter is that I think it's very selfish to allow anyone to raise your kids anymore than you HAVE to. If you have to work, get a nanny for working hours if you can afford it. But allowing the nanny to take the place of mommy is just wrong :no

Maybe I just have a hard time seeing things from her perspective. I just don't understand how a mother could not want to be involved in everything possible. I would never WANT to miss out on their lives the way she is missing out on her childrens'. Once you realize how incredibly rewarding the small things are... watching your child put two blocks together, seeing your child pick up a piece of cereal for the first time, watching your little one start to dance when music comes on... that stuff really is INCREDIBLE. Those are the things I will NEVER forget and will really hold dear to my heart for the rest of my life. These things happen ONCE. You get ONE shot with each child. ONE shot to treasure today. And damn does it ever go by fast :( Like I said, I dunno if she will regret it one day. Maybe she will, maybe she won't. But I always think it's really sad when children don't get the chance to build a relationship and bond with their mom. That is something that carries on into adulthood and children learn from example.

Again, I agree. Hell, my little baby girl is sick, did not sleep at all last night and I have been sitting here on the couch watching PBS and enjoying every minute of her cuddling since 7am. Now she is sleeping while I hold her and again, I am enjoying it all even though I am as sleep deprived if the new baby were here already!

I really feel for her kids. :(

WWWOOOWWW. That just makes me sad. I can't begin to form an opinion about the article really because it just makes me very very sad and I can't begin to fathom actually feeling that way. Some of you have already taken up a stance that supports her and agrees in some ways with the article - but me - I can't even PRETEND that I understand how anyone could not be interested in their children. I can't PRETEND that I understand how anyone would become bored with their babies and prefer that the nanny read their bedtime story. If you want to get TECHNICAL, I disagree with nannies altogether in the first place :lol But that's not what we're talking about here.

I'm sad for her that she can't feel what I feel for my child (and my stepson), because it is such an amazing wonderful feeling that I believe every woman should be able to feel. I feel sad for her children because she's not there for them, and regardless if she tells them she's bored with them and doesn't want to be around them, kids aren't stupid and they already know. I'm sad for the nanny because the whole thing must break her heart.

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And to top it off, if she really felt that way, why have two???

I'm sad for her that she can't feel what I feel for my child (and my stepson), because it is such an amazing wonderful feeling that I believe every woman should be able to feel. I feel sad for her children because she's not there for them, and regardless if she tells them she's bored with them and doesn't want to be around them, kids aren't stupid and they already know. I'm sad for the nanny because the whole thing must break her heart.


I see what your saying Becca, but I don't feel sad for her. You can make the chioce and she is making the choice to be selfish :no

But Rach I don't think it's her choice. I don't know about you, but I can't choose to feel a certain way about something. I can try to talk myself into or out of my feelings all the live long day, but I can't choose to feel differently about anything. I can choose to THINK differently, I can choose to ACT differently, but feelings are something that are out of my control. I disagree with her choices...the choice to have a second child, the choice to stay busy and be a workaholic, but if she had the feelings that you and I have for our children, her choices would be different. That's why I'm sad for her.

But Rach I don't think it's her choice. I don't know about you, but I can't choose to feel a certain way about something. I can try to talk myself into or out of my feelings all the live long day, but I can't choose to feel differently about anything. I can choose to THINK differently, I can choose to ACT differently, but feelings are something that are out of my control. I disagree with her choices...the choice to have a second child, the choice to stay busy and be a workaholic, but if she had the feelings that you and I have for our children, her choices would be different. That's why I'm sad for her.

I do think feelings are a choice. I think love is a choice. I think it's all in how you let yourself view things. I choose to love Phil & I choose to love Gabby. To be honest, when I first had her, I really wanted to go back to work. There was a point I felt like this is who I am? Then after really thinking about it, I decided to make the choice to feel happy & thankful I can be at home and I felt I should want to treasure the opportunity I've been given. Now, I couldn't imagine it any other way. It's all in a matter how how you think. You can let yourself think of the negative points or you can let yourself think of the positives. She CAN choose to see a better side of wanting to be a mothering role to her sons. She can choose to think about why she needs to be there rather than the nanny. But she doesn't. She chooses to continue seeing things the way she does, rather realizing that she is a MOTHER and has obligations and has a role that should be fullfilled. :shrug

I'm not saying that she ISN'T selfish. But she has a point about the folks who don't do ANYTHING for themselves. I don't think it's healthy for my life to completely revolve around my daughter's. I love her and care for her. My work scheduled has changed because of her - i come home earlier and work after she goes to bed if things still need to be done. But I didn't quit my job to be home with her. Does that make me selfish? Does it make me selfish that I wanted to continue my career that I enjoy for myself, that something outside of my daughter fulfills me?

I totally agree with you, Rach.

Of course I don't spend every second of every day just totally captivated by every little thing my kids do... they have their own time to do their own things, I don't just sit and stare at them 24 hours a day watching them put every single puzzle or every single block together. BUT, overall, I could never say I am bored by my children and allow someone else to totally raise them. Who knows if she will look back and regret it, but I feel very sad for her children who will never know what it's like to have that incredible mother and child bond. I don't think that bond always comes easily. Sometimes, I do believe moms have to really work at wanting to be a good mom. But to me, even if being a mom isn't what you thought it would be, it's your responsibility to stop being totally selfish and learn how to put your child first. I don't think being an individual has to stop, I don't think doing things for yourself has to stop. I do think that it's unfair to carry on with your life like you have no children though. My personal opinion on the matter is that I think it's very selfish to allow anyone to raise your kids anymore than you HAVE to. If you have to work, get a nanny for working hours if you can afford it. But allowing the nanny to take the place of mommy is just wrong :no



I agree! I dont feel that the parents should spend 24/7 with there children. It is not good for the children or the parents. (obvious exceptions to newborns or sick children). I do feel bad for the children but I have to agrre w/ Sonia also it is a british tabloid and a bit over the top. But I think we all really need to sit down and think about this. Her children are not starving, on the streets running around naked etc. As much as everyone may not agree with her 100% we should look at the fact that her children are healthy, safe, fed and loved (even if it is by a nanny or a mom who has trouble expressing emotions).

I think what the main point of this whole article is to say that Moms and Dads should not forget about themselves. Of course your children are important (I never said they weren't) but you must not forget who you are as an individual. Only then can you be a great parent, spouse and friend.

Does it make me selfish that I wanted to continue my career that I enjoy for myself, that something outside of my daughter fulfills me?

No it doesn't...You still spend quality time w/ her and act like a mother to her...

Of course your children are important (I never said they weren't) but you must not forget who you are as an individual. Only then can you be a great parent, spouse and friend.

100% :yes

Yeah, I think that's a given, Gabrielle...I think what the problem is is the fact she talked about her children like that and treats them accordingly.

No it doesn't...You still spend quality time w/ her and act like a mother to her...

Just checking because when I read some of the responses that's what sounds like is being said. I don't think I'm selfish. Frankly, I wouldn't be as good of a mother if I stayed home - I wouldn't be happy.

I know, I never said I agreed with how she went about expressing herself. In fact I found it rather cold and shallow at some points. I dont even talk about my worst enimies like she talks aobut her children at certain sections. I just think like I said before that the main point of this whole article is to not forget about yourself!

Just checking because when I read some of the responses that's what sounds like is being said. I don't think I'm selfish. Frankly, I wouldn't be as good of a mother if I stayed home - I wouldn't be happy.

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She didn't say she hated her kids!......but sometimes feelings such as these are better kept inside and not put out there for the whole world to judge. She's not alone in her feelings but she is one of the few people in this world that will actually tell how they feel. I don't hate this woman, nor will I judge her.

I for one cannot force myself to feel a certain way! I might be able to trick my mind into feeling a certain way (for a while) but in the end that always fails for me! Oh IMO of course:D

Maybe I am just strange :lol

Thankfully I felt that kind of love for Gabby, though.

She didn't say she hated her kids!......but sometimes feelings such as these are better kept inside and not put out there for the whole world to judge. She's not alone in her feelings but she is one of the few people in this world that will actually tell how they feel. I don't hate this woman, nor will I judge her.

I for one cannot force myself to feel a certain way! I might be able to trick my mind into feeling a certain way (for a while) but in the end that always fails for me! Oh IMO of course:D


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and I agree with Becca too :yes


She is still being responsible and making sure they are cared for. She could be drowning them :(

Oh an maybe I think a little differently on the whole situation because my dad and his 4 siblings were taken to foster care and literally given away when they were ages 6 months to 9 years.......GIVEN away :no

Her daughter (my dads sister) did the SAME exact thing to her 8 year old daughter. She took and gave her awya in the eighties to foster care. 8 years old:sadeyes

Oh an maybe I think a little differently on the whole situation because my dad and his 4 siblings were taken to foster care and literally given away when they were ages 6 months to 9 years.......GIVEN away :no

Her daughter (my dads sister) did the SAME exact thing to her 8 year old daughter. She took and gave her awya in the eighties to foster care. 8 years old:sadeyes

:no The poor girl!!! How is she doing now?? Was anyone in the family able to take her.

She never said she hated them in those words, but she came close, IMO. Some of the things she said were just sad. Sure, I'd rather her hire a nanny to care for them than neglect them by leaving them alone in the cold, but that doesn't make her behavior excuseable, IMO.

I'm all for having a life of your own and through out this article she talks about how people think she's a bad mom just because she is not suzy homemaker who is 100% focused and centered in on her kids. The truth is that I don't think she's a bad mom because she chooses not to stay at home or attend other children's birthday parties or have the nanny stay for a bedtime story. My problem is that she shows absolutely ZERO interest in any part of her children. She doesn't watch their sports or activities, she doesn't get involved with the school, she doesn't watch movies with them, she doesn't even want to read them night time stories. She DREADS these things and thinks it's okay to not do them just because she can hire someone to do it for her. Those are HER children. Sure, she may be a slightly better mom than someone who's drowned their kids or starved their kids, but I still think she is a crap excuse for a mom. Nothing can justify dreading being an active part in your kids' lives. Its not like she just doesn't like being involved in one or two specific acitivities. This woman DREADS being an active part of ANYTHING that her children do or want to do. That is just SAD!

It's all about balance. I'm not here to judge moms who choose to work or who don't want to be the soccer mom who attends all their kids' sporting events. I won't think you're a bad mom just because you don't volunteer on field trips or bake cupcakes for the whole 3rd grade class every friday. But the balance in her life is WAY off. She is not just a working mom doing something for herself. She is a mom who dreads her own children. That does make her a bad mom, IMO.

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Well since I talk to my real dad VERY little (we have a bad relationship) I don't know much about her life. I know she is doing fairly well and was adopted by a single woman back then. No one was able to take her in because my dad's family is all messed up! Sadly though my aunt did regret what she did, but was brutally murdered a few years later:sadeyes

The mental ilness that runs on my dad side is insanely sad, if I gave you the details it would seem like some kind of twisted novel:sadeyes

She never said she hated them in those words, but she came close, IMO. Some of the things she said were just sad. Sure, I'd rather her hire a nanny to care for them than neglect them by leaving them alone in the cold, but that doesn't make her behavior excuseable, IMO.

I'm all for having a life of your own and through out this article she talks about how people think she's a bad mom just because she is not suzy homemaker who is 100% focused and centered in on her kids. The truth is that I don't think she's a bad mom because she chooses not to stay at home or attend other children's birthday parties or have the nanny stay for a bedtime story. My problem is that she shows absolutely ZERO interest in any part of her children. She doesn't watch their sports or activities, she doesn't get involved with the school, she doesn't watch movies with them, she doesn't even want to read them night time stories. She DREADS these things and thinks it's okay to not do them just because she can hire someone to do it for her. Those are HER children. Sure, she may be a slightly better mom than someone who's drowned their kids or starved their kids, but I still think she is a crap excuse for a mom. Nothing can justify dreading being an active part in your kids' lives. Its not like she just doesn't like being involved in one or two specific acitivities. This woman DREADS being an active part of ANYTHING that her children do or want to do. That is just SAD!

It's all about balance. I'm not here to judge moms who choose to work or who don't want to be the soccer mom who attends all their kids' sporting events. I won't think you're a bad mom just because you don't volunteer on field trips or bake cupcakes for the whole 3rd grade class every friday. But the balance in her life is WAY off. She is not just a working mom doing something for herself. She is a mom who dreads her own children. That does make her a bad mom, IMO.

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I couldn't even finish reading that! I hope she was exaggerating and I hope her sons never read it. If she was so bored with the first son, why in the world did she have another one?