I really wasn't sure where to put this, or wether to write anything at all. I just miscarried. I didn't even know I was pregnant and it happened right after Aaron left and I'm feeling very mixed up and upset and emotional. I don't know whether to tell Aaron - he'd be so upset, and I really don't know how to handle this myself. I'm not sure I want to tell my family or friends and I don't know where to turn. Please, if anyone has any advice I'd be very grateful.

oh honey-I'm so very sorry for yor loss!You are in my thoughts & :pray -Aaron deserves to know sweety!

BTDT many times. you need to tell Aaron. he is the one that really be able to help you through this. it may upset him as well, but imagine if he were to find out about it later on. :hugs :hugs

I'm sorry. I've miscarried before 3 times. The first was the hardest. I would do what YOU feel comfortable with. If you feel the support from them would help you then share, but if you feel it will bring you down and more upset, don't. It is a very personal thing, and I could understand not wanting to share. :hugs Once again, I'm sorry.

I'm so sorry, it's a very difficult and emotional thing to go through. I agree with the others that you should tell Aaron about it.

I'm so sorry. I would tell him, just to have someone to talk to about it.

I'm so sorry Sonia :hugs I would tell Aaron though :yes Not only does he have a right to know (although i understand you are trying to protect him) but you shouldn't have to go through this by yourself...He is your husband & you are in the situation together. :hugs

:tears I know. He's going to be so devastated though, and he's so far away.

:tears I know. He's going to be so devastated though, and he's so far away.

I'm not sure what I would do in your shoes, even though I wrote that above...When will you see him again? That's what really sucks about being away from your husband...times like this...:hugs

I'll see him at Xmas

:hugs Sonia you are in my prayers. I think you should tell Aaron because it is his child and his right to know. Sweetheart I am thinking of you-I can't even begin to fathom how heartwrenching this is for you. :pray :hugs

I'm so sorry Sonia :hugs I would tell Aaron though :yes Not only does he have a right to know (although i understand you are trying to protect him) but you shouldn't have to go through this by yourself...He is your husband & you are in the situation together. :hugs

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I am so sorry!!! :hugs

I am so sorry for your loss. At any stage of pregancy miscarraige is difficult, whether you knew you were pregnant or not.
You definitely should tell Aaron. He's your husband, and he deserves the chance to be there for you emotionally.
My advice would be to let yourself cry. I held it all in when I lost our baby, and it built up and built up until it exploded.

Sonia I'm SOOO sorry!! I'm praying for you girl!!! You really should let Aaron know. He'd be the best support you could ask for and you two can get each other through it. It's hard with him being so far away but you should talk to him! I'm praying for you girl and I'm soo sorry for you loss!!! :hugs :hugehug

I'm sorry for the loss :hugs Whether it upsets your husband or not, you need to tell him. He is your husband and has the right to know. You share the good and the bad with your spouse and how they handle it is up to them

Oh Sonia sweetie I am so sorry to hear that. :hugs :hugs but i agree with the rest of the ladies you really should let Aaron know so you dont have to go thru this loss alone. you need his emotional support just like he will need yours too. you are each others comfort at a time like this.

I'm so sorry Sonia :no :hugs

I'm so sorry! I don't have any advice on what to do besides tell your husband, pray a lot, and keep really busy. Surround yourself with people you love! My mom miscarried twins - she lost one and lost the other one a month later. That was so hard on her. I'm praying for you while I'm typing this - take care, hun! :hugs

:hugs I'd tell him. This is something you should go through together and support each other with.

Gosh Sonia, I am SO sorry to hear about this :hugs I would definately tell Aaron...He's your husband and I know one of the reasons you married him was because you can always turn to him when you need to, and I'm probably safe to say you need to right now.

I really think you should tell him. I'll tell you why...

When Tony and I were first together I got pregnant and we werent sure if I was or not, well he took a trip down here to Va to see his daughter and ex wife (we were living in Mass at the time) and the day he left I found out I was pregnant (I was close to 10 weeks at that point). I planned to surprise him and tell him when he got back. A couple days later I started to miscarry and I was SO SO upset. He called me and I was crying trying to tell him, he wasn't listening to me telling him I was losing the baby and he blew me off because him , his ex wife and daughter were going to dinner, I was so hurt that he didn't care to listen to me that I never told him about it or talked about it afterwards when he got back and I saw him 2 weeks later. He found out overhearing me talking to Kathy while I was pregnant for Cameron about it. He was so upset that I didn't tell him. I still blame that on him though... but nonetheless, you should really tell him. I went through it alone too, so I know it's hard

I am so sorry Sonia.:tears :hugs I would definately tell Aaron, it'll give you a chance to talk about it and let everything out. :pray :pray :pray :hugs :hugs :hugs

I'm so sorry sweetie :( :hugs

Oh Sonia Im so sorry. You need to tell him. It make you feel better and you'll have someone to help you through.

You need to tell your man what happened, its his right to know and also his right to help you through it. He wouldn't want you to go through all of this alone and you will be amazed on how much he will help you through this.

Im so sorry this happened, talk and talk about your feelings, cry and cry until you can't cry no more. Even though you didn't expect it- its still a shock to you and your body.

xxx

Im so sorry. :hugs I haven't been where you are so I can only imagine how you are feeling.:tears You need to tell him its his child too and you can get through it together.

I told him. I didn't realise it was a duty day. I felt so crappy for starting his day like that. He hasn't said much yet, he was asking if I was ok. I don't think we'll get a chance to talk until he gets home from work tomorrow evening. I hate this - I hate feeling crappy and crampy and emotional and I hate not having him here! (sorry, I should've just put this in the venting forum!)

are you sure its not just a really bad period? afterall, you did say you didn't know you were pg? just a thought.

:hugs i'm so sorry you're going through this :(

the dr said it was, though I guess he could be wrong :dunno

I am so sorry :hugs I'm really glad you got to talk to Aaron though, I think you did the right thing by telling him.

the dr said it was, though I guess he could be wrong :dunno

you're in my thoughts. did he take pg test? when my roommate miscarried, she got a + for a week after the mc.... in any case, wrong or right, i'm sorry you're going through the anguish of all of this. we're here for you.

I would first go to the dr and make sure everything passed and you are 100% healthy. Then tell him what happened. I am so sorry for your loss. :hugs

I'm so sorry for your loss sweetie :hugs

But I went through this too, I miscarried with my ex and never told him, I regret it now just because he had a right to know, even though I understand you wanting to protect him too, and because you can lean on your friends and they can support you and be there for you but there is nothing like having that support from you husband ... (L) I'm so sorry again :hugs

:hugs I've had a miscarriage too. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I would definitely tell him. You need his support right now.

Many :hugs to you :(

i JUST saw this. :hugs

i dont really know what to say.

im here if you want to talk (L)

I am sorry for your loss..I don't know what to say except if you need anything, message me!! :hugs