Did any ofyour SO's suffer from anxiety at the thought of being a new dad ?

Nick is starting to get very nervous sounding in his e-mails .. He says he's scared he's not going to be a good father because he was never really taught how to be a good provider from his father. I keep telling him he's already a wonderful provider but he's still scared ... :worried

I think thats natural, the fear of the unknown, you are great for reminding him he will do fine!

Just keep letting him know that he will be a good provider and father. :)

I think every father/mother probably goes through that. And just because his dad wasn't the best, doesn't mean he wont be! :thumbsup :hugs

I'm not sure about Jason since he was gone all but 3 months of the pregnancy and really only 2 of those we knew I was pregnant.

He was a little nervous even when I was pregnant with Hayden though. I think the thought of having two kids was a little scary for him and everything was new even though he was already a dad since he missed the pregnancy and the first 7 months with Madison.

Just keep reassuring him!

Very natural...I think the fact he's so worried is a good sign he will do the best he can do! If he wasn't, that would give the impression he didn't take it that serious!

I found a new dad book at the bookstore the other day and it was really cute and dealt with alot about being nervous about being a new dad and being a part of the pregnancy .. I'm going to send it to him and hopefully it'll make him feel better too ....

I agree with Rach. Just being worried he wont be good enough is a really good thing. Hes already sent baby gifts. It really shows hes thinking about you and the baby.

I found a new dad book at the bookstore the other day and it was really cute and dealt with alot about being nervous about being a new dad and being a part of the pregnancy .. I'm going to send it to him and hopefully it'll make him feel better too ....

I have some books he can read if you he wants! Just some Dad books..I'll give them to you tomorrow :wink

I have some books he can read if you he wants! Just some Dad books..I'll give them to you tomorrow :wink

Thanks chica!! :D

I got the feeling that Camryn wasn't "real" to Glenn until he could feel her kicking... I remember he was nervous about getting my pregnancy confirmed before we called and told anyone that my EPT had shown a positive...LOL..

I'm sure that he's going through what all new dad's go through... it's normal, and I'm sure if you let him read some books or he talks to some other dads he'll see that he'll be just fine. Sometimes we can give our men all the reassurance in the world, but until they hear it from someone else, it's hard for them to believe it..

I'm so happy for y'all and you're both going to be awesome parents...

I think it's totally normal. Rod still got nervous when we had Taniyah! We'd had so many babies in and out of the house by that point but he was still nervous. He'll be a great Dad!!

DH isn't much of a reader, but I thought if I got him a book that was funny and stuff, he might read it. I found this book that was funny and entertaining, and easy to read and understand (I read before mailing it to him..lol):

The New Dad's Survival Guide: Man-to-Man Advice for First-Time Fathers

He was deployed while I was pregnant and would be coming home to an instant family. He read some of it and said it kind of helped. DH's deployment roommate found out not long after getting deployed that his girl was preggo too. He borrowed the book and read it cover to cover (he was terrified of becoming a dad)-he said it helped quite a bit. So I think sending books and info to prepare is a good idea.

I think being nervous is normal. Even I got scared/nervous about being a mom at the end of my pregnancy when DD was almost here.

DH said he wasn't nervous about being a Dad, but when he came home from deployment and was faced with actually doing it is when he started freaking out a little. He was scared of changing diapers for a while because he said it didn't seem right for him to be dealing with her "girl parts." He didn't really know what to do with/how to comfort her when she cried and would kind of freak. Just things like that....I think it's all normal, though...They get over it...

I remember he was nervous about getting my pregnancy confirmed before we called and told anyone that my EPT had shown a positive

My DH too! He didn't want to tell anyone until we'd had it confirmed-I had to push him to let us tell our parents before going to the dr.s..lol

He just now told his parents :giggle but we really wanted to make sure everything was going to work out because of my past ...

Bryan definitely did get an anxiety about becoming a new dad. He was afraid of being a terrible father like his own Dad. I did, however, *make* Bryan take the New Daddy Bootcamp class offered by the Navy's Fleet and Family Services. He really enjoyed the class. I can totally say that Bryan is the best Daddy to our Ethan. Bryan enjoys being a daddy and seeing Ethan smiling at him day in and day out. I think it's totally normal for new dads to act this way, because they aren't aware of what life with a baby is like. Bryan and I were just having a conversation about that last week. He thought, before Ethan was born, parenthood was just full of responsibilities and that no fun was involved...LOL!!! Now he KNOWS that that is not true! :) Parenthood is full with all sorts of emotions...

Ya, John was scared. I think everything that was happening at the time scared him though. He went from being single, on his own, going out to the bars and clubs several nights a week to being an expectant parent and husband in less than 3 months. Even still though he did great. He got to be the first one to hold her which I think helped him. As the dr. continued to work on me he sat down in the chair and held her. He cried but he denies it. It seems like it came natural to him. Even with him being as scared as he was he just knew what to do. I have to say I couldn't ask for a better father for my kids than him. He is really great. Breanna is definetely a daddy's girl, too. I also wanted to add that John wasn't just scared about the baby. He was also scared of something happening and either loosing both of us or just one of us. I think what scared him the most was loosing me and then having to care for a baby as well. He didn't talk to me about it when I was pregnant with Breanna but he did when I was pregnant with Johnny.

Thanks for the advice and help ladies .. I keep tellin him it's completley normal but he still thinks he's going to do something wrong .. I told him when he comes home we can spend all weekend just freaking out together and maybe that'll make us feel better :giggle

My hubby is afraid of dying and leaving me and the baby behind. Although the reason he joined the navy to begin with was because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to provide for me and baby (even though I wasn't pregnant at the time). I figure it's normal.

I know hubby is feeling it too eventhough he'd probably hate to admit it. He's also one of the guys that's afraid of not being a good daddy because his father left them when DH was 3 or 4 years old.

My DH was terrified at first and then it just went along great!! And again we're both nervous!!

Did any ofyour SO's suffer from anxiety at the thought of being a new dad ?

Nick is starting to get very nervous sounding in his e-mails .. He says he's scared he's not going to be a good father because he was never really taught how to be a good provider from his father. I keep telling him he's already a wonderful provider but he's still scared ... :worried

Robert was the same way and still thinks he isn't a great dad at times. Just keep telling him he is going to be an amazing father and tell him to wait until the baby is born and lights up at the mere sight of him. That should change his mind a little :)