This deployment coming up soon is to not a so nice part of the world. AND I'm already panicking. I cry everytime I turn around, not sleeping, getting migraines from stress. Please tell me I'm an idiot and snap out of it. No one around here gets it.
I guess no point to this..

Honestly I'd be the same way :(

You are being realistic. Get your worries out now and then enjoy the time he is still here. If you need to go talk/vent to a councelor. Overall I am sure you will be fine. But you are not doing anything abnormal. :hugs When you have no one to talk to post here. There is almost always some one online anyway.

Thank you..I appreciate it. Everyone here says nothing will happen to him. But I live with the realities of this life and I can't live like that, trying to fool myself that it's a normal deployment. I don't think anything will happen but the whatif's are killing me.

You are definitely not being an idiot. That's normal for a lot of people. Right before dh deployed last Sept. I was a wreck same as you are now. I couldn't sleep, didn't feel good, cried a lot. Just keep talking to each other, that seems to help some. HUGS!

You're not an idiot. How you feel is normal! :hugs Do you have a journal? Sometimes that helps me.

I'm sorry your having such a rough time. Journals are great.
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In NO way are you an idiot........and anyone who tells you are is a COMPLETE idiot.

Deployments ~ no matter where they are to are stressful to prepare for. It adds stress when they will be deployed to a dangerous area. It also does not help calm fears when there is endless news coverage on the region.

I agree with the ladies who suggested to start a journal ~ talk to someone. Maybe it would be a good time to plan for a trip back home while your DH is deployed.

I would look into starting activities ~ if you don't have any.

Best of luck to you. You and your family will be im my prayers.

your not an idiot. dont be hard on yourself. what your feeling is normal and i hope you find things to distract you and make you more at ease. the girls on this site are awesome also. so lean on them.

Well, I won't tell you you're an idiot because it would be a lie. You're perfectly normal to be scared! You should sit down and bawl and let it all go...and then stand up and enjoy the rest of the time with your hubby before he goes :) He may very well be feeling alot of the same things you are, you two should sit down and talk with each other about what you're thinking and what you're feeling.

Definitely not an idiot. You are completely justified in your emotions. Don't ever let anyone tell you that your not. We are all here, and many understand completely what you are going thru. My thoughts and prayers are with you husband and his unit, as well as your family.

Maybe you can start planning ahead for the deployment. Distract yourself from worrying by placing into the category of a to-do task. Like start putting together a package that you'll mail off immediately upon his departure. Compile a scrapbook, something that will take some extra time. Set up some sort of schedule for how you want to plan your days. Do you have any personal goals that you want to accomplish during that time?

When I start to get emotional and stressed out, the best way to calm myself down is to try to tackle the problem logically, start organizing and planning to distract myself. That way I start approaching the thing that has me so upset from a different direction. You probably aren't going to wake up one day and not be worried about it, but being proactive in assuaging those worries to one degree or another always helps.

Think about it this way: You might not be able to be there to look after him and know he's safe at all times, but you can be -his- support system. Send him a letter every day, send along an e-mail, photos he'll like. If he's happy and supported, then he'll be able to focus on his work, stay more alert, keep himself safe. So in effect, you're doing something big. Right now, you could start planning all the fun things you're going to do to keep in touch and put a smile on his face each morning. :)

:sadeyes :hugs I hope it gets well as better as it can be. You are being perfectly normal when dealing with a deployment. Keep ya chin up

What everyone wrote is right :yes I'm sorry you have to deal w/ this :( :hugs

Thank you for all the ideas. I just needed to talk to people who get it. I will definitely stay busy...I have three classes, the boys, work etc. Jeff does want me to go to his parents. I will in december but I'll come back for work and school. My granny is right around the corner but my family stresses me more than they help.
Becca, you're right, that's what I need to do...cry, let it out, then have fun.

When Eli was in the hospital with his staph infection my aunt told me I had to learn to stand on my own two feet. She then tried to retract the statement saying she thought we were just in the E.R. All I wanted her to do is pick up Ethan from daycare so I could get him to a friend.

Thanks again!

GOod luck, you know we're all here for you. Many of us know what it's like to have someone important "over there" so if you want to talk...

:hugs You are in my thoughts honey, hang in there!

I agree with everyone else! I would be feeling the same way.

You are not an idiot! I think everybody has fears and is emotional when their husbands are preparing to deploy and it doesn't make it easier when it is in a dangerous place. I would start a journal as well. When Robert was gone I kept one that I would write to him and sent it out to him about half way through so he knew what was going on with me and how I was feeling. Not to mention this seems to be a great place for advice and help during tough times and I am sure we all can empathize in one way or the other. I hope things get a bit better for you though :)

:hugs and more :hugs

:hugs Hey, we're here for you!! My door is always open. When Jeff leaves if you want to hang out down here for a few days, you are welcome to stay with us!

You know how to reach me if you need anything. Hang in there!:hugs

stay strong & hang in there sweety!:hugs :hugs ;)

No, you aren't an idiot! It sounds like you're having a normal reaction. Hope you get all the fear and frustration out and are able to calm down soon so you can enjoy each moment with your dh until he deploys. I'll be praying for you and your dh. :hugs

I feel the same way...and sleepy a lot too:( Please do not feel like an idiot..you are not one! Please pm me if you need anything :)
xoxxoxo