I'm not sure this is something to debate but I'd like some thoughts.

I suppose Im just a jealous person but if got my tubes tied John would have to get snipped. I feel that if take away my ablilty to have more children so should he. If we ever got divorced I think it would make me sick if he could move on to have more kids and I couldn't.

I know some of you on here have your tubes tied or your husband has had a vasectomy. Why did you chose yourself or him? Anyone here have both of you done? Would any of you feel like I would?

Tubes tied and regret it

I have thought about having my tubes tied...because I am 99% sure I am done. There is still that 1% though that I may want another so for me the best choice was to get the 10 year copper Iud.

For us, if we go the permanent route it will be John getting it done. I don't like the idea of having to have surgery to get my tubes tied and I've heard the risk is higher for me to get my tubes tied than for him to be snipped. If I had to get a c-section that would be different. And he has stated he doesn't want anymore kids. I'm trying to work on that. We decided we will talk about it again when he goes on sea duty but he is pretty set in not wanting anymore kids. I would like to have 1 more so if we would ever divorce then I could still have that 1 more if I found someone and I was still able to get pg. But if John decides that absolutely no he doesn't want anymore there shouldn't be aproblem with him being snipped even if we would divorce. Not that we are talking about divorce or anything but only God knows what is in store for us.

I have an IUD too (LOVE IT) but what Im wondering is that if you have your tubes tied would it make you jealous if later on you got divorced, moved on met some one wonderful but can't have more kids mean while your (ex) husband can have more kids. Am I the only one that would be upset by a decision we made together for ourselves? Then things didn't work and I can't change my mind but he can.

I want him to do it because shoot I dealt with pregnancies and deliveries, the least he can do is go through the snipping part. scaredy cat though. I might be the one that says forget it, quit whining, I'll get my tubes tied.
If we get divorced and he has more kids, it doesn't bother me too much because I won't be paying for them.

We're not getting divorced or getting my tubes tied or anything. I just have ALOT of time to think about things after the kids go to bed.

I understand what you're saying about feeling jealous. I doubt I would because I don't want anymore, but you never know how I'll feel if I was in that situation. I can't say right now though.

yeah I have too much thinking time too sometimes.

Ya, I would be jealous, mad, seeing red type deal. Especially if he went ahead and had more but said no to having more with me so I went ahead and tied my tubes so after the divorce I couldn't have anymore no matter if I found a new guy, wanted more, and was still able to or not. Preciously why I refuse to get my tubes tied and say if he is dead set on not having more kids then he needs to be snipped.

I understand what you're saying about feeling jealous. I doubt I would because I don't want anymore, but you never know how I'll feel if I was in that situation. I can't say right now though.

Same here.

Ya, I would be jealous, mad, seeing red type deal. Especially if he went ahead and had more but said no to having more with me so I went ahead and tied my tubes so after the divorce I couldn't have anymore no matter if I found a new guy, wanted more, and was still able to or not. Preciously why I refuse to get my tubes tied and say if he is dead set on not having more kids then he needs to be snipped.


Thats what Im talking about if we both made the decision not to have anymore kids but he changed his mind once hes not with me.

Now to be totally hyprictial it would fine if I was the one having more kids.

Dh is getting fixed since I gave him children :lol:

We both decided that after we have our next one we will both go in and get it done.

Adam got done 2 weeks after Aaron was born and that was a decission we both made. And we are happy that it was done.

Dh always said he would get snipped when we were done and he did, about 4 years ago :) I'm perfectly ok with that..I've never had any type of surgery so I was glad he volunteered.

well for one i know i am done having kids cause im 44 LOL so jealousy is not an issue and i dont plan on letting my hubby go anywhere so divorce isnt an issue either. but he doesnt even want to consider getting snipped either. there really is no need for it.

And your still looking great cat!

Its way too early for me to even think of it. but i really wouldn't wanna go under the knife unless it was life threatening.

oh getting my tubes tied wasnt all that bad. and thanks for that nice compliment :-)

my dh had a vasectemy done. He just came home one day and said he wanted to go through with it. I was surprised, because he doesn't do well with pain.

dh and i don't think we would ever alter our reproductive system that way. you just never know what God has planned for you. we will be careful just like we are being now regarding taking precautions against pregnancy but we don't want anything so permenant

i got mine tied. whether we get divorced or not... doesnt change the fact that i have 3 kids. mine were cut tied and burned. i am done. but then again, Chris was a c-section, so i was already opened up anyways. i have no ill feeling about DH not being snipped. i know that i can afford no more children. and DH will have to think about that as well if anything happened with us.

my tubes are not tied but dh had a vas because he told me I carried & birthed his 2 children, the least he could do was that-he respects me greatly & didn't want me to mess with the womans intricate inner system-Carrying a child is enough.He is so sweet

my tubes are not tied but dh had a vas because he told me I carried & birthed his 2 children, the least he could do was that-he respects me greatly & didn't want me to mess with the womans intricate inner system-Carrying a child is enough.He is so sweet

:lovestruck That's so sweet of him honey

When Tony and I are 100% sure that we are done then he will get a vasectomy. We are thinking of having 1 or 2 more... after we think we're done I will get an IUD so that we can still think it over for a while so we have NO regrets.

When I'm at the point in my life that I'm done having kids, my husband will have a vasectomy. It's something I plan on discussing before we get married. I went through the pain of having kids, it's his turn.

I am very point blank with this idea. My Dad was not around when my sis and I grew up (both parents are equally responsible for this but that is another story) My Dad, who almost never paid any child support, now has 3 more children by another woman who he sees everyday. I am happy for them and love them very much but it still burns me a bit. :mumble

I told my Dh flat out my children are the only children he will ever give his DNA to. If tri-care starts covering the new essure process I may look into getting it done because fair is fair. :yes

But since I do not plan on getting divorced ever, he got snipped. I refuse to have an unneccessary surgury and I am not going to take the pill 20 years to have sex without a condom and no babies. :P

Stupid Question Alert!!! if you get your tubes tied can you still donate eggs?

Stupid Question Alert!!! if you get your tubes tied can you still donate eggs?

i asked that to my OB. she said that you can. makes it a little more difficult to get them, but it can be done

I've already told Jason that when we're sure we're done having children that he will be getting the vasectomy. It's safer for a man to have it done since it's minor surgery and not a major thing. Easier to reverse too if you change your mind later.

I don't think either of us will ever get snipped or tied, even after we are "done" having kids. I know I am going to get a IUD but we'll just have to be careful because I passed my hubby in the hallway and got pregnant so anything can happen!

I'll have my hubby be the one getting fixed. It's an easier process. And he agrees with me! :)

Bill has a vasectomy. We decided on him getting it done, because it's less of an abrasive procedure than if I were to have my tubes tied. We both agreed on it. Plus, I was the one who went through two pregnancies and popped out two babies, so the least he could do was get snipped :lol. We are completely done having kids. No if's and or buts about it. Now, IF , god forbid we got divorced we still wouldn't have anymore children, but we won't get divorced, so it's not even an issue. If one of us died, and got remarried we even said we wouldn't have any more children. We are just getting older (in our 30's right now), and we just don't want to start all over again with a baby.

I dont really think of the what if's. I mean I got Rods name tattooed to me when I was 20. Everyone kept telling me not to. It was permanent and god forbid, what if we got divorced. Well...I dont think about it. If something happened I would deal with it later. But I love my husband and plan on being with him forever.

That being said I was going to get my tubes tied with my section. But was talked out of it by my Dr. We only want 2 kids so I will have an IUD placed. If one of us wants to get the procedure done later then so be it.

well when i got my tubes tied they did it thru my belly button so it really wasnt bad at all or like some people think. i was just in a little bit of pain but not that much and it was gone like in a day and i was back to work in a couple of days. so to me it wasnt all that big of a deal. of course after i had it done then several months later my hubby did say he would get snipped and i said dont ya think its a little late now? LOL

DH had a vasectomy. It was his choice and I was right there. I don't want anymore kids......I had two cesareans. I was done with surgeries and the v process is SO simple and so easy. I watched!

I had our third child, my daughter on a Saturday, came home on Sunday... Monday morning hubby was getting the big V done. It was great. He went to a doc that did a no scapel procedure, no cutting. Hubby said it was done in one U2 song. Of course we were both sore for a few days, but now we can have all the monkey loving we want and not have to worry.
Three is plenty for me. If something were to happy, I still would not change what I have.
When hubby went for his consult, the doc said, "Have you thought about freezing some sperm in case one of your children dies?"
Babies are not puppies, you can not replace them! I have my two boys and my one princess, and I will enjoy them.
Well that was a bit more than two cents worth:blush