Can We Be Friends(do think you can make friends on the net?)

After reading all the drama it makes me really wonder if you can find real friends on the net, ones that won't turn there back on you if the group gets mad at you for some reason. I haven't been here aslong as some people here(I've been on here for 6 months, since March) but I have tried to get know a lot of people on here and most people have been VERY nice but some have been bitchy(I will not name names).

I know that is normal in "Real Life" too but I came here to find friends and most of the time I've had the feeling of being left out because of many reasons(I'm in a wheelchiar for one and I'm a Marine wife for another so I don't feel like I fit).

SO...............................................................................................................................................................................

do you think you can find true friends here? why/why not

PS. to the people here who have helped me I thank you.

Edited to add: I met my dh on the net so I know you can find love on the net but I asking about finding friends on support sites and stuff.

I will be your friend. :)

I think so considering I met my wonderful, sexy hubby on the internet. :D Sorry...I had to add sexy. I'm feeling a little deprived right now since it's a duty night...LMAO!

Yes, I think it's possible to find true friends on the net. Not everyone is a closet psyco... Peope suck in real life too, it's not just a net thing.. kwim?

PS..whereabouts in CA are you? If you're near the SD area, I'll come out and visit you with my lil munchkin. :D

Ofcourse you can make real friends on the net. I found true love! I said in another thread that this is "real life" its merely just another form of communication. I totally believe that.

Yes it is possible to meet really nice people via the internet. Not everyone is on here (meaning the internet) to be fake and start crap.

I've met some really incredible women because of this site and NWW!

I think so considering I met my wonderful, sexy hubby on the internet. :D Sorry...I had to add sexy. I'm feeling a little deprived right now since it's a duty night...LMAO!

I foud my dh on the net too so I know you can find love on the net I am talking about finding friends which is different when you trying to find girls to be you friend, know what I mean sorry if that made no sense.

It is harder to find female friends on the internet for me, probably cos i usually talk to guys. But i have found some real mates on SOS and i hope that i meet them soon!

yep -- i definitely have some good friends i met from here and online... :)

It can be possible. I like you feel a like an outcast here but it doesnt bother me b/c there are still really sweet ladies here that are willing to help when needed even if they dont know me that well. Ihave made great friends on another site.

Yes I do believe that you can have real friends on the internet.

It is harder to find female friends on the internet for me, probably cos i usually talk to guys. But i have found some real mates on SOS and i hope that i meet them soon!

I used to talk to alot of guy friends but now I have dh and I want friends that understand mill life I will have some rough times ahead(in the next 2 years) and I want someone to talk to that will hear me out and not just said "it will get better" or my favorite "it's mill life deal with it.

Yup. I have some wonderful friends from online. They are among the closest girl friends I have. And of course, I met my best friend, my Dh, online.

Ah Rachel- when i get to california next year , and im anywhere near you- i promise ill give you an ear whenever you need it!

I would say it's nearly impossible to truly trust someone who wears a mask every time you see them. The internet has given people a mean of posting their innermost thoughts while still being able to remain anonymous. You will never truly "know" someone online. People have no problem backstabbing if they feel there's no possibility of ever meeting you face to face.

Here's an example: I swear every other word when I'm at home and at work. It's like a fountain that I can't turn off. I seem to only be able to express myself accurately through swearing. I'm self-critical, referring to myself as fat, lazy and retarded on a daily basis.

But from the handful of posts I've made here, few would have made this assessment.

So, can you find friends on the internet? Most assuredly not, but you can certainly find people wearing similar masks that you're more than content enough to call an acquaintance.

I have quite a few friends whom I met online first. They are all Navy wives and we have met and hung out in IRL. They are awesome people.

I would say it's nearly impossible to truly trust someone who wears a mask every time you see them. The internet has given people a mean of posting their innermost thoughts while still being able to remain anonymous. You will never truly "know" someone online. People have no problem backstabbing if they feel there's no possibility of ever meeting you face to face.

Here's an example: I swear every other word when I'm at home and at work. It's like a fountain that I can't turn off. I seem to only be able to express myself accurately through swearing. I'm self-critical, referring to myself as fat, lazy and retarded on a daily basis.

But from the handful of posts I've made here, few would have made this assessment.

So, can you find friends on the internet? Most assuredly not, but you can certainly find people wearing similar masks that you're more than content enough to call an acquaintance.


I agree with you but I also think that b/c people can open up more freely on the net it gives you the opportunity to see a side you might not see right away in person.

I would say it's nearly impossible to truly trust someone who wears a mask every time you see them. The internet has given people a mean of posting their innermost thoughts while still being able to remain anonymous. You will never truly "know" someone online. People have no problem backstabbing if they feel there's no possibility of ever meeting you face to face.

Here's an example: I swear every other word when I'm at home and at work. It's like a fountain that I can't turn off. I seem to only be able to express myself accurately through swearing. I'm self-critical, referring to myself as fat, lazy and retarded on a daily basis.

But from the handful of posts I've made here, few would have made this assessment.

So, can you find friends on the internet? Most assuredly not, but you can certainly find people wearing similar masks that you're more than content enough to call an acquaintance.

I agree, right now im eating a bikkie and you wouldn't have known that. People will only be as genuine as they want to be, that goes online and offline. But genuine people are everywhere- you just need to find them.

I agree, right now im eating a bikkie and you wouldn't have known that. People will only be as genuine as they want to be, that goes online and offline. But genuine people are everywhere- you just need to find them.

:yes :agree I have friends that i talk to online and i do consider them friends i also have met people off myspace and this site and theyre friends now in real life.

I think it's possible to make friends online. I met someone from a Navy board yrs ago and we still speak. We did meet in person and have hung out several times. I've met other people from online, but we've either lost touch or it hasn't been as long as the person I mentioned before.
When I look for friends, I really don't care who pays them or how they get around. I like people with great personalities. I hope you start feeling more comfortable here.

yep i believe wholeheartedly that you can make friends on the net. i'm leaving it at that

Yep. I believe it because it has happened. I have met many people between the time I first signed onto a navy supportsite (2000) and now. And some of those are very true and dear friends to my heart. So I definatly think it is possible.

Just because it is the net doesnt mean you cant. Like real life you will have bad apples and good apples. Its just the way it is ;)

Like real life you will have bad apples and good apples. Its just the way it is ;)

This quote is so very true :yes

You want to know a little secret? :giggle

The friends I have online are more loyal and kind and sweet than the ones I have in real life.
I have a very good friend I talk to every day. We share so many things and I would consider her almost a best friend except for the fact that we've never met. :(

I honestly think that people are more :quotereal:quote online because they tend to really say what's on their mind and not hold back for fear of face to face confrontation.

The friends I have online are more loyal and kind and sweet than the ones I have in real life.

Same here!

You want to know a little secret? :giggle

The friends I have online are more loyal and kind and sweet than the ones I have in real life.
I have a very good friend I talk to every day. We share so many things and I would consider her almost a best friend except for the fact that we've never met. :(

I honestly think that people are more :quotereal:quote online because they tend to really say what's on their mind and not hold back for fear of face to face confrontation.

Same here! I have an awesome online friend who I've known for YEARS, and we've never been fortunate enough to live close enough to hang out IRL... I consider her one of my best friends! :D

Is that me, Melissa? hehe! EN1MacsWifey & I met about 4 years ago online- can't remember where exactly. But we talk every day. We're like sisters... share the drama, the hard times, deployments, etc. Even though we haven't met IRL, we've stuck together.

I met my hubby online. We all know what came of that!
I agree with Autumn, you find some loyal friends online!!!!

Is that me, Melissa? hehe! EN1MacsWifey & I met about 4 years ago online- can't remember where exactly. But we talk every day. We're like sisters... share the drama, the hard times, deployments, etc. Even though we haven't met IRL, we've stuck together.

I met my hubby online. We all know what came of that!
I agree with Autumn, you find some loyal friends online!!!!

Yeppers Beckey! That's you alright!

oh yes i really do believe you can make friends online and i know i have on here and i have friends in real life. most of my friends from down here i met online first. so yes it is possible.

oh and i met my sexy hubby online too LOL

I think you can start a good foundation for a friendship with someone. There are people I consider my online friends. And then people I have met online (mostly through this site) and got to know them IRL and formed a completely different friendship outside from the internet. Personally, I have a hard time trusting someone that I talk to strictly via internet.

when I tried to care about some people here when something was going on with them and I asked questions to people to see if the person was ok some people said it was stupid for caring because I didn't "know" them, this makes me wonder too.

I think it's possible :shrug

I Think you definately can! You just haveto watch what ppl say, some of the stuff of the ppl involved puts up red flags long before this happend!

Yes it is possible to meet really nice people via the internet. Not everyone is on here (meaning the internet) to be fake and start crap.

I've met some really incredible women because of this site and NWW!

Ditto!!! I probably wouldn't even have any real friends if it weren't for this site :rofl :scared

It's quite possible to meet true friends online .. I've met several :yes

But just like anytime you are having interaction with people online or heck just interaction with people in general, you DO have to be careful about who you trust and who you personally let into your life ... :)

I think you can find great friends online. That is how I met my best friend and we have been friends for about 3 years now.

So I believe you can find friends on here

I think it's possible. I met my dh online and he's become my biggest supporter and my one true friend :D

I'm one of those people who like face to face contact because I'm a visual person and it's easier for me to read someone when they're in front of me. Online it's hard for me to tell if someone is being sincere or just full of poop.

:hugs Rachel

You absolutely can. I have met several close friends online and I cherish them. I have "acquaintances" as well. Meaning, people that I tolerate but with whom I wouldn't share any intimate/private details of my life. It's tough to read people online, it can be very deceptive. Three of my very favorite gals on earth I met online, then met in person and now keep in touch with online. I would trust them with anything that I hold dear because sometimes you just know... feels like you grew up with a person even though you just met. You can follow your heart to some extent but use some common sense.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

You can't have a close personal relationship with everyone online, it's just not possible. Find someone you connect with and build from there. There are "clicks" that form online as well. They can be territorial just like the ones IRL. Trust has to be earned of course but suspicion/paranoid runs ramped on the internet because there is such a huge "unknown" and everyone could be putting up a false front. Once you get accustomed to the way things work, it will be easier to figure out what path is right for you on this information highway. Good luck!

I met my boyfriend on the 'net, but, about friends. yes, i do believe you can have real true friends from the net!! you've just gotta know who to trust and not to trust !!

absolutely a couple of my closest friends I actually met off of this site :)

There are several people I became friends with on the net years ago and we're still friends. I think you can. :)

I've met some great friends online. Several whom I "chatted" with for 2-4 years and then were lucky enough to be stationed in the same areas and got to meet in real life and hit it off. Actually all of my closet friends right now I met online first.

I've met some real wacko's too though LOL

I have met alot of my friends online! Plus I also met my dh online over 7 years ago!

absolutely a couple of my closest friends I actually met off of this site :)

(L) exactly. i think, though, that like RL, ppl will like or dislike other people... a message board, once people on the boards start meeting, is like a little mini electronic "reality."

It's entirely possible. I always remember that there are good people and bad people everywhere. I am just a little more cautious of making friends on the net, than I used to be.

People have just as good a chance of being nuts no matter where you meet them. They just tend to be more controversial online because they don't have to look you in the face, they are hiding behind a keyboard and a monitor.

Flip side of the coin though, people are just as likely to tell you thier deepest secrets because they are again hidden behind the monitor..........

I totally think it's possible. I have a couple of friends that I've known online for 7 years and we've never met in person (but we've talked on the phone) and I consider them to be my closest friends ever, even closer than people I'm friends with in person.

I have definitely made friends online. One of my friends from "real life" I met back on NWW. There are many people on here that I've met, and if we lived closer to each other I think we'd be great friends outside of the internet.

if it wasn't for this site, i'd still be friendless in virginia

if it wasn't for this site i'd be scared shitless as to where i'm moving too

I met my best friend on the net shortly after we got married. We have been friends for about 10 years now. We were both sworn to not meet anyone else from the net. Our DH's think we will meet crazy people.