Ladies I don't know what I am going to do. Brian has been gone for a while now but for four months he was MWR and had time to call me and email me all the time. Now he has gone back to his job and he is working so much. He has been up there for going on three weeks and I have only talked to him twice and got one email that was a sentence long. I am getting so depressed and I worry so much now. I don't know what i am going to do. Any advice to help me get through this. I work full time but when I come home I just shut down and sit here depressed and worry until bed time....

well when df was in boot camp, he basically broke his knee (stress fractures throughout his knee cap and various other things wrong), i wrote a journal but in letter form, like i was going to send them (i never did), and i wrote everyday about how much i missed him, how angry i was that he got held back, how much i loved him, etc. no matter what feelings i had no matter how upset i was that he was still gone, i just wrote that down, he never saw it and he never will. it really helped. go for a run, or workout really hard at night and then just take a shower and collapse.

That is how it works, sometimes you get to talk them all the time and other times communication is cut off. You really have to try and not think about how much you don't hear from him. And know too that him hearing from you helps keep him going. There were sooo many times this last cruise when I would want to go on an email strike because I felt that dh wasn't writing enough, but I had to realize that email always isn't up, he can't write when he wants, nor can he choose which emails make it through before email goes down. But he could always read the mail I would send him. I know it seems like an old saying, but you really can't worry about it. You should start a project, like a photo album of the things that happened while he was gone, or something that you can work on a little at a time when you start to feel down. Believe it or not hobbies really help. I know that you work full time, but you can still do something little but meaningful.. The journal idea is great because it voices how you feel at the time. Don't worry it won't last forever and soon enough he will be home. Hang in there. you can make it.

First you should be proud of yourself for making it through over 4 months of him being gone! I've been having the same feelings you are. I've never been through my db being gone on a deployment but this fall I will and soon he'll be going out for a few 1 month underways. I think about it every day. My family and friends are in NY, I have no friends here in VA, I hate my job... I feel like all I'll want to do is be depressed and feel sorry for myself the whole time he's gone. I guess the key is keeping busy and thinking about how it's all worth it in the end to have him come home and be with you. Stay strong, write him emails and letters to help you feel closer to him. And, I see you're in VA too, so if you need a friend, I'm here and I'm sure a lot of other ladies on here are too. :)

Yes it is really great that you have made it four months. I have only made it a couple weeks and Im dealing but it is really hard if you need anyone to talk to. I know that there are many woman who have done this before but if you need someone i am here. I know what you mean about the hearing and worrying when he doesnt call i get that way with emails but dont worry we can all do this together. God Bless you!