ok... so i have finished my 3 days of wallowing about the news of his deployment extension... but regardless.. i still feel the pain of it.. i know that is inevitable.. but i am angry.. i have an anger in me since he left, that ive never had.. how do i get this frustration out? what do you guys do?

I don't know what to say or how you feel. I have not had to deal with deployments yet. Our first deployment will happen next week. But I just wanted to you know I was thinking of you. And tell you, you can do it, you can make it. :hugs

Well, who is your anger tied up in? Are you angry at HIM? Are you angry at the MILITARY?

Join a gym, take a kickboxing or a spinning class - get the frustration out. The earlier you learn how to vent it the better! :)

my anger is at the military mostly.. but its not so tangible. i am angry becasue i am deeply in love, and so lonely. it is definitely not directed at my SO. i am angry that the military promised my SO citizenship, and now after 14 months, the assholes just say "no". im angry that i am so young, so in love, and not together. i know these things i need to deal with, but i am interested in others' stress relieving methods.. and exercise is not hte answer i am looking for. i am very healthy, and ran cross country adn track, in addition to 14 years of soccer. exercise just doesnt get the stress out for me. but there must be some other ways. i feel like i have a block on my mind.. i just cant even think strait sometimes... like now, when i havent heard from my babeshka.. in 10 days... and he is stationed right in baghdad.... adn i usually hear from him at least every week.. i just feel so much building up, but i am not sure how to let it out.

Hi Julia Rose. Welcome! I can relate to some extent to how you're feeling. I was originally very opposed to my fiance joining the military, and I felt very angry in many directions. Like you, we were lied to alot. I think I have now accepted it. Here are some of the things that I do...I write alot (stories, journals, letters..not always to him), I paint (which is part of my profession anyway), I dance, and I plan plan plan for our future. The more I pour myself into building our future while he is on deployment, the more I can accept it because I feel more a part of it. I don't know about you, but my anger stemmed from feeling like I wasn't a part of this in his life. I hope your anger subsides with time. This site is a wonderful tool!

Welcome!

:goodvibes