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it absolutely drives me nuts when i see a woman who weighs 300 lbs trying to squeeze into a size 4...i don't wear a size 4 and i bounce between 135 and 140...as a matter of fact on my campus i see plenty of girls wearing shirts so low their nipples are going to pop out and i personally don't want to see that. i know its their body but have a little courtesy for the rest of us...if you are proud of you body fine, if you want to wear sexy clothes fine, but please wear the right size


oh ya'll can move this to vent if you want

I could care less honestly. Who's to say they can afford clothes that fit them right? I know for me to get the perfect fitting jeans I pay well over a hundred dollars a pair.

I could care less honestly. Who's to say they can afford clothes that fit them right? I know for me to get the perfect fitting jeans I pay well over a hundred dollars a pair.

Good point! I am very over weight and I know that when I buy clothes they are very expensive. I try to buy oversized clothes for me....way to self conscious to wear something that is too small. I will admit though that I do cringe when I see someone wearing really tight jeans and a shorter shirt with their belly hanging out. :dunno

I am not voting on the poll because I would have chose annoyed. I really dislike seeing anyone in the wrong size. You can be smaller and still be wearing clothes you should not be wearing. I feel that anyone can look good and beautiful no matter their size if they make the effort to buy clothes in their size when they shop for them. It bothers me when I see people wearing clothes brands like GAP and Old Navy and other places that you know they spent some money in and the clothes are at least 2 sizes too small. It only makes them look worse. And they are usually the ones flaunting around like super models.

i don't really care too much. it's their perogative. if they feel sexy in what they wear, more power to them. would i personally dress that way if i were overweight?? no. most of those girls on campus sqeezed into low-cut shirts are just looking for attention. It runs deeper than a simple look in the mirror before they walk out the door...

Im fat but I wear clothes that are in my size...Old Navy wouldnt have made the clothes in my size if I wasnt supposed to wear them...

I could care less honestly. Who's to say they can afford clothes that fit them right? I know for me to get the perfect fitting jeans I pay well over a hundred dollars a pair.

Yes, but there is a difference between having jeans that don't fit perfectly or hand-me-downs that weren't bought for you in the first place or even wearing oversized stuff because you're slightly self-conscious....I think she's talking about the girl in the mall dressed like a hoochie wearing a Bebe t-shirt that lands above her navel, and Guess jeans that look shrink wrapped to her thighs, while her fake Louis Vuitton purse slaps against the bared love handles created solely from the fact that her clothes are too darn small.

That isn't a matter of a cost, that is deliberate.

If it's deliberate that pretty much means that they are comfortable with how they look so I'd give them props.

To each their own. When I was 17 and lived in ca I was as thin as a rail and wore daisy dukes (when they were in style) and half shirts. They fit, just showed the bottom of my buttcheeks. I didn't have love handles etc.

If they have enough confidence to wear that then great. I think it takes a VERY confident woman to wear something "revealing" and not neccasarily have the "typical" body for it.

That being said you wouldnt catch me in daisy dukes or half shirts now. Plus I am 31. I would look pretty silly I think hehe. My jeans fit but are the snugfit flare (when not pregnant and I fit in em :lol) but ALL my shirts cover my tummy. Thats just how I am and my self confidence which is low.

I think she's talking about the girl in the mall dressed like a hoochie wearing a Bebe t-shirt that lands above her navel, and Guess jeans that look shrink wrapped to her thighs, while her fake Louis Vuitton purse slaps against the bared love handles created solely from the fact that her clothes are too darn small.

:lmao sorry to say, but that annoys me to no end. I just don't see how anyone can think that is sexy. :shrug maybe i'm judgemental, but i don't care.

I personally don't care. I saw a girl a few days ago at the mall that had jeans on so tight that she looked like she had a massive pot belly that went from the front to the back and a halter top shirt to make sure she showed all of that off. If she can look in the mirror and still walk out the door, then more power to her...

I personally myself.. don't wear anything that dosn't fit me. Im just not comfortable showing every buldge and whatever else i have. I don't mind showing cleavage- i like low cut tops- but yeah- it all has to sit properly. As for the rest- if they wanna show it off then ok for them- they will probably think back when they are older and think omg haha i wore that!

Any woman can look great, if only they wore their own size. You mean to tell me the woman walking around a store, wearing jeans that are so tight her gut is spewing out all around and over the top does not realize those pants are too small for her?? Gimme a break. The whole hoochie mama look, that's just a girl wanting attention, but if she wears her right size to me its nowhere close as bad as a woman who KNOWS she is a size 12 yet insists to squeeze her ass into a size 6. To me that is just denial and vanity. I know that if that woman chose to buy that size 12 instead of a size 6 she would look great. A woman can be a size 24 for all I care, she can still look beautiful. Just wear your own size for jeebus sake. It has nothing to do with what size you are or what you can afford, you can buy all your clothes at Walmart and the Goodwill and STILL chose to get your own size. What someone wears is a choice, and yea although its their perogative to wear what they want, they have a choice when they buy and put on those clothes. As sad as it is, this is a world of impressions, and this whole thing to me also goes back to the question of, how much pride do you have in yourself and your appearance? For people who say they just dont give a crap, that just tells me they just don't give a crap about themselves.

If she can look in the mirror and still walk out the door, then more power to her...

Now see, if that girl right there has a mirror in her house that when she looks in it, it tells her she looks good, then damn, that's one magic mirror and I wanna know where she bought it! :teehee

Now see, if that girl right there has a mirror in her house that when she looks in it, it tells her she looks good, then damn, that's one magic mirror and I wanna know where she bought it! :teehee

:lmao :nana

to each their own:thumbsup ;)

i agree with what everyone has said that if you are comfortable with your body you can wear what you want...all i'm asking is that you wear the right size. i wear anything between a 6 and a 9 and i know it...if a 6 is way to tight that i can't sit down in it then i'll go up a size. sometimes you just have to admit that you aren't the same size you were when you were 18 or 20. my aunt-in-law still shops at stores such as rave, body shop, wet seal, etc etc (basically stores that are geared towards teenagers) and she's 45...she has a good body after having 3 kids but it makes her look silly...a 40 year old woman should not be wearing something that i used to wear when i was 16. i guess one reason it bugs me so much is girls with DD or E breasts don't wear a bra or if they do it is not supportive at all. i know bras are expensive but that's one of those things that you should spend some money on. personally i shell out anywhere from 75-90 bucks for a bra but they last forever and they are comfortable and keep my girls where they are supposed to be. i know not every woman can afford that expensive of a bra but walmart, target and kmart sell madienform and gilligan o'malley bras that are good and do their job.


sdshorty you crack me up :P

Wearing the wrong size doesn't bother me nearly as much as those who just choose to wear the wrong clothes for a certain function or event. Now that gets under my skin. Being a size 6 doesn't mean looking like a whore is appropriate. I'd rather see women in clothes to tight than a woman in a whore'ish suit at a business meeting or a street walker dress @ a formal event.

I don't care what anyones wearing and I don't care what people think of me in what i'm wearing. I never wear clothes that are to small for me and even if I did I still wouldn't give a shit because if i'm happy then who cares. I'm not out here in the world to please anyone else but myself.

I could care less what people wear and whether or not their clothes fit them...I have much more important things to worry about :shrug

To each his own...

I guess one way to look at it is: The more poorly dressed they are, the better you look in comparison.

Wearing the wrong size doesn't bother me nearly as much as those who just choose to wear the wrong clothes for a certain function or event. Now that gets under my skin. Being a size 6 doesn't mean looking like a whore is appropriate. I'd rather see women in clothes to tight than a woman in a whore'ish suit at a business meeting or a street walker dress @ a formal event.

I agree about inappropriate dress for specific occasions. But I am also somewhat compassionate having been guilty of it myself when I honestly hadn't realized it was inappropriate when I walked out the door in the morning. Last year the girls at work dressed up for Halloween. I wore a school girl outfit and dressed like the girl in Kill Bill Vol 1. I checked out everything in the mirror in the morning. My skirt was -barely- above my knees and seemed respectable, I had knee-high socks, a blazer over a button down shirt.

But when I got to work I realized that the skirt really wasn't work appropriate (I work in a fairly casual lab, but still I don't think my knees should have been showing), and since I didn't have a change of clothes, I pretty just had to brazen in out. I know that a couple of people whispered about it, when at the end of the day, I had to just let it roll off my shoulders and take it in good humor. And avoid repeating the mistake.

Now see, if that girl right there has a mirror in her house that when she looks in it, it tells her she looks good, then damn, that's one magic mirror and I wanna know where she bought it! :teehee

Girl I spit my green tea out of my mouth :teehee

I am not voting on the poll because I would have chose annoyed. I really dislike seeing anyone in the wrong size. You can be smaller and still be wearing clothes you should not be wearing. I feel that anyone can look good and beautiful no matter their size if they make the effort to buy clothes in their size when they shop for them. It bothers me when I see people wearing clothes brands like GAP and Old Navy and other places that you know they spent some money in and the clothes are at least 2 sizes too small. It only makes them look worse. And they are usually the ones flaunting around like super models.

I agree!!!:yes

I can't stand to seee a gut hanging out of a shirt or jeans that don't cover crack or have pudge and flab squished out.

No, what's worse IMO, is seeing "camel toe" :giggle :sick

My grandmother use to say that if you take off your clothes at the end of the day and you have markings from your clothes then they are too tight...clothes that fit properly shouldn't leave marks where they start to itch or you feel the need to scratch due to tight clothes on your body.....but if your happy and you know it clap your hands,,sing it with me "if your happy and you know it clap your hands" :)

ehhh it bugs me when i see a whole lots of stuff :rolleyes but its their bodies and they can wear whatever they want...

No, what's worse IMO, is seeing "camel toe" :giggle :sick


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I don't care what people wear.

To quote my mother: "Just because they make it in your size doesn't always mean you can wear it."

Any woman can look great, if only they wore their own size. You mean to tell me the woman walking around a store, wearing jeans that are so tight her gut is spewing out all around and over the top does not realize those pants are too small for her?? Gimme a break. The whole hoochie mama look, that's just a girl wanting attention, but if she wears her right size to me its nowhere close as bad as a woman who KNOWS she is a size 12 yet insists to squeeze her ass into a size 6. To me that is just denial and vanity. I know that if that woman chose to buy that size 12 instead of a size 6 she would look great. A woman can be a size 24 for all I care, she can still look beautiful. Just wear your own size for jeebus sake. It has nothing to do with what size you are or what you can afford, you can buy all your clothes at Walmart and the Goodwill and STILL chose to get your own size. What someone wears is a choice, and yea although its their perogative to wear what they want, they have a choice when they buy and put on those clothes. As sad as it is, this is a world of impressions, and this whole thing to me also goes back to the question of, how much pride do you have in yourself and your appearance? For people who say they just dont give a crap, that just tells me they just don't give a crap about themselves.

I totally agree!

There's a huge difference between someone who's only wearing a size off. My weight fluctuates and I know all too well what it's like to have gained a little weight. The clothes might be a little bit tighter than I'd prefer, but I'm all covered and not yet fitting in the next size. If I tried to squeeze myself into a size 2, I would look horrible. The clothes would probably rip, lol.

You mean to tell me the woman walking around a store, wearing jeans that are so tight her gut is spewing out all around and over the top does not realize those pants are too small for her??

That's not always the case. I normally wear a size 10 pants but can seriously buy a 16, have them falling off my ass but still have a gut hanging over the top. It's just how my body is. For some strange reason, I was fatter from the belly-button on up, than I was below the belly-button. You could seriously tell when I was naked. It looked bad when I wore clothes no matter what size I bought. Which is why I wore such baggy jeans & wore a lot of loose shirts to cover up the fat. I am very self-conscous of my body & because of that & as well as other judgemental people is exactly why I tried to hide my body so much. And trying to hide it just made me look even worse! :oops

So just because someone has fat hanging over, doesn't mean it is just because her pants are too small. I've never worn pants too small nor has my Mom & we are built the same. Thankfully I don't have to deal with that fat belly hanging over any more. But I do sympathize with others like me!

Yes, but there is a difference between having jeans that don't fit perfectly or hand-me-downs that weren't bought for you in the first place or even wearing oversized stuff because you're slightly self-conscious....I think she's talking about the girl in the mall dressed like a hoochie wearing a Bebe t-shirt that lands above her navel, and Guess jeans that look shrink wrapped to her thighs, while her fake Louis Vuitton purse slaps against the bared love handles created solely from the fact that her clothes are too darn small.

That isn't a matter of a cost, that is deliberate.

I definitely agree with that!!

It doesn't annoy me. It doesn't look good, but I go about my business and forget about it.


Camel toe. I saw that not long ago. gross

So just because someone has fat hanging over, doesn't mean it is just because her pants are too small. I've never worn pants too small nor has my Mom & we are built the same. Thankfully I don't have to deal with that fat belly hanging over any more. But I do sympathize with others like me!


I agree 100%...I am also big in my middle and pretty much 'normal' size everywhere else on my body...so if someone judged me because i'm overweight and they think I am blind and cant see that my pants dont fit they are plain ignorant...yet another reason why I think we should all be a little bit more tolerant...:shrug

I agree 100%...I am also big in my middle and pretty much 'normal' size everywhere else on my body...so if someone judged me because i'm overweight and they think I am blind and cant see that my pants dont fit they are plain ignorant...yet another reason why I think we should all be a little bit more tolerant...:shrug

It just plain sucks when people are so ingorant & judgemental! And then some people wonder why this country has such wacked out self body images, body obsessions & eating disorders! :duh

I hope you've never had to deal with that! :hugs

Any woman can look great, if only they wore their own size. You mean to tell me the woman walking around a store, wearing jeans that are so tight her gut is spewing out all around and over the top does not realize those pants are too small for her?? Gimme a break. The whole hoochie mama look, that's just a girl wanting attention, but if she wears her right size to me its nowhere close as bad as a woman who KNOWS she is a size 12 yet insists to squeeze her ass into a size 6. To me that is just denial and vanity. I know that if that woman chose to buy that size 12 instead of a size 6 she would look great. A woman can be a size 24 for all I care, she can still look beautiful. Just wear your own size for jeebus sake. It has nothing to do with what size you are or what you can afford, you can buy all your clothes at Walmart and the Goodwill and STILL chose to get your own size. What someone wears is a choice, and yea although its their perogative to wear what they want, they have a choice when they buy and put on those clothes. As sad as it is, this is a world of impressions, and this whole thing to me also goes back to the question of, how much pride do you have in yourself and your appearance? For people who say they just dont give a crap, that just tells me they just don't give a crap about themselves.

let me pose this question to you...what if someone is a 14 on top (like at the waist) and an 8 in the hips, bun and thighs? So they can get an 8 on but cant button, get a 14 to button but their ass and thighs are swimming in the pants...what would you think then?

i never meant to turn this into a debate...:oops

i'm an inbetween size also...i need an 8 to really fit over my butt but i can wear a 6 for my waist. i have large hips and that's just a fact of nature. i was not trying to offend anyone...i was making reference to the people who are cramming size DD breasts into a size xs shirt. that's not an issue of size that's an issue of denying the fact that you have DD breasts. i have a friend like this who absolutely under no circumstances would buy a DD bra she would cram into a C because she thinks large breasts are the devil. anyway back to my point...if you are bulit large around the middle or wherever that's one thing but when you are very large all over and you are wearing sizes that are much much much too small for you than that's the issue.

i know some of us on here have suffered from eating disorders or disordered eating (me) and yes it doesn't help to see the super skinny models on the runways or fashion magazines. i'm still not 100% okay with my body but i have learned that making myself :quote swim :quote in my clothes doesn't make me look any better than if i crammed myself into an xs and let me tell you with size 40in hips that is not going to work. i've got 37 1/2 in breasts, 28in waist and 40in hips...so i understand the difference in sizes.

as to the disordered eating and such alot of it too is that designers make clothes by different size ratios. i can wear a 6 in gap jeans that is falling off after an hour but i can only wear an 8 or 10 in tommy because he makes them smaller.

let me pose this question to you...what if someone is a 14 on top (like at the waist) and an 8 in the hips, bun and thighs? So they can get an 8 on but cant button, get a 14 to button but their ass and thighs are swimming in the pants...what would you think then?

See you got me totallly wrong. I can understand when someone is overweight and clothes don't always fit right, I"VE been there. I'm not talking about that, I am talking about a woman who is obviously like maybe a size 16 or 18, and her pants are obviously like a size 10, and they are so skin tight everywhere. You can completely tell the difference between the first and the second. I myself can be a range of sizes because I don't have large hips so my waist to hip ratio is whacked out. But you know, I just find clothes that DO fit right. there really is clothes made for everybody nowadays. For someone like me who has a larger waist and smaller bottom, you get pants made for that body type. And if you cannot find pants for that type, there is always ways to taylor clothes. Anyway, that is a whole other thing, that is about fashion and people learning what looks good on them. My whole thing was about people who deliberately wear smaller clothes when they KNOW they don't fit in them but are in denial. I am noone to judge someone who is overweight, I've been there, and I still am. That has nothing to do with any of it.

I didnt realize this wasnt in the debate thread...Sorry girls, I didnt want to ruffle feathers either, I just hate the fact that I am struggling with my weight and hate the way I look in jeans!!! :wink

I didnt realize this wasnt in the debate thread...Sorry girls, I didnt want to ruffle feathers either, I just hate the fact that I am struggling with my weight and hate the way I look in jeans!!! :wink

that's my fault i should've put it in the debate area. i understand how you feel, maybe not to the same extent but i do :hugs

let me pose this question to you...what if someone is a 14 on top (like at the waist) and an 8 in the hips, bun and thighs? So they can get an 8 on but cant button, get a 14 to button but their ass and thighs are swimming in the pants...what would you think then?


I would think they should invest in some cute A-line skirts :D :giggle The point is, every woman can look BEAUTIFUL...if every woman could make the choice to be who she is (and if she doesn't like who she is, make the choice to change who she is). So you have this body that you have issues with...it is what it is...but you can accentuate the positive without cutting off the circulation of the negative :yes That was an analogy...but I suppose it could be taken literally in this case :rofl

I don't judge people that wear clothes 2 sizes too small...but I do wonder why they choose to present themselves in such a way. :dunno



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(and I moved this to debates, since it seems to be turning into one ;) )

AND, just for the record, I don't know a single woman that hasn't had issues with jeans. What the hell is it with jeans that makes it so impossible to find the perfect pair for less than $150 (I'll never own the perfect pair)? But I don't think the point of this thread was talking about snug legged jeans or a tight behind jean - I think what is being referred to (or at least what I'M referring to) is those women that refuse to buy their own size, and parade around in jeans (or shorts, or capris, or pants) with protruding camel toes :sick (that has GOT to hurt, y'know?) and their bellies hanging out from under their half tops so far that if they had a belt buckle they wouldn't be able to see it. We're talking about the extreme cases.

Since the birth & being heavier than I've ever been, I don't wear ANYTHING that makes the fact I'm heavy stick out. I even try to suck in my stomach as much as possible.

I don't get why girls wear sizes too small, but whatever. Sometimes I think they need a clue :giggle

So just because someone has fat hanging over, doesn't mean it is just because her pants are too small. I've never worn pants too small nor has my Mom & we are built the same. Thankfully I don't have to deal with that fat belly hanging over any more. But I do sympathize with others like me!

you can tell the difference between someone who is wearing something so they don't have to swim in and wearing something that is pushing their belly out because the pants are so tight. Also, the 4 sizes too small jeans are usually paired with a midriff shirt. There are clothes that can flatter anyone, you just have to know how to accentuate your good traits and play down your bad ones. I don't judge people that try to dress to flatter themselves, not dress to show skin just because they have skin.

I really don't care what other people wear. Yea, it's not flattering to see someone purposely wear clothes that are way too small, no matter what size they are. But, to each their own.

I really don't care what other people wear. Yea, it's not flattering to see someone purposely wear clothes that are way too small, no matter what size they are. But, to each their own.

Exactly! :wink

To quote my mother: "Just because they make it in your size doesn't always mean you can wear it."

this is what i always got too. when i was 11 and 12 i was shopping in the juniors section of the dept. store and lets just say an 11 or 12 year old should NOT be wearing some of that stuff. i developed boobies and hips early--damn puberty--and sometimes it was a pain in the ass. :lol :lol