So Val just started this phase where she is extremely aggresive with other kids, me...With me it seems to be a way to express herself since she cant really talk yet, but with other kids, I just dont know why. She pushed a little girl at the mall on Monday...The little girl was just standing there and Val just pushed her...On Tuesday, she pushed a few kids and than another little girl finally pushed her back and today at Jazzercise she pushed and pinched a smaller little boy because she was frustrated that the babysitter put her down. I dont know what to do to try to nip this in the bud NOW!!!
There have been alot of things going on at home, and I'm stressed like crazy so I know part of it has to be an attention thing, but what else can I do short of being in each others faces day in and day out? Please help!!:hairout

ETA: I react when she does these things as well, except for today at Jazzercise since I wasnt there to see it and scolding her an hour later wouldnt have help at all.

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I don't have kids, but I watch 22month old twin boys. Sometimes they get aggressive with eachother, but when that happens I give them a time out, very serious angry time out. And after wards I explain to them why it was wrong to do that, and have them hug, make up, and "say they're sorry". Even though they can't talk yet, they kindof look like they're apologizing and it seems healthy. That is the best thing their mom and I thought that we should do... That's the best I have!! Good luck!! I'm sure the phase will pass!

see, I try that but I lose her attention span in the middle of trying to discipline her...maybe she's manipulating me?

see, I try that but I lose her attention span in the middle of trying to discipline her...maybe she's manipulating me?

Possible. They ALL go thru aggresion stages. Ethan just went thru one. I send him to the corner. He stands there for 2 minutes. At first it was hard and I had to stand right behind him. As each time it happened he would stand there longer and loner on his own. Now that stage is over and done with (for now) But if he does something and he sees he is about to get in trouble he walks himself to the corner and stands there. I always explain why he is getting in trouble and tell him no hitting. Be nice.

G'luck

time outs or corner visits:goodvibes

I know thats hard sweety:hugs

Taylor went through a mild of phase of that. She would only do it to John or I though, not other kids. :dunno

We would just grab her hand and tell her "NO HITTING!!". Or "It's not nice to hit! Be nice to mommy!!!" That usually resulted in tears, because she's my drama queen. We also showed her how to be nice by giving hugs and kisses. I know a lot of people don't believe in it, but we would also smack her hand if she hit us sometimes. It felt so redundant to say "DON'T HIT!", then hit her, but it worked.

I hope the phase is short lived. I think all kids this age go through it though. :hugs

I have nothing more to offer that would be different. Good luck to you.

Taylor went through a mild of phase of that. She would only do it to John or I though, not other kids. :dunno

We would just grab her hand and tell her "NO HITTING!!". Or "It's not nice to hit! Be nice to mommy!!!" That usually resulted in tears, because she's my drama queen. We also showed her how to be nice by giving hugs and kisses. I know a lot of people don't believe in it, but we would also smack her hand if she hit us sometimes. It felt so redundant to say "DON'T HIT!", then hit her, but it worked.

I hope the phase is short lived. I think all kids this age go through it though. :hugs

Yeah Ethans phase was hitting me usually. Not other kids. He LOVES other kids. But it was still hitting. I am glad that phase is pretty much over for now!!

Clearly defined consequences that happen EVERYTIME she is agressive. This means that when she is not with you, then whoever she is with needs to follow through with them to. Also, reward her with attention when is doing the right thing.

If it continues, I would definitely bring it up to your doc.