So I went to the base at 6AM this morning to see my husband go off. They were supposed to leave at 9, but coudnt cuz of technical difficulties. I stayed there until the ship left. Which was at 4 PM. It was the hardest thing, to watch the one you love so much leave for 6 months. Although they will be back in 9 weeks, for christmas, its still hard. I watched the ship sail into the horizon and disappear. I didnt know i could miss someone so much...All I can think about is how I wish I could have spent more time with him. I moved here to Jax, a week later he left for school for a month, 2 weeks later he leaves again, but for 6 months. Its going to be hard to not have him here, but I dont have a choice but to deal with it. So I am still trying to find a job here, but its not going the way i want it to. Last night when I came home, reality set in and fast. Its so hard cuz all my friends and family are 3 hours south of me. Im trying to keep busy to keep my mind off of him being gone so long. I miss him so much and I love him with all my heart. Ive been feeling really depressed for the past week and have lost my appetite. What am i supposed to do??? Please help. :tears

I'm so sorry sweetie I know it's hard. :hugs Give yourself a good cry and try to keep yourself as busy as possible.

I'm so sorry sweetie I know it's hard. :hugs Give yourself a good cry and try to keep yourself as busy as possible.

that is so true. just cry it all out. when my husband was deployed he left about a week after our wedding. but like everyone is going to say..just stay busy and when you ever ya need to vent, i know this site for a fact is a good place to come too.

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I'm sorry Sweetie. My best advice is to ride it out. Cry when you need to, have tissue always on hand, punch some pillows . . . whatever it takes to make the "withdrawals" easier.

Usually the first few weeks, I'm in a daze and all I want to do is sleep. But then somehow or someway, I begin to start a daily routine that keeps me going 'til he gets back. Ironic is that when he comes back, I get frustrated that he's interrupting "my routine." LOL!

I do remember going to the mall and doing A LOT of window shopping and talking on the phone with friends. And it got to the point that I'd make a list of weekend classes I wanted to take while he was gone to make the weekends easier to cope with. Anyways, Sweetie, I'll send you "good vibes!"

I understand where you are coming from. If you need to cry go ahead and do it. Keep yourself busy and become involved in something you enjoy. Six months will go fast. My db is coming back from Iraq within the next couple of weeks. I will still have to wait for another month until he is home for good. He is in the reserves. So I know how hard it was to say goodbye. I'm sure you will communicate through email. Also begin to write him letters and start sending care packages:) I hope this helps.

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Lori

Its hard. I was in your shoes not that long ago. I felt like i was living someone elses life when i was helping dh pack his bags for deployment. Here a month later and im still in one piece. If you need to cry, cry. If you need to scream, scream. Just dont keep it in. And like the other girls said just keep yourself busy. And if you ever need anything we are here! :hugs

thank you all so much, it really does mean alot that there are people that go through this and now i know im not going crazy, lol. thank you all again

Hope it passes quickly for you

If you need to cry go ahead and do it. Keep yourself busy and become involved in something you enjoy. Six months will go fast. Also begin to write him letters and start sending care packages:)




wonderful advice Lori!:yes :yes

Hi and welcome! I usually keep myself and DD very busy the day DH deploys, so I don't have time to think about it, and then I'll fall apart the first night. I give myself a couple of days to be disoriented (it's very common when SO's deploy) and then after that I force myself to get my bearings and get back into the swing of things.

Just think, everyday when you wake up, you're one day closer to seeing him again! Stay busy, take it one day at a time, and make sure the two of you stay connected and communicate as much as possible.

Everyone I know has tol dme to take it one day at a time and Ive also been told to stay srtong cuz I am a woman and we are. Im trying to take it one day at a time and to be strong, but its really really hard. I only have 4 more pay days left (9weeks) and then he leaves again i think 2 weeks later. Thank you girls for all your advice, its really starting to help me.

Everyone I know has tol dme to take it one day at a time and Ive also been told to stay srtong cuz I am a woman and we are. Im trying to take it one day at a time and to be strong, but its really really hard. I only have 4 more pay days left (9weeks) and then he leaves again i think 2 weeks later. Thank you girls for all your advice, its really starting to help me.