I'm just curious to how old is too old to be having children. I just turned 28 in August and for the last year or so I've had this feeling that it's now or never for me. It's like my body is saying "yes, do it now", but my mind says "no, it's not the right time". I always really wanted children, but said that 1) I had to be finished with college before I had children and 2) I MUST be in a steady relationship. As of now I'm 2-3 years away from finishing college and although my relationship with Russ may be "steady", we are no where near the child zone. So why do I have this nagging feeling to have children? If I wait until after I finish college in 2-3 years and my relationship with Russ is 5-6 years in the making, am I going to be too old? How old is too old?

I don't think late 20's is too old. I do think it depends on the person though and the things they are into and whatnot.

I'm just concerned that if I wait until I'm in my 30's ... say 32 or 33 when I finish school ... will I be too old then. I don't want to wait too long in fear that I might not ever be able to have children. Emotionally, I know I can do it at that age, but will I physically be able too?

My aunt got pregnant at 40 or 44, I can't remember.

I think you definately could. Most people are waiting until their late twenties to mid thirties to have kids now a days anyway.

My aunt got pregnant at 40 or 44, I can't remember.

Wow! That's very encouraging. Thank you :hugs

I had my son when I was 33 and that was 2 years ago...I don't have a hard time keeping up with him (on most days..LOL) but then again i'm sure your in alot better shape then I am in. Mid 30's is ok in my book!

Nowadays, being in your 30's is still considered young for having children. Now, in your late 40's and early 50's is getting too old and too risky to get pregnant, IMO.

I had my 1st at 24 then my 2nd at 27 I am now 35 and my husband and I have been talking about having another one. So if you are in your 30's it isn't to old.

my mom was 38 when she had me and my dad was 44 when I was born my inlaws were the same way and in my eyes that was way too old.

I dont think It would be to old. Alot of woman who are getting there education first. The only thing I would worry about is that some are docters your fertility starts to decline at 30 ,so it might take a little longer to concive.But I have a few aunts that waited till they were in there late thirtys and had no problems.

Too old is when you're physically unable to have kids anymore ;) Guess that's why nature makes us that way eh?

I know plenty of people in their late 30's having children.

I agree...a lot of people in there 30's are having kids now....I was 31 when I had Miss Q!

Its all up to you. I am 31 and pregnant ;) After 35 they consider you advanced maternal age and you will need just a bit more testing as far as your pregnancy goes as the risk of some things goes up over the age of 35. But before 35 its all normal stuff. And even tho the risk goes up a bit after 35 with some stuff it isnt huge. it is just a precaution. MANY women have children past 35 and into their 40's.

G'luck

Thank you so much ladies! I feel SO much better about my decision to wait now :hugs

I definitely think that 30's are the new 20's. 30's used to be considered "older" but now 30's is still considered very young. Lots of people wait until their 30's to have kids. Heck, I know and see plenty of people in their 40's who still have kids.

A personal decision of ours was to not have kids past the age of 30. I have enough complications and risks going on, I really don't need the added stresses and risks, so 30 is our stopping limit. We'd like to have one more child but if we haven't had that child by the time I'm 30, we just won't have him or her, I guess. I think between 30 and 35 is considered advanced maternal age which means some risks are higher such as things like down's syndrome and a few other chromosome disorders, gestational diabetes, plus I do think it definitely takes a toll on your body as you get older. I think as long as you're healthy though, you should be fine. Just try to stay as healthy as possible!

I would say waiting until you're 30 is definitely the better option if you know you're not ready in your 20's.

I think its a personal choice. If you feel you should wait, then why not? Many women are choosing to wait until their mid-30s to have their first child.

To me I think late 30's and 40's is to old, but that's jmo.

I am much heathier now (mentally and physically) now that I am pushing 30. I am not ready yet though. My husband is deployed and we move again next year(possibly) He could very well be 40 when we have kids. I used to think I wanted all my kids to be born before I turned 30. That just did not happen. I have been told I will be an OLD Mom and that I should just not have kids. I think that at an older age I have more patience and experience with kids. I look forward to having kids with my husband....at any age. We have already had testing and we are good to go but I want to be married AT least a year...so I will be an "OLD MOM" I guess.

hey Cher you know I had Robbie at age 40 and i didnt have any problems conceiving LOL and the only real problem I had was just having the gestational diabetes but i dont think that would happen with you . but i do not regret having him at age 40. but i do think that when a woman gets to like the age I am not or later its definitely not as wise to have a child that late. Its all a matter of how your body can handle it and how you can handle having a child later in life mentally. as long as you are in good health I dont see a problem with you waiting until you are in your 30's or even late 30's.

hey Jenn there is nothing wrong with being an OLD MOM. look at me I am 44 and I dont consider myself OLD yet. I dont even act or look my real age LOL.. so I wouldnt consider you an OLD MOM either.

I had Gaven at 24..I just turned 31 and we are STILL trying to have another:no I think we will give it till we turn 35...and THEN maybe quit trying. we want at least 1 more

hey Jenn there is nothing wrong with being an OLD MOM. look at me I am 44 and I dont consider myself OLD yet. I dont even act or look my real age LOL.. so I wouldnt consider you an OLD MOM either.

Thank you and you look great...I didn't realize you are in your 40's....Robbie is healthy and smart:) I look forward to being an "old MOM" LOL
I am better financially and A LOT more patient:)

My aunt just had my cousin last year and she is 38, and they only issue she really had was gestational diabeties. But the doctors said it was because of her weight, not her age. :D

But I do agree, the 30's are the new 20's!!

My Mom had me at 41 so 28 is by no means too old sweety!:goodvibes :hugs

I had dd at 28 and I'll be having more babies (Lord willing) well into my 30's. So...maybe to some that may be considered to old - but for me it's just right ;)

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I really think the decision is a personal one, because everyone's body is different, and everyone's perspective and plans for their lives are different. I don't really think it's fair to anyone to assign a cut-off age for pregnancy.

i agree i feel that as long as you are in great health that you can have a baby at any age. and i also agree it is a personal choice.

Thank you and you look great...I didn't realize you are in your 40's....Robbie is healthy and smart:) I look forward to being an "old MOM" LOL
I am better financially and A LOT more patient:)

thanks Jenn. yes we were very fortunate to have a happy healthy boy.

you have plenty of time!!! :)

I'm 36 and we are trying.....I think it depends on the person.

My mom was 39 1/2 when she had her last kid, and my MIL was 40 when she had her last one (and MIL had miscarriages at like 42 and 43 or so, so she would have had kids at an older age if she hadn't lost the pregnancies). People are having kids older and older, so I wouldn't worry about it too much-u have plenty of time.

However, my mom (a nurse) did say she refused to have kids after 40 because ur eggs are pretty old by then and the risks of birth defects and chromosomal mishap rates start increasing dramatically each year after 40.

What is too young and too old is mainly your own opinion, you just have to keep in mind that at 35 and older, you have much more risks with pregnancy.

depends on the person but i know some of the other ladies on here have said there is never the "perfect" time for children. discuss it with your SO and see where you are at. :goodvibes

I think you'll be fine. My grandma had my mom when she was 39 and the next month she turned 40. Also my hubby and my friends just had their son last month and they are both 34. Good Luck.

I was 34 when I had my daughter. I will be turning 37 next month and am TTC #2. Age is in the eye of the beholder.

I delivered a baby to a woman who was 44 last week..It was her first.

My grandmother had my mom when she was 45!!

I was, lets just say, WAYYYYYYYY too young when I had my daughter. I was 21 when I had my son with my exhusband. I would dearly love another if the bf ever decides to marry me :P . A baby would not fit into my life for a few more years, which would put me at 30ish, and I don't think thats too old at all.

I did not read the replies but I think starting at 50 or over is just way too old.

Thank you again ladies :hugs I've been feeling so much better about things since I've heard all of your replies. It's made me feel more comfortable about my decision and I'm no longer having that "nagging" feeling to have children right this minute.

I felt like mid 20's was old enough for us to start having babies, but my mom had my sister when she was 42 and she seems far more mellowed out than anyone younger that has had a child. I think it is just what seems right to you.