Hi ladies. Homecoming is getting closer and closer, and I'm getting more nervous!! This is my first homecoming, and I have heard so many things about how people change, they've been away for so long. They need to adjust. Plleeeaaaaase give me any advice anyone has to offer!!! I really would love some advice from any experienced SO's!!! Thank you so much!!!!

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First and foremost, it's normal to be nervous! Everything will be ok! You just have to remember that these past months have been just as hard on your SO as they have on you (if not harder) and that while you may need some time for things to get back to "normal" you'll soon find that he's most likely the same guy who left.. Good luck and happy homecoming!

Thank you ladies!! I talked to him on the phone today, he actually called from someones cell phone, the first time he's done that since he left. He sounded much more mature than when he left. He was just as loving, but I know he changed. He grew up a little, which is good! But I'm still nervous! I'm sure it'll be ok......

Hey Maria, Im nervous as shit- but not as nervous as i was for leave. If he loves you NOW hun, hes going to love you when he gets back. Being nervous is normal but don't let it get to u too much! As for homecoming- dunno :P but il be going through it just before u so ill email u and let u know lol

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You know I am right there with you! :glomp Im nervous too. with each day that passes I feel it a little bit more. I have butterflies already. lol. It will all be ok. there will be a little adjustment, but in the end you are the same couple you were when he left... maybe just a bit stronger, a bit more in love? :happy

we are almost there :bliss

I just went through my first deployment and the advice i can give you is when he comes home, give him time to get settled back in. And also his sleeping may be a little off at times. With all the time changes they go through. I hope you have a good homecoming. Its ok to be nervous.

:hugs My DH is almost going to be back from his first deployment too. I'm not really nervous about seeing him again as much as I am that I will forget to do something that I was planning on doing lol. I'm sure everything will be fine just be happy he is back and let him relax. I also agree the sleeping might be off lol he is 8 hours ahead of me right now so I know the sleeping is going to be a bit off for me too. :giggle Hope everything goes well have fun getting him back. :D

yea he'll deffently be more loving b/c he'll realize what he really missed. Good luck babe! make the best of it! so what excatly is he coming home from?

Hi Maria,

I'm right there with you about being nervous. Mine will be back in Illinois this weekend for good. I will let you know how things go after I've seen him again:)

I too like to read about what to expect. I know his sleep will be off but he has been in California for a week already. Do you think he will still need that time to adjust.

Man I've been on a roller coaster this whole week.

Congrats to him coming home soon!!!!:hugs :hugs :yahoo :yahoo
Lori

Lori, If the time zone change isn't too big hopefully the sleep adjustment won't be too bad! Definately let me know how it goes!

And all of you ladies, let me know too! Thanks for so much support!!! I worry too much, I know I do. But I want to be prepared for everything that will happen! I know that there are a lot of changes and things that will go on, so I just want to be ready for them.

Thank you for so much advice ladies!! Keep it coming!!!!

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Hi ladies!... So I've been reading up on homecoming a little bit, and I was wondering... Do our loved ones really change a lot while they're away? Do things go back to normal at all? Some of the stuff I've been reading is saying that things won't be the same, and people will be different... What has everyone here experienced?

they do change a little, but things get back to normal. i'm sure its different for guys with different job titles and their experiences while gone

Thank you! That's what I was thinking too. My SO is on a ship, and I don't think he's seen the things that the guys on land have seen, not that I think he's having a walk in the park or anything. But hopefully he'll be alright...

your welcome.:)

oh yea! find out what they eat the most everyday so you know not to fix it for him. LOL. Like my dh had chicken cooked every way possible. So i made sure not to cook it for awhile. matter of fact, i have just recently started making chicken again. lol

awesome tip! Thank you!

not a problem. your welcome:D