okay, i'll give you guys the short of my situation...my boyfriend and i dated last year right before he left for afghanistan....while he was out there, he broke up with me and we spent a year seperated. we still talked occasionally to see how the other was doing...well now, a year later, we're back together and as happy as can be...this is the first "bump" (i know the first of many more to come) in our relationship so far....

I've talked to him once today (he's currently in germany so i bought a calling card so i could talk to him) because of some stuff that's been going on (i found out our international text messages ARE NOT covered in my plan like sprint said they were so our 1,000plus text's we've sent i need to pay for)...he calmed me down told me he loved me so much and then i left for school....

so i get a text outta the blue saying "i'm at work i'll explain later"....which sucks because he had yesterday off and today off and supposed to have tomorrow off...after working G-d knows how many weeks in a row...so i said that's fine i love you and i miss you....then again outta blue he's like "i'm not gonna be able to call you, still at work"....usually if this happens he's like "i love you and miss you"....so then i was like well i have news about the text situation so i'm gonna call and leave you a message to explain it then he goes "no dont, i already have 8 unheard messages."

He's just being really short and i know i'm being irrational, i'm just scared something's wrong and it's me....i think it's because just outta the blue he breaks up with me last year, and all....

There's a back story too...he's offered to help me pay for my plane ticket out there and the text messages but i refuse because his ex took all of his money and he's had fleeting moments where he gets scared that i might do that to him...so i refuse to let him help me because i dont want him to see me like her....but i need help with it! i can pay for these texts on my own, but not for the texts and a plane ticket to germany....i would love to do it on my own, but i just can't...so i think i'm going to ask if he could just help pay for half the ticket, ya know? would that be wrong???

my head knows im bein irrational about the what he's said int he text messages..i mean if i was supposed to be off and then had to go into work and stay late, i'd be pissed too...i just hope he's okay and i pray he isn't mad because i asked him if he could help me with the plane ticket....

I'd be pretty pissed too if I was supposed to have the day off and got called in. I wouldn't take it personal that he's being short with you. If he was supposed to be off, then he's probably pissed that he's there and that's why he's being short with you, or he may just not have time to talk while he's at work.

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking him to help you out with a plane ticket. Plane tickets are pretty expensive, and after all you're going to see him. Before DH and I got married, we helped each other buy plane tickets all the time.

Hope some of this helps!! :hugs

:glomp He's probably just stressed about his job and stuff girlie. I would wait until ya'll talk it over before you get too upset...also I would take him up on his plane ticket offer if he is serious...he's getting to see you too! :yes

no it's not wrong to ask him to help w/$$! if he wants to see you just as much as you want to see him you'll help each other out. My Db makes more then i do so he paid for most of the things. when i went out to see him i paid for dinners, movies etc.

w/the work and textes....i'm sure he's bussy, just ask him why he had to act all shady. i'm sure he'll give you the reason and im sure it's logical. who knows what it's like out there for him and those textes and calls. just let him know u miss him and it just makes u a bit insecure about the relationship. honesty is the best thing for a relationship. good luck!

yeah....that makes sense...but i do have one questions..i notice a lot of people refer to their s/o as DH?? is there something behind that? just curious...lol.

and i'm really trying hard not to freak out...and again, you ladies are right..i shouldn't until i see what's wrong....every time i do, he usually calls in the next couple of days and says he loves me and misses me and is sorry he couldn't talk to me....but i agree, he's probably just short cuz he's at work too...and pissed off. Hell, i get mad when i KNOW i have to go into work, let alone on a day off....lol. i was just stressing all day at school because of it, i guess....i think it's just because of what happend with us last year...i dont want that to happen, and he's promised me that he's realized just how much he loves me...and he's always finding ways to show me (like i just got a package with a couple of his shirts, his dcu jacket, and a kitty he bought and sprayed with his cologne) and he tries to make time to send me cute texts in the middle of the day (when he can) so im slowly letting myself ease into our relationship with comfort. He's also always talking about marrying me...and THAT makes me feel safer. He makes those little comments about forever and how much he needs me to be there for him and how he can't wait to spend the rest of his life with me and have me be the mother of his children...you know? that's a good sign, right? lol

DH means Darling/dear/damn/dumb lol H-Husband. Db is darling boyfriend. Df is fiance. and if he's talking about foever youi know it's real b/c most guys wont just talk about that unless they are serious.

and if he's talking about foever youi know it's real b/c most guys wont just talk about that unless they are serious.

I agree.

oh!!! that makes sense!! lol! Db....

yeah he never talked about it last year when we were together....but he seems really intent on me being the one...and i love it....other boyfriends before him (and the one dated after josiah and i broke up) talked about it and it didn't feel right, especially after i already met josiah...i knew there was something more out there for me....and he came back...and it just feels right...and he talks about forever and i love it.

first off...:hugs

second, sometimes things make the guys short with us that they just won't tell us about. give him the benefit of the doubt, but when it's time to talk (as i've been told today) speak your piece, girl! :mwaha

first off...:hugs

second, sometimes things make the guys short with us that they just won't tell us about. give him the benefit of the doubt, but when it's time to talk (as i've been told today) speak your piece, girl! :mwaha


aww! thanks for the smooches! lol...you ladies are really great!! thank you so much! it makes it easier to have a place where you guys actually know what i'm going through....myspace is nice, but it causes a lot of unnecessary drama sometimes....here i dont feel stupid for asking any questions about things.

thanks to everyone so far who's given their input!! it's all been very helpful knowing that i'm not the only one that has had this happen to them...

hey ladies!!

i wanna thank all of you again for the advice!! it was really helpful!! i just got to talk to my db and he's safe and sound :) Safe and sound and getting a tattoo...lol!!

and i did ask him if he could help me pay for the ticket...just for us to split it down the half would make it so much easier! it's about 260 bucks if we split it