Have or did any of you notice people, mainly older people, constantly making comments like "oh your life will never be the same...you don't have a clue..." etc when people started talking about the baby and what it will be like when it comes? I've noticed it a lot lately, mainly around my parents and their friends, they'll laugh and say stuff like that, and it's almost like they expecting and wanting me to be fail when it comes to the demands of motherhood. I know I really don't know what to expect except that he will be very demanding and DH and I will be exhausted, but it's getting irritating when people keep saying stuff like this. I know they don't mean anything by it, but it's really hard to just smile and not say anything instead of telling them to shut the F up and let DH and I embrace this huge change rather than trying to make us second guess ourselves.

my MIL says it all the time. y'all aren't ready, you don't know what you are getting yourself in for, etc etc. the one thing i hate the most is "you are going to be a single parent do you really want that?"

:hugs i understand completely

it got annoying for me too, now as I look back, I COMPLETELY understand...you'll do great, but you'll understand too!!!
:hugs

I don't remember people telling me that but I can understand why now after having kids :hehe. I highly doubt that they expect or want you to fail at motherhood it's more that you just can't understand the ways your life will change once you have a baby. In good and bad ways of course, but especially the good ways.

I know that our lives will change and I have no clue what it's going to be like and no one could explain it, but I don't really get what the purpose is for people continuing to tell me that as if it's something I won't be able to handle, KWIM?

I dont think they expect you to fail. But your life DOES change. It really and truly does. I KNEW that it did but I didnt know to the extent. It isnt a bad change tho. its a good change. I heard it alot too and I remember thinking umm hello?? I know this. But truthfully I didnt grasp just how big of a change it would be (L)

Its just 1 of those things to try to let slide. You will get lots of comments, advice and the like. Even after the baby. :hugs

I am so going to snap at someone once he's born...I can already see it :giggle This whole unwanted advice/input from friends and family is already getting irritating and it's one of my pet peeves. Hopefully I'll go off on some stranger instead of a family member :lmao

I dont think they expect you to fail. But your life DOES change. It really and truly does. I KNEW that it did but I didnt know to the extent. It isnt a bad change tho. its a good change. I heard it alot too and I remember thinking umm hello?? I know this. But truthfully I didnt grasp just how big of a change it would be (L)

Its just 1 of those things to try to let slide. You will get lots of comments, advice and the like. Even after the baby. :hugs

ESPECIALLY after the baby!!!

I am so going to snap at someone once he's born...I can already see it :giggle This whole unwanted advice/input from friends and family is already getting irritating and it's one of my pet peeves. Hopefully I'll go off on some stranger instead of a family member :lmao

Oh sweety wait til hes born. It gets worse!!! I have learned to just smile and say uh huh. Cuz in the end I am mommy. I do what I feel is best. Sometimes the advice is good. Other times it is very unwelcome and rude. And trust me everyone will have an opinion on matters. Especially big matters like vaxing, breastfedding, circing, whether he is dressed warm enough, whether he co sleeps or not, whether you rock him to sleep or not, whether you should do this, do that etc. :hugs

I dont think they expect you to fail. But your life DOES change. It really and truly does. I KNEW that it did but I didnt know to the extent. It isnt a bad change tho. its a good change. I heard it alot too and I remember thinking umm hello?? I know this. But truthfully I didnt grasp just how big of a change it would be (L)

Its just 1 of those things to try to let slide. You will get lots of comments, advice and the like. Even after the baby. :hugs

That's exactly what I was thinking. Yes, your life DOES change. Probably more than most think it will. You have to just let those comments roll off your back.

I got those comments a lot too and yeah, it was annoying...

But your life really is going to change more so than you can even imagine, right now :yes

It's not bad, its a change you can't even put into words, I think :shrug

I don't think they're saying it to mean that you're going to fail or that you guys can't handle it....I think they're saying it in a way that means you have NO IDEA how much you're life is going to change. Not necessarily bad changes, just changes period.

I can tell you, I had NO idea just how different life would be once Sabreena got here....I mean, I knew my life was be dramatically different, but I didn't realize HOW different.
I really don't think they mean any harm by it, but if you think its bad now, just wait till the baby actually gets here....you'll hear advice about everything from what's the right way to burp him to you're spoiling him when you pick him up because he's crying....it's a nightmare.