Maybe this should be in debates, but since it has to do with children I decided to put it here. I know a few people that co-sleep, and most all of them say that now they think that it was a bad idea. I personally have decided not to co-sleep. anyway, I was wondering what you all decided to do and why. Also I would also like to hear the advantages and disadvantages from your experience.

We coslept with Taniyah until she was around 16 months. Then she went into a crib in her room and we haven't had any problems with transitioning her there. Makkiah slept in our room until he was almost two but he was in his swing as he has severe reflux and couldn't lay down to sleep.

We co-sleep! When I was pregnant I was so not about co-sleeping and how our bed was time for us, but once she was born I couldnt not co-sleep! Shes 10 months old now and she starts out in her bed around 9 and will end up in bed with us anywhere between 2-4 in the morning. When she was younger though it was 100% in our bed and that was kinda stressfull on our marrige because we couldnt be intimate in our bed! But now shes at the age where we are transitioning her and its taking really well!

Nope our kids sleep in their beds. and we sleep in ours. SOmetimes if Blake has a bad dream he will climb in bed with us but it doesnt happen often.

we were never for co-sleeping and never encouraged it but every now and then one of them will sneek in bed on daddys side. John enjoys the closness with the kids but I hate them being in our bed. So we made a deal that as long as he stays on his side and it doesn't wake me up then its fine. once he starts bumping into me because there is a kid in our bed they both get woken up and he has to take which ever one it was back to their bed.

We never have and we're glad we didn't. My kids go to sleep in thier own beds every night without a fuss and sleep the whole night. I don't have to worry about my child still sleeping in my bed at 7.

I did with both of mine. Colin just ended up there. With Caleb I chose too, it made my life easier since I was breastfeeing also. I never had to get out of the bed. I don't regret co-sleeping. They both transitioned fairly well, Caleb better than Colin though. It worked for us. :)

Until she was a few months old, we would bring her into our bed for an hour or two in the morning after DH got up for work. But other than that she slept in her own bed, and after 6 weeks old in her own room.

only as very newborn infants. They've all come in the bed with me (slept on my chest) until they were about a month old. It was the only way I could get sleep when they were super fussy at night. They would all sleep 3-4 hour stretches if I let them sleep on my chest. So, in desperation, I'd bring them in the bed every once ina while just to get sleep if I was super sleep deprived. Normally though, they have slept in their own bassinet or crib. :D

We co-slept with DS & then DD. They are now 7 & 5 (on Friday) & I feel it was the best decision for our family! I don't regret it at all!

Every once in awhile they still sleep with me. DD has been in bed with me the past 3 nights. She's missing her Daddy! :(

my oldest slept with me until he was about 4, granted daddy was gone 3 of those years, and my youngest sleeps with me now, hes a year. at least twice a week i wake up with both in my bed.....

We never did cosleeping and I voted no, just because I was so afraid I'd roll over and squoosh her. :(

With Madison I did for several months, until she was 4-5 months old. Jason was gone and she wouldn't sleep well unless she slept with me. She also nursed so often at night it made it easier to nurse her in bed.

Hayden I only slept with a few times. He slept for long periods at night very early on and slept better in his bassinet/crib. I would bring him to bed with me sometimes in the early morning if he woke up to eat and I was still tired.

I have no regrets with sleeping with my kids, I did what I felt worked at the time and it all turned out good.

We co sleep sometimes..... We haven't had any problems with it.

we never co-slept with our DS never really needed to and besides i didnt want to start a habit that was gonna be to hard to break. when he was born since we only had a one bedroom apt his crib was right next to my side of the bed and then when we moved he had his own room and thats the way it has been ever since and if he has a bad dream he knows that all he has to do is come and wake us up and we talk about it and then he goes back to his bed.

We coslept with Katrina until about a year ago. She on occassion will still come sleep with us but usually ends up saying that daddy takes all the room...so she and I (it's usually around 4am) will go back to her bed...

We will cosleep with the baby because it's more fuctional with nursing. Although sometimes I end up on the recliner because it's easier than dealing with DH's arms wacking me in the face or something.

sydney has slept in her own bed since she was born. the only time she sleeps with us is when she gets up in the middle of the night and we're to tired to take her back to her bed.

Nope never did. Thta's not to say I've never fallen asleep on the couch or somewhere holding the kids when they were infants. But actually letting them sleep in my bed with me at night at all no way. I'm much to afraid I'd squoosh them.

Ericka slept with us until she was about 3 months old.. then she started to become a bed hog :teehee Nathan sleeps with me sometimes, not when dh is in the bed, though.

For almost for the entire first year we co-slept. Then for a lot of the second year we co-slept. Now he's 2 1/2 and we do every now and again. I love cuddling up with DS but he's such a wiggle worm and takes up so much space, he likes being in his own bed. :lol

Nope never. Ella sleeps in her own bed. She has never slept with us and we dont' plan to start anytime soon. If she has a bad dream maybe but I want to keep her in her bed and us in ours!!

No but our kids all know once the sun comes up they are more than welcome to climb into our bed. If they have nightmares, hear noises :nutts , or don't feel well they will sometimes sneak in.

I voted no. We have never co-slept and it was the best decision for us. Our bed is OUR sanctuary and the kids have their own bed. Another reason was for safety purposes.

Callie, you do whatever you feel is best for you guys :)

we co-sleep!! when i was pregnant we set up the crib and had nice cute nursey set for it. all the crib did was hide clean clothes!!!:lol trent will be 15 months next month and the end is no where in site. we will address his own bed when he stops breastfeeding............whenever that is!!!:nutts

I voted sometimes! When Ethan was first born, he occasionally gagged due to remaining amniotic fluid in his lungs. I didn't feel comfortable at all without him sleeping next to me. Then during the first 6 months, off and on, he slept in our room in a pack 'n play. Then when 6 months came around he started sleeping through the night, in his own room. :D

ETA: If we co-slept any longer than necessary, our sex-life would be NON-EXISTENT!!!

we agreed Val would sleep in her own bed before she was born...we havent deviated from it and even though I nursed, I didnt want to cause i'd have liked it too much, so I got my butt up, did my thing and went back to sleep...so yeah, just started sleeping good again...I'm glad I didnt co-sleep, it was the best choice for my family.

ETA: If we co-slept any longer than necessary, our sex-life would be NON-EXISTENT!!!


there are other rooms in the house!!!:devil

there are other rooms in the house!!!:devil

that woulda never worked for us...we like 'other rooms' but cant anyway untill the little monster goes to sleep...

only as very newborn infants. They've all come in the bed with me (slept on my chest) until they were about a month old. It was the only way I could get sleep when they were super fussy at night. They would all sleep 3-4 hour stretches if I let them sleep on my chest. So, in desperation, I'd bring them in the bed every once ina while just to get sleep if I was super sleep deprived. Normally though, they have slept in their own bassinet or crib. :D

Ditto!!

Yes and no....

Ethan was only in my bed once and that was when hubby had duty and I was still breastfeeding. I was so tired and it just made it easier.

I intended to NOT co-sleep. Adamant he wouldnt be in our bed for safety reasons and such. And he wasnt. Unfortuantly neither was I. It started out him sleeping in his swing. Which is no biggie. Most Dr;s say to do whatever works in the first few weeks to sleep. Then it was rocking while breastfeeding. Then it was waking up every 1-2 hours. And I was beyond exhausted. He would sleep for 4plus hours on my chest. So I slept on the couch most nights with him on me. I would put him to bed,m he'd wake after only 2-3 hours and I couldnt see straight. So onto my chest he went and onto the couch we'd go. He finally started getting uncomfy like that as I was. So I would put him in his crib and sleep on the futon in his room. And then finally I started working my way out of his room.

So in a way I did co-sleep since he slept on me. Just not in our bed. Do I regret it? Yes and no. No because I HAD to sleep. I NEEDED sleep and it was about the only thing I could do to get sleep. Yes because I helped create a pretty bad habit.

We chose not to co-sleep... DD was in her bassinet in the same room with me for the first few months, but DH and I both feel that it's much easier to raise an independent child if they don't sleep in your bed. I co-slept with my mom until I was 6 or 7, and that's not happening in this house. Plus DD moves around WAY too much for anyone to be able to sleep with her..

We never did cosleeping and I voted no, just because I was so afraid I'd roll over and squoosh her. :(

I was terrified of that too, and also about her maybe scooting and rolling off the bed.. glad I'm not the only one who was afraid of that!

I was too afraid of SIDS and rolling over on her to let her sleep with us for a couple months. But there was one night where she would not sleep unless I was holding her (she was sick) and I was completely exhausted, so I did it out of desperation. We both slept great. I did it off and on, but mostly had her in her own space (her co-sleeper which is like a bassinet attached to the bed). There did come a point where she wouldn't sleep any stretch of time without me in bed with her and that was frustrating-I couldn't get any chores done after she went to bed, had to go to bed at the same time as her or go to her room to put her back to sleep every 1/2 hr-1 hr. She and I ended up sleeping on the futon in her room that's for guests (it was up against the wall so I felt safer with her there and on a firm mattress) and DH slept alone in our bed. After a couple months of that, there came a point where she wouldn't sleep alone or with me (she'd get too excited seeing me in bed with her and wanted to play instead of sleep). That's when I turned to the "Sleep Lady." Now DD sleeps on her own all the time and actually can't sleep if I'm in bed with her.

Even though those few months of her refusing to sleep without me were frustrating, I don't regret co-sleeping. It was such a nice feeling and I wish she'd sometimes co-sleep now, like when DH is gone for the night. It makes me sad she can't sleep with me. It's one of those things that I wouldn't want to do all the time, but I cherish the times we had. I feel it was one of those sweet baby times I'll never get back, that's she's outgrown. Just like I cherish her hugging me all the time cuz I know she'll grow out of that when she's a teen....

I was against co sleeping until we had our dd. I BF her and it was just easier to lay her next to me when she was first born. She was up every 2 hours to eat and I was too tired to take her back to her bed. Then we moved when she was 4 months old (from overseas) so we just co slept until we got settled. She went into her crib at about 7 months old. Even though, she is a little over 2 yr olds and she usually crawls into our bed between 4 and 7 am and I am okay with that. I have no problem getting her into her bed when bedtime comes.

She's always slept in her bassinet or crib.

When he was gone so much before, I would try to get her to sleep w/ me, but she actually slept better by herself.

We'll allow her to come into bed if she has a nightmare or is really sick & wants to be close to us, but other than that, she has her own bed.

For the first 3 months cosleeping worked better for us. She was up a lot at night to eat, and hated her bassinet for some reason. So she slept with us at night. During the day I would nap with her sometimes or she would sleep for short amounts of time in her bassinet.

Thankfully when we transfered her to the crib she did great. She started sleeping through the night, actually.

I did with Jer since I was pretty much a single Mom from the get go.
I JUST got him in his own bed when we all moved out my parent's house....
Josh and I have already decided that we won't co-sleep. I want her/him to know that the crib is her bed. I will keep the bassinet in my room for a few weeks but no, not in my bed. Yes, in my bed to cuddle and all but not to sleep.... I was a lazy Mom... I knew Jer would sleep later he slept in the crook of my arm. And then he got very use to it and well he would wake up screaming bloody murder when I laid him down... and CIO didn't work for me. It just me into fits... I couldn't deal with it. My PPD ontop of anxiety couldn't tolerate.... So, I caved and picked him up. He got use to it and never slept in the $400 crib! :shock

Nope, no co-sleeping....DH is kinda a heavy sleeper and thrashes around, and I need my space....I would let DD sleep with me ocassionally, but she slept in her own crib most of the time.

I dont think I will ever do that.