Not wanting to start a debate here NOR am I saying its right or its wrong. But there seem to be an incredible amount of people moving home right now before this deployment. More than I have ever noticed.

So I was curious if you have, or if you would, move home for a deployment.


I can not see living with my parents or being without my belongings for that long. And there is no way I would pay to move my stuff there and then back when the ship returns. :dunno

No. I never have and never would. It just isnt for me personally... I love my family dearly but my home is with my husband. He is my immediate family as are my kids...Deployed or not :shrug ( even before kiddos.... I stayed put) So I have always stayed put.

Nope. My mom may be my best friend, but she's already raised me and sent me on my way. A week or two to visit will be a definate yes during deployment, and we'll have great times I'm sure...but I'm an adult now, and I rather enjoy my own space :yes

depends...

if he were ever gone for a year i morethan likely would. I would probablyrent an apartment though.

Since I still live only an hour 1/2 away from my parents, I do go home and "live" there for several weeks at a time - but mostly because it's the holidays and I don't start back with school until next semester.

I would never "move home" permanently! I love it too much here.

I put yes, if DHs boat leaves within 4 months of us moving there Im going to move home, not to live with my parents, but to be in the same city! We chose to do that that my family can meet our daughter and she canget to know them also!

I definitely would not move back home. A couple weeks vacation visiting my parents is good enough, When I was there for 7 weeks, I wanted to come back to my home in Hawaii after a couiple weeks....lol!
I love my own house, my own rules, and my own space...
Plus when I was at my parent's last, they kept "freaking" out because Ethan would wake up in the middle of the night. So with Ethan not being in his own room, own crib, etc, really throws off his schedule. :(

ETA: I'd consider it if I we didn't have any children and/or any pets. :)

i wont move back if he is re deployed because i want him to come home to something. i think its important to make a stable home for him when he would come home.

xo

My sister moved back home with my mom while her DH was deployed... I don't know how they didn't kill each other... I'm only a couple miles away from my mom anyways, so no. I wouldn't..

No I wouldn't move back home(my Parents) My home is where my husband and I live and that is where I would stay while he is gone and I think it is better for you to stay in your own home when you have kids.

I wouldnt move...but I have gone home for 3-4 weeks and I am doing that right now since its the holidays.

NO

I value my sanity waaaay too much to even want to move.

If I were married and had children I would definetly stay wherever stationed. Other than that, it depends on where life is at that time. I've never been through a deployment or married so it's hard for me to answer.

I haven't been through a deployment, but I'm going to have to say no. I will be a nurse so I wouldn't be able to if I wanted...

I don't think I would ever do it but who knows what might happen in life so I put depends on life at the moment. I LOVE my family waaay so much but I'm very independent.

I put maybe because I think it depends on the length of time he is gone and where we are in life at that moment. Would I go back for the whole time? NO- but for a little bit-sure

I actually have this choice coming. Normally, no I don't go home when he's deployed. I've visited for a couple weeks at a time, but I can't handle not having my own space for too long. Now, he may be getting deployed and I may actually go to our "home" but in the sense that he retires a couple months after he's due back. So it would be the kids and I moving to our permanent home, our own home, not home to mom, but something we'd be doing anyway, just the kids and I going sooner. Make sense? Otherwise, nope, wouldn't do it.

Actually yes.. I am moving back home. We dont have any children and it makes no sense for me to stay here almost 300 miles away from my friends and family. I dont want to stay in an empty house where every night I come home to my dog,also we are giving up our house. I already have a job lined up there and will be starting right after Dh leaves and I am also registered for school. I will be living with my In-laws and will be paying them rent. I think that everyones circumstances for moving our different and if I had children who were in school, or family closer then I probalby wouldn't move.

Nope, I'm staying here. Yeah I'll go visit but moving more than necessary is too much for me. I hate moving.

No. I never have and never would. It just isnt for me personally... I love my family dearly but my home is with my husband. He is my immediate family as are my kids...Deployed or not :shrug ( even before kiddos.... I stayed put) So I have always stayed put.

ditto!

I said OTHER because I AM HOME!!:D

I wanted to add though....


If my hubby were leaving for some sort of unaccompanied tour, I would consider moving closer to my mom/family if it was going to be for a year or more. I would NOT NOT NOT move IN with family. I would, however, consider moving closer into a home of my own. The Navy is actually starting to pay for family members to be moved closer to family during IA's now. Its a fairly new thing, I think, but I'm really glad they're doing it. :) No way in heck could I move myself and three kids in with family, but it would definitely be nice to have the support of family if my hubby was going to be gone for any real length of time. I figure why stay somewhere that I'm miserable and have no support if my husband won't be there anyways. Seems pointless. Might as well move closer to family.

However, for sea duty, during standard deployments, I definitely would NOT move for those 6 months. Its really pointless, IMO. It would disrupt me and my kids more than it would be worth and I'd want to have a home ready for Dh when he came home also :D

If my children were younger I might consider it. I wouldnt want to move in with my family but staying by them might be an option.

My children are all in school... so never could!

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I figure why stay somewhere that I'm miserable and have no support if my husband won't be there anyways. Seems pointless. Might as well move closer to family.

Thats what I think about a 7-8 month deployment.. and really it's not expensive for us because we are not moving any of our stuff to where I am living we are putting it in storage, and I am not disrupting anyones life but my own. I think it's different for everyone.:)

If I didn't have kids, I'd give it a try since I wouldn't have to worry about them getting on someone's nerves. It's pretty boring where I'm from though, so it wouldn't be that tempting to change jobs and their schools for such a short period.

No, I really wouldn't move back home....I would make a long visit though if it were possible. It would depend on if kids were in school etc...

I went home while DJ was in Field Med. We were able to bank our BAH and pay off a credit card.

That being said ...

I'll NEVER DO IT AGAIN! :no

No, I honestly think it's silly to put things in storage, move out and then have to get back on a waiting list for a house again later and move stuff back in. Maybe I'm just too lazy to bother with it :lol. I could handle going home for a visit or two and/or having my family come visit me but I wouldn't want to live with them for six months or so!

An unaccompanied tour I would probably move closer to home. When Jason went to DG I moved home but he left from C school and we had no idea where we were going afterward so it just made sense to get all of our belongings in one spot.

I went home to visit in IL for three weeks and then spent two weeks at my home in Dallas and I was so ready to be back in my own home by the time the trip was over. I have to have my own space, my own things and my rules. I haven't lived under my parents roof since I was 15 I can't imagine doing it now. Whenver we go back to visit we ALWAYS stay with his folks so that would just be freaky.

This past deployment I went home for 4 months, and I will probably go home for a few months during the next one. We live overseas, we just have a puppy, I have no job here, he is home about 3 months a year... I'm no good at being alone aallll the time so I do go back home and work and go to school and enjoy life! I am always back in time to make sure our house is beautiful and ready for him to come home to, so that's not an issue. When we live in the states, I won't move back home, just visit every now and then.

I lived with my parents while my husband went through a couple of schools, only because we were transferring immediately thereafter, but didn't know where. I think the longest length of time was like 8 weeks.

I have never have & I never would

This past deployment I went home for 4 months, and I will probably go home for a few months during the next one. We live overseas, we just have a puppy, I have no job here, he is home about 3 months a year... I'm no good at being alone aallll the time so I do go back home and work and go to school and enjoy life! I am always back in time to make sure our house is beautiful and ready for him to come home to, so that's not an issue. When we live in the states, I won't move back home, just visit every now and then.

I really do understand where you are coming from :yes Even though I said I would *never* go live back home I do believe if I were overseas, unemployed, and had not children I would take an 'extended' vacation home. :)

I didn't "move" home when DH deployed. BUT.... I am home right now. I came home before Thanksgiving and will be here through the new year... about 2 months total (that's why I am hardly ever on here right now).

I say no I haven't yet been through that but I wouldn't want to move my son/children like it isn't fair! I am sure that I will go home to visit but not move! When we are married I will stay were we are!

Nope, never would. I have kids that are in school, I would never uproot them from school just because of a deployment. And even then I'm just not the type to want to pack up and move unless it's absolutely necessary...

i did it once. that was only because as soon as he got back he was getting out. so i went home to get a job and get things going. now, nope wouldnt do it.

I said maybe. If hes going to be gone along time, like a year or more, I'd consider it. I'd never move in with my family I'd just move closer. i'd be a tough thing with the kids schools and what not though.

No way jose...I have a job and two dogs, Im not giving that stuff up just to be closer to old friends and my family. My home is here now.

If my DH had a really long deployment then yes I would move back home. Right now his deployments are only 4 months long so to keep moving back to Hawaii every 4 months for 4 months is silly to me. :shrug

moving back to Hawaii every 4 months for 4 months is silly to me.

I would go to Hawaii for four months :teehee :yes

No way, my mom drives me crazy as it is

I would go to Hawaii for four months :teehee :yes

Hehe yea well I'm talking about money wise. :D It's just way too expensive to do that just for 4 months then he comes back for 4 months and I'd have to pay to go there again for 4 months. :freakout

Now that we've got our own home I wouldn't be able to do it. My mother would drive me nuts... I love her don't get me wrong, but we are both dominant females and we like control! LOL!!!! We've got Sophie now too and I can't be away from her for too long, I also like having my own car and I can't move that to and from Hawaii all the time. Once we get back to the states I may drive home a few times and stay for a week or so since I can take Sophie with me, but I'm finishing school and I'll probably be working and I really prefer staying in my own home and having the freedom to do what I want and not worrying about how it will affect my family and how they live their lives. It's different for them now that I'm not there. Things have changed and I prefer staying in my own home. I'm not one for sticking around home though either! LOL!!!

I put maybe. It would just have to depend on how much I like the place I am stationed at the time. I've thought that yeah I would move back home, but I think it would be more of a hassle then anything.

NO WAY!!!

No way! I have kids in school. And If I didn't I wouldn't want to uproot my life and unpack and repack. Just to be closer to family and friends. I would probably go home to visit for a long period of time. But not move just to have to move back.

When I move up there, thats it. Im there. Ill come home and visit. But thats where Ill be. He is my husband, we will have a home there in New York. Regardless if he is depoyled or not, I wont leave.

The reason I would move back to his hometwon is because I need help with the kids and stuff. Sometimes with my cp I just get run down.

Normally, I'd say no. However, if I was going through a particularly hard time I might move back, but only temporarily.

Nope, and I feel very strongly about never doing that. I feel that he needs a stable place to come back to, and I cannot do that from my parents house. We got over here, Italy, and 4 days later he left for a 3 month underway. It never crossed my mind to go back home. I stayed here, found us a place to live, etc. and by the time he got back the house was in order and he felt at home. PLUS I need my own space from others when he is gone :yes

I personally have never done it! My family is not that supportive so I have always stuck it out and have done just fine.

Nope. Never. I would take trips and visit different family members though.

oh heck no..I didn't while dh was deployed and I didn't have Aaron I relaly couldn't see myself ever doing that..vacation yes bu living oh heck no

maybe

I only live 3 hours away from my mom so I'll go visit her, but where my mom and I dont get along that well, Im only there for a week. I moved here and 2 months later my husband leaves for a 6 month deployment. I've been here for 4 months now and Im staying here trying to get to know the place. But that's just my opinion. To each their own.

See...I'm kind of in a different situation than everyone. I'm going to be moving in with my parents in January for when DH goes on his cruise. The thing is, we actually live in my hometown and our lease is up Jan 10th. If we lived in a different city, no, I would not move back home because of school with my stepdaughter. Since I'm going to still be in the same area though, we're going to start her out at the school she'll be at (my mom teaches there) so the transition to the other side of town will be easy in regards to that. Also, with our lease ending and a new baby coming, we figured it would be a nice way to save some money and enable me to stay at home with the baby, at least for the length of the cruise. If we got a new place to live instead of me moving into my parents house, then I would have to go back to work without a doubt...now it's kind of my choice, and it wouldn't even have to be full time. I'm hoping I'll be able to last living with them the whole length of the cruise, but I'm not really sure...We'll just see how it goes. I at least know that if it doesn't work out and my parents drive me crazy, then I can move out and get a place without worrying about trying to get a short lease or moving back to the city I came from, since I'll still be in the same city. Like I said though...If I didn't live here already, then no, I wouldn't move back home, but I'd come visit...for how long would depend on the time of the year in regards to school.

Nope, and I feel very strongly about never doing that. I feel that he needs a stable place to come back to,
That's one of the biggest reasons why I would not do it. I want to have a stable home for when he gets back.

Nope, I am a VERY independent person, even if my family lived in the same town I wouldn't.

Nope. My mom may be my best friend, but she's already raised me and sent me on my way. A week or two to visit will be a definate yes during deployment, and we'll have great times I'm sure...but I'm an adult now, and I rather enjoy my own space :yes

:yes I only visit for a week or 2... Will be the same way the next time DH deploys.. Thank goodness we're going to be on shore for a few years!

I never have and never will move back to my hometown when DH deploys(home, to me is where DH and I live, not where I grew up).

you know we keep talking about it and i don't want to. Personally i can't deal with being my own woman and then becoming someone's child again. not to mention if i'm on base i feel a hell of a lot safer than most places i could end up at at "home" which quite frankly isnt' really home to me. home is where the heart is afterall

I chose other since I've yet to go through a deployment (knock on wood) and DH and I have an agreement since we're overseas that I would stay home for 3 months and visit family for 1 month. I think it's pretty fair since I am a SAHM. It can get pretty lonely without DH around.

No, we don't move home when he deploys. I didnt' do it even when we didn't have kids. I enjoy having my own home and routine.

I am going to be staying, not actually moving in since we will still have our apartment, with my parents. They don't live that far away just a little more north. I am going to be doing it through the whole deployment since right before he leaves the baby will be born and I just would like some help.

I chose other, because I'm kinda both, lol. I did for the last one, but probably won't for the next.

I did when I was preggo with Leilani but when I was with AJ I stayed at my house... and drove to see my family every other weekend till the last month I stayed with my mom.....

Not just no but HELL NO!! There is no way at my age I could ever move back to my mom's house and survive. Her coming for 4 days was enough to drive me insane.

when the ex left for boot camp i stayed with my parents and grandparents. then he was sent to south korea, we thought/hoped he'd get something stateside. I think now that he may have asked to be sent to Korea. Anyways, I wish we would have had a base to live at I would have liked that. But I stayed here with family. Then last year I moved to Co to be with him after he returned to Iraq. He didnt want me to, I know why now, but I did anyways. I think, if I marry into the military I would move to where ever DB is and stay there. Not come home during a deployment. I enjoyed living in Co and wish I could do it again.

No. I might consider it if I was pregnant and would be delivering while DH was gone or if there was a serious medical necessity. Other than that, we own a house, so it's not easy to leave that. Plus, my personal feelings are that if you're adult enough to get married, you're adult enough to deal w/the ramifications of being on your own.

Now, if DH had to do a year in Korea or over there, depending on our follow-on, I would either move to the follow on or live w/my best friend for that time frame.

I did on this last cruise, cause I had the baby about 3 weeks after they deployed, and I moved in with my mom for the duration of his cruise! I wanted to be around family and me and DH thought it was for the better! But on this next cruise I WILL be Staying put!! ;)

I went home for a couple of months, but didnt move all of my stuff home!!!! It was my first deployment and I wanted to be with family for a little bit!!!! But at the end of my stay I was so ready to come home!!!!! I went home to get my driver's permit and had to be there for my sister's wedding so I went and stayed for awhile.

No, I wouldn't move home especially with kids (three of themm), I grew up military and my parents wanted as much continuity as possible in our lives and building friendships as a kid is hard enough without the comings and going so we also feel that keeping the kids in one place is important. Now I definitely go home to visit longer a couple of weeks instead of just one depending on school schedules, but even after that the kids are ready to get back home to their beds.

I AM HOME :D

I wouldnt move back home unless I really had to...

I moved back home for 3 months when he was on a 6 month deployment, but I was only 19, and I didn't have any kids to worry about.

Our last deployment we didnt have any kids...I had been in Jax 6 months. I stayed here. I went home for two weeks...I am a better person for having stayed here. I went through a miscarriage and some pretty crappy people ALONE and I am that much stronger for it. I voted NO

Yep i'm home. Just because I lived here before we got married..which we were only married two weeks before he left.

We'll stay here for the year + that DH is gone, but we'll definately visit my family. I have 3 trips planned. I want to keep things as normal as I can for our son too.

When I first moved with my DH he left 4 months later it was ruff on me.. I didn't know anyone or how to get around... I made the mistake of letting him chauffeur me around and making friends wasen't even on my list.. I wanted to spend every waking moment with him before he left... Personally I need my own space so I would never go home...

That being said I think if someone needs the support of thier family.. Go Home that's what family is for...

I live at home with my parents because I have a good job here and I am saving money for when he gets home and gets out. If I had kids that were in school I would stay put where we were, but for now being home with my parents is what is best for me.

Well considering I am at my parents house now.. then yes. I get very depressed when I am alone.. I have to have attention.. I need love lol. I love living with my family right now cause this will probably be the last time it will happen. Since we are going to San Diego, it would be too much too fly back.
We are also relocating.. so it kind of worked to stay here. We are going from VA to CA so all of our stuff is in CA. So it worked out to stary here and save money for our new car etc.

Nope not here. My parents don't want me living there anyway.

I did move home & as much as I hate it sometimes, I really think that this deployment would be a lot harder on me without my family to be there for me. (Also, half of my friends moved home & I didn't want to stay & be all alone most of the time.)

I went home to have my youngest. I stayed about two months then came back. I didn't plan on going home, but two days before dh left I freaked out thinking I wouldn't have anyone to help me with my older two if I went into labor. So I went home a month after he deployed and stayed there until we were able to get into housing. I will never do it again.

I wrote it depends.

I have never moved home for deployments.

But with this last one, having two small kids and my own health problems I considered just moving up to WA (our next duty station) ahead of DH to be with my MIL. Since we are pcsing up there when he comes home it really wasn't a big deal. But I decided to stay here. I wish like hell I would have went home. Its hard with two small children and all your friends moved because of the deployment too.

I am actually back in Canada right now... but only for a visit. I honestly thought that this was a good idea. But I now i see the flaw in my plan. No one here can understand what I am going through. I love my friends and family, but since I moved away to San Diego I have changed and they are unwilling to recognize the changes. Oh well...
To each his own I suppose, but there is no way I would live here without hubby. My home is where he will come back to.

depends on the situation.

Well my husband is deployed right now and I didnt move back home, even though my parents really wanted me to... and I know I wouldnt move back in the future either... My home is with my husband and where the Navy takes us, even if he is deployed

It depends on the situation. With our first deployment I stayed put, I was absolutely miserable. I didn't know anyone around here, his family ignored us completely (they were supposed to be our "support"), I had no transportation, etc. But we stuck it through.
The second deployment, first thing I did was arrange to go back home. It was stressful and a bit of a hassle to move away, then move back, but it was so much better for me and the kids to be with my parents.

If DH gets deployed again, I would probably move back home again depending on where we were living and the circumstances. I have no problems with going back home where there's people who love us and want to help during a stressful time.

No But I would spend sometime going to visit.

I truly believe it is so you can get BAH. If I could move back home I would just for the 1500 a month BAH but to me its not worth it because we would have to move all of our stuff to a storage unit and then back to a place again when the ship returns. Just not feasible for us. I am going back for 2 weeks but thats just business and for a visit of friends and family.

Nope. My mom may be my best friend, but she's already raised me and sent me on my way. A week or two to visit will be a definate yes during deployment, and we'll have great times I'm sure...but I'm an adult now, and I rather enjoy my own space :yes


gotta second that, Becca!!

Nope. I drive to my parents when I need to (6 hours) or my parents come here at least once every 6 weeks for a weekend if I can't make the drive. I am "home".

No way. I am a grown woman with school age children. I have been on my own since I was 20. I will go home and visit for a couple of weeks, but that's it. I won't uproot myself and the kids out of our home.

To each their own I guess.

I have. I probably won't do it again because I have a baby now.

I said it depends on life at the moment. Last deployment I was pregnant and very close to due when he came home, so it was easier to live at home where people could help me if I needed it. This time around DD is 18 months old and we have lived here for over a year, so HELL NO I'm not going home, LOL! I missed his homecoming last time because I was too pregnant to fly, and hell will freeze over before I miss this one!

I picked no. This is my home, our home, and I don't want to uproot the boys from their home. I would probably go back to my hometown, though, for a visit, but that's about it.

When Nate left for his deployment *4 months* Eian and I flew back home for that time...I could have stayed in Cali but I chose to head back not because I couldn't do it by myself but mainly because my parents hadn't really seen Eian so I thought it was a good chance for them *both sets of parents* to meet Eian and spend time with him, I didnt have a job and I still paid all the bills back in Cali, just took a nice vaca back to MN.