So here is a question in relation to the biiig deployment thread with all the posts. It is more specific to what I am thinking about with DB leaving in a month:

Did anyone find that once your sweetheart was gone for a while that you began to view your relationship more objectively?

Did you feel your relationship was stronger when he returned because you had a different outlook on it?

Mine has never been on deployment. But being away sure made it take advantage of the time we spent together.

It definitely helps me appreciate "the little things" and to not take a single second of our time together for granted. We both change for the better when we have time apart.

I definately view our relationship way better than I use to. He'd want to see me every single day, but I'd get tired of seeing him everyday. He was always by himself, or at home with his mother so.. I never really acknowledged how much he needed or wanted me then until now. I wish I would have ALWAYS been there. He hasn't graduated yet, so he won't be coming home for a while.. but when I see him, I wanna make sure I apologize for all those times I never took the energy to go be with him. He always thought that I was all he had, he thought I was the only reason he exsisted or strived to continue life, and I was barely there. :tears Our time away got me to realize all of these things. It makes me realize how much I do love n care about him.

I dunno if I answered the question correctly, but I think I did.

Well dh hasnt returned yet but I know with us being long distance for 9 months prior to him leaving and then him being deployed it caused me to look at what really matters. The little things that normally would cause me to get mad or upset dont and I cherish the times we have more than anything in the world. With us being apart it has caused us to be more open with one another and in turn has caused our relationship to be stronger.

"i love you" became more constant and we would use it every other sentance, we never knew if it would be the last time we heard eachother say it.

letters were more constant for me than any other communication, and i remember rereading them over and over again, wishing him back.

i know i appreciated what he did for my country more when he deployed too.

xo

Our marriage has gotten SO much stronger with this deployment... while he's gone it just gives us a chance to step back and see things without being able to speak without thinking. Plus, when all you can do is talk, its easier to work on things that need talked about and worked on... plus you learn to appreciate your time with your SO SOOOOOOOOOOO much more! hope that helps!

All of those replies helped a lot! I hope that happens to me and DB. I'm sure it will. Our relationship is awesome, so as long as it doesn't get WORSE when he leaves I'll be a happy girl. :D