Have any of you rushed to the alter before an upcoming deployment?

If so, do you feel that it would have been wiser to seal the deal when he returned, or are you glad you did it before he left? What made you rush to the alter? Was last minute paperwork involved with the marriage and changing over his military-related BAH, etc. a hassle?

Tell us about it! I'm curious. :D

um no, I think that would be so very stressful to do.

Sorry I can't be any help. Dh and I got married after he returned from his deployment. I hope someone can answer your questions though.

Actually yes... We got married 5 days before DH left.. and it wasnt hard or stressfull at all. We the marriage license on the 11th and got married on the 12th at JOP. I am so glad I didnt wait and just went for it!!!! :) Changing over the BAH and putting me on his page 2 was easy.. we went to Admin and he changed everything!!! Maybe it's been hard for other people but it was easy for me.. JMO HTH

Even "real weddings" don't take that long to plan, so long as you are not getting married in the main months of June to August.
I planned my wedding in less than three months, that was with renting my dress, food, decortations, fab photographer, and oh yeah I was in high school with a little boy!!!
If you hustle, you can get it done. I had a lovely wedding and 8 days later he was gone.
Its just a matter of thoughtful planning and knowing from the get go that its all about the two of you starting your lives, not how big of a party you can host. We had 60 people at our wedding. Some people could not make it, but for those who felt it was important, came.

We got married three weeks before he lefted for korea and I would never ever change that. I felt that either way we did it we would have been rushed. I am loving every minute of being married and would not trade it at all.

DF and I have already agreed that we will do a JOP wedding if he gets deployed, and a real ceremony when he comes back. In addition to the extra benefits, I think dealing with him being gone would be emotionally easier if I am his wife.

We rushed a little, because he was in Hawaii, and I wanted to get out there ASAP. I got married a month after I graduated from college. To be honest (this is terrible), I still don't think I'm on his BAH. They know we're married, I have my ID and DOD tags on my car, but money wise, we're still not getting it all, and it's been 7 months. We had...5 months to plan AND I got married in June, but that was because it took him so long to give me my ring.

Anyway, I sometimes regret getting married when we did. Right now I do because I'm seeing how bad it looks applying to grad school a year out with not having been working. Argh! If we hadn't gotten married, I would have just gone straight on to grad school. But other than that, as much as I don't want to be in Hawaii anymore, I still want to be with him.

my sister in law got married 10 days before he left for iraq. she did have an "acctual wedding" nothing big, but it was a ceremony in the church, and all kinds of paper work, pay, and all that good stuff got screwed up. to top it off, when she went to get her id, they gave her the wrong kind. anyway, it's been really difficult for her. yeah she's ok finacially cause of the money he's bringing in and the benefits and stuff, but she's suffereing emotionally. excessive migranes, depression...i feel bad for her. wish i could be there for her, but i'm just too far away to acctually "be" there. KWIM? anyway, i've got my own views on their marriage...let's just say they're not good, but that doesn't mean i don't want her to be happy. i think she should have waited, but at least she's being "taken care of"

We always talked about getting married in a court house when I was down there *considering he's going on deployment in early Feb*, but it never happend. We wanted some witnessess that we knew-not just ones of the street. We pretty much know were going to get married (even though we've been dating such a short time), but we decided to get married when I finish school. In fact he's in the reserves so he's only got two years and wants to go to school, So were thinking of 2009 for a wedding. We were thinking of 2008, but thats right after I graduate, but I'm sure if he's on deployment we will either have a quick ceremony in 2009 and a big party when he gets home, or wait another year. (yeah we've kinda discussed this SEVERAL times)

dh and I talked about it before his deployment but I was 17 a month to the day he left shy of 18. My mother was going to sign but then backed out cause his family thought that was the only reason I was going to see him :rolleyes. but for us it wouldn't have been rushed. We had been together for 5 years at that point
So we waited and got married less than a month after he got home

I didnt do it before a deployment but he had just started A school and we found out that he was moving to another state, so we pushed our wedding up and had it very last minute. But I loved my wedding, I wouldn't change it. It wasn't a pain to get the paper work done, but it was to get the Mil ID because somehow I needed him to come with, and when we did we found out I had to get it done at his base. I think it was for the better because it made other things go smoother.

my sister and BIL got married when he was home for his 3wk and went back. they wish they did it before he was deployed.

I told Db we better be married before he's deployed for many reasons. We know we want to be married anyways.

We got married about 2months before he deployed. everything went smoothly.