So the boy asked if I'd want to go look at engagment rings last night!! While it's totally what I want (for us to get married and whatnot in the future), I know the engagement wouldn't come for a year or so... and honestly didn't think he'd be interested in looking this early! So, what I'm wondering is do other people feel/think that if you go look at engagement rings prematurely (before you are going to buy them for a while) if you think it can kinda curse your relationship or get your hopes up?!! I'm just afraid to go look and then something horrible happen in the future and us not end up together.

We both definately love each other and he's said he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and I've said the same... and I feel the same! It's just... we need to get through Great Lakes boot camp, then he's going to BUD/S. I don't know... I guess I'm sorta playing the guy roll here in sorta getting afraid of the future.

if it were me, i'd be all ready to buy my gown once a guy said that. lol. so it might not be good in that aspect since it's so early and anything can happen. but it could also be really good, because he's actually interested in it!! i think it's totally in the air, anything can happen!!

I'd say, if the proposal isn't coming for a while, then wait to officially look at rings. otherwise, it will be on your mind ALL THE TIME until it happens. but that isn't to say, you can't look on your own to get an idea for when he's ready.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have felt the same way. So instead of going with him.....I told him what I like and what type of stone. (I want a princess cut 3-stone ring). If I see a picture of one that looks like the one I want....I tell him. I told him I want the "official" engagement a total suprise and that I want HIM to pick the ring. I picked the ring out with my exhusband. I kinda felt like I was missing out on something. :dunno

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have felt the same way. So instead of going with him.....I told him what I like and what type of stone. (I want a princess cut 3-stone ring). If I see a picture of one that looks like the one I want....I tell him. I told him I want the "official" engagement a total suprise and that I want HIM to pick the ring. I picked the ring out with my exhusband. I kinda felt like I was missing out on something. :dunno

When we first started this convo last night he asked what rings cost. And I said I thought btw $1000-$2000 up to $10,000-$20,000 if you wanted. And he said "Well, how much does the one you want cost?" and I honestly don't know. I don't know what I like and haven't looked. So he suggested we go look together. I like the idea of picking out what I like and how small I want it and then him going and getting it himself without me picking out the final final one because I want to be able to wear my ring when I work (I'll be a physical therapist and working with my hands and other people and such). I'm also kinda picky about rings in that I don't like ones that stick up high (I guess it's the ones where the stones sit up in prongs?!).

So is it weird to go look at engagement rings by yourself at the store?!!

DB started taking me into ring stores a few months ago, and I wouldn't pick out rings i really loved( honestly...i didn't really love any of them!) and he got a little frustrated!
I think in my head I thought it was a "curse" I just wanted to give him hints on what I liked and then he pick it out.
But then we went to CO for Christmas and I pointed out a jewelry store i love( shane CO) and we were there for over an hour and I found the ring i LOVE.
And I am okay now, no curse feeling, nothing like that

I told him my origanal feelings and he thought it was hilarious! He said as guys they need us to point out exactly what we like so they dont screw up! LOL anyhow...good luck! Be happy you are talking of the future!!
Yay!