Ok, some may think I'm a biotch for asking this, but, did you ever consider getting a different diamond for your ring than his original? See, I never would have before we were married, but now my wedding band is on my left hand and my engagement ring on my right. Our bands matched each others, not my engagement ring. sooo...would it be really terrible to get a larger diamond to put in my engagement ring? in my defense, he brought it up because he feels bad that he didn't buy a bigger one to begin with...can i say yes to his suggestion? or defend his original choice?

I think that its up to you. If he suggested it, then I would guess its okay. Somedays I would like to have a bigger/flashier engagement ring, and then the rest of the time, I remember that he picked out what he thought was perfect for me (and really is). Mine is nothing to sneeze at either. For the price he paid, he got a smaller, but certified flawless diamond. He did it that way because he thinks I am perfect (flawless) and that he wanted to reflect that in the diamond he chose.

I dont think its terrible. DH got me a larger, more flashy engagement ring for our 1st anniversary. The old one sits in a box in our safe.
My stepdad gave my mom a wrap for her ring to make it look more flashy.

cool, thanks! i was excited when he suggested it, but then i felt bad, like i undermined his original, even though i love it. i want to keep the setting, but he wants to get a bigger center diamond for our first anniversary too.

That sounds like a great idea!!!! :thumbsup

it sounds like a great idea if you want it. Dh wants to get a bigger diamond for my ring in a few years and I would rather get a different set with a small sapphire when we get "remarried" in our religious ceremony in a few years.

Hubby and I got married young, so my ring set is little but sweet. He picked out the set on his own. That being said, we have discussed renewing our vows next year (tenth anniversary) and that perhaps I upgrade the diamonds, or such.
I think so long as it is mutual, there is nothing wrong. My hubby's grandma has rows of rings, each with bigger stones... as they have gotten more in life, so has she... its so cute, they got matching diamond bands for their 50th.

I personally would not want a different one. Robert had a family friend make mine and I absolutely love my rings. I think if I ever mentioned wanting a bigger/different one he would be really hurt and think that I didn't like the one I already have.

That being said though. If it is a mutual decision or his decision I see nothing wrong with it. :D

Wait why do you wear your rings on different fingers? Am I the only one who wears them together...My engagement ring isnt even a diamond so i cant help you out...Its a tourmaline with six little diamonds around it and my wedding band has seven diamonds...I think my husband would be insulted if i asked for another ring...My mom gets hers upgraded but my dad does it for her...I think down the road like when we have been married for a long time it would be nice to upgrade, but i love my current rings!

Wait why do you wear your rings on different fingers? Am I the only one who wears them together...My engagement ring isnt even a diamond so i cant help you out...Its a tourmaline with six little diamonds around it and my wedding band has seven diamonds...I think my husband would be insulted if i asked for another ring...My mom gets hers upgraded but my dad does it for her...I think down the road like when we have been married for a long time it would be nice to upgrade, but i love my current rings!

You are not the only one. I wear mine on the same hand as well.

I was going to say am i stupid LOL I know I dont know much about jewlery but i thought i was doing the right thing!

I was going to say am i stupid LOL I know I dont know much about jewlery but i thought i was doing the right thing!

Are you talking about which hand/finger you wear your ring on?

yes LOL

I think most people wear both of them on their left ring finger :) The wedding ring is supposed to be closest to your heart and the engagement ring on the outside...at least from everything that I have heard :D However, they are your rings and you can wear them however you want :)

Befor ehe rpoposed he brought me in to the strore to try on my ring and a larger one (twice the size) for me to pick which one I wanted. I thought for sure that I wanted the big one (haha what girl wouldn't?) BUT it looked bad on my skinny fingers. Even the lady at the store said so. My ring is perfet as it is so I am glad I got what I did. He wanted to make sure I got what I wanted because we are both very sentemental and wouldn't want to change it later. Although I wouldn't object for a right hand diamond later on. haha.

If you both agree on a new one then I don't think that is bad. A lot of people "upgrade" later on. Don't feel bad about it!

I have my original engagement ring, but it sits in my jewelry box. DH upgraded my ring to 1.5ct diamond ring, so I wear that one! :D :wub

It is a personal decision. I considered upgrading my center diamond for a little while.

We got engaged and picked our rings afterwards while we were apart. I would go online and look at ring that were much larger than what I got. But what he chose was beautiful and he said that he chose only 1.5kt because I'm too beautiful for something so flashy. (what a line huh?) That and he said sometime in the future I will get a "Past, Present, Future) ring (L)

I would just say to him that no matter what ring I have long as it came from him I would love it.

i could never change mine. the original engagement ring was one he picked out himself, out of love, picking the one he thought i'd love... and i do. i don't think i could ever trade/upgrade it unless it's for a major (ie 10, 20, 30 yr) anniversary.... the meaning behind my original ring is what matters to me. but thats just my personal preference.

I couldn't ever change mine, either. It's very special to me. Even if he had the money down the road to upgrade it or buy something bigger, I'd rather use the money to take a little romantic getaway instead. I wouldn't want anything larger anyway, big jewelry and my lifestyle don't really go together.

I did get a new one, but not because of the diamond. Because it had a very delicate band that I kept bending. I got a new one that was thicker that I wear everyday and then for specail occasions I wear the original.

Anyways, I would just go along with his suggestion, why not?

We upgraded my center diamond to a 1/4kt heart since thats what we wanted when we got married but couldn't afford one..so we got a basic one we liked and knew when we could afford the heart I could get it. So about 2 years after we were married I got my heart diamond and wouldn't trade it for the world

I agree with troublemaker 100000%...My husband went to a different state to get my ring and fabricate an entire story to which i believed! I could never give it up!

Im actually in the process of doing the same thing, if its mutual...go for it! I want to keep the band, just a bigger rock :lol

You guys got diamonds???

I think it's a personal preference. If you guys talked about it and you want to get a new one, I don't see anything wrong with it.

I'm really attached to mine. I'm only giving it up when Taylor gets married so she can use it if she wants. Then I'll get a new one :)

i never thought about getting a new diamond until we found out my current one is chipped. so i suppose i'll just wait until it's about to fall out, or it had fallen out before i get a new one. i wish i didn't have to, but it's pretty likely the diamond will fall out.

I definetely agree it's a personal decision :yes

I personally will never touch my engagement ring but that's just me!

I don't think it makes you a bad person :wink

When my DH and I started looking for rings before we got married I told him that I wanted to make sure we both fell in love with our rings because I really wanted the rings we got married with to be the rings we wore forever. I am as happy with my ring now as the day I got it and it is almost 10 years later.

You guys got diamonds???

No I have a gem stone surrounded by tiny tiny diamonds there are 6 of them...Im not a diamond fan!