things are crazy right now...im supposed to be getting married in 10 days and soon after we are supposed to relocate to Germany...

BUUUUUTT...

my dad is totally against it. hes passed the anger stage even... he was acctually begging me not to do it, because hes afraid im too young...

So, if i do this i will break my fathers heart, and ruin our perfect relationship..

and if i dont do this i will break my fiances heart and possibly lose the man i love...

any sugestions???

Follow your heart. Everything else will follow.

You dad will forgive you if you go with your choice. But follow your heart and everything else will work out. Good luck :hugs

Yeah it's a hard decision, but you're growing up now and he just doesn't want to lose you! Like everyone else is saying, follow you're heart. Your dad will still love you and be there for you every step of the way!! :) :hugs

I had that same thing happen to me. I lived with my sister and BIL and they HATED the fact I was getting married only days after turn 18. However, it is your choice. I have been there and let me tell you, they will forgive you in time and things will go back to the way they were but your fiance may not always wait for you (or rather your dad) to be ready for this.

You dad will forgive you if you go with your choice. But follow your heart and everything else will work out. Good luck :hugs

well said Margaret:thumbsup :yeehaw

You dad will forgive you if you go with your choice. But follow your heart and everything else will work out. Good luck :hugs

Maragaret said it perfectly.

:hugehug It's hard but follow your heart. If you choose your man...your dad will eventually get over it...they usually do. Good luck with making your decision.

I'd go with my man. Parents will get over it, they should be there for you regardless!

That is a tough situation. But I agree with Margret. Your dad may be upset for a while, but...he should want to see his daughter happy. I hope everything works out for you :hugs

I feel your pain....lol. In the same boat with my dad about me moving to California. He maybe angry right now, but maybe with time and you do end up going it will make yalls relationship a lot stronger. You're not going to marry your dad, nor will he be there to take care of sick kids in the middle of the night. Its YOU'RE time now to start a new life with a husband. You need to go with your gut. Its a very hard decision, I know. Its even harder when you have kids. Do what you feel is right and if you have any reservations about going away, then dont do it, but you do need to live your own life.

thanks you guys...you have no idea how it feels to have someone on my side in all of this...

I'm not picking sides, but I can see your dads POV. He's just trying to protect you, all (or most) parents do it. And I'm sure it doesn't make it easier that you would be moving out of the country.

Follow your heart. Your Dad will come around. It is hard enough to have a daughter get married but get married and then move to another country can be a little tough for parents.