my DB got his orders yesterday. he wanted Corpus Cristi because he has alot of family out there and his grandmother is sick and stuff and he just wants to be with her. He also requested Chicago. i was so happy cause i live in Chicago and i was already picturing us being together all the time and spending anniversaries together. well..turns out my bubble got busted :( his orders are for Texas. i told him i would move with him when he first brought it up, but i didn't think he would actually get them. I guess my I set my hopes too high.

If I go with him to Texas, Im leaving my family and friends, everything I know. I love him so much and I do want to be with him and grow old with him. Theres no doubt in my mind. But...I want to do things the right way, get engaged, have the big wedding and then move in with him. But he just wants to be with me already. So I dont know if I should go with my dreams that I not only want but my family too, or disappoint them and just move down with him:shrug

if you want the courting, the engagement, the wedding... follow that dream :) if thats how you've pictured it, let it happen that way. in the meantime, make it work through the distance :D

Thats what Im leaning towards, Im just scared that he's gonna take it too hard and not want to wait, not only that, but he's suppose to go back to iraq in september, and i dont want to be by myself in texas you know

Do it how YOU want it...dont let family persuade you otherwise...its your life...:hugs good luck with whatever you decide

DO NOT come to Corpus unless you KNOW this is what you want
You apparently come from a pretty big city and Corpus is VERY small. We do NOT like it here.
and if he isn't willing to wait then it wasn't meant to be

You need to go with your heart and gut. Do what you feel is right.

DO it do it do it!
Thats just from my personaly experience. I had an AMAZING job, my life was my ice skating and my family. But I fell in love with an airman...sheesh! ANd he is here in Texas,( wichita falls...middle of nowhere!) and it took about 6 months to make the decision but I moved to be with DB about a year ago and havnt looked back, and I love it! I didnt always love it here( actually i am just starting to like the town lol) BUT being with him( in the same state, and country no less) is a dream come true! It sucks leaving everything you know, and downright scary, but so so worth it! Let me know if you need to talk about it or anyhting, good luck with your decision!

The same thing happened to Us...DH wanted and thought he was getting orders for the Hampton Roads area where family and I was.. But he ended up getting FL orders. It did make me really sad and scared but I love him and decided it was the right thing to push up our wedding and get a place right when he moved there. You both will figure out what is right for you

aww, thanks so much guys! you guys really helped me out, its such a good feeling to know that there are other girls out there who know where Im coming from. I finally dont feel alone!! lol:yahoo

You need to go with your heart and gut. Do what you feel is right.

:yes

If you have any hint of doubt (which you do) then I don't think it's best for you to move with him. Your thoughts should be 100% yes, and they're not. Sometimes logic is more feasable than emotions.

YOU NEED TO GO WITH HOW YOU FEEL :)

Can I say something about Corpus?? I don't know why everyone is so down on it. The place is beautiful, the ocean, the small town atmosphere, the people are nice and San Antonio is only a few hours away as are a good majority of the major cities in Texas. You are a hop skip and a jump from the Mexican border and South Padre Island. If you come PLEASE take advantage of driving on the beaches, combing for sea shells, 4 wheeling in the dunes, lazy sunsets and warm weather. (god, I sound like a travel agent) Corpus is a place that you are either going to love or hate. It is going to be what you make of it. Texas A&M is here as well, it's a great school. There are other schools here too that you can take advantage of. Finding a job is not easy unless you are a minimum wage kinda worker, but it's doable. Cost of living is cheap, unless you buy then the bucks are in taxes. GOOD LUCK in what you decide,but don't be scared to come to Corpus...its not a horrible place to live.

i would follow your dream girl !

I would say do it the way you want to do it. I know that patience is a virtue (it's one that I don't have) but if he loves you that much, he will respect your decision no matter what. LD relationships are hard (I'm in Ohio and DB is in MD), but I figure if you can make it through that, you can make it through anything. Good luck with the decision making.