lately i have been noticing that my fiance who is in the army has been kinda of down and not himself. He has been to Iraq and he came back home last year. He sometimes has flashbacks about being over in Iraq and also sometimes has bad dreams about what he has seen over there. I don't ever ask him about what he saw over there because i know that he doesn't like to talk about it and i understand and i respect that. But what i am having a hard time with is i wanna help but i don't how to help. And sometimes i feel like he is not happy with me but i know that he loves me and everything is ok between us its just that i am worried about him and i hope someone can give some ideas or something on how to deal with this. If anybody has any ideas or anything that would be great!!:shrug

Did he see someone to talk about these flashbacks and dreams? I don't know much about PTSD but it sounds to me as if that might be the problem. If that is the case he should find someone to talk to. I know some of the ladies on here will be able to give you more details about what to do in that case etc

He was getting help when got back but isn't seeing anyone right now. I have a feeling that he does have PTSD.

The first time my husband came home from Iraq, I acutally ended up sleeping on the couch sometimes only because hubbie would have some bad dreams and hitting me in the face! Other nights he was afraid of coming to bed with me b/c he didn't want to hurt me! I know it seems funny, but he doesn't even remember doing it! Other times, I like to come up from behind him and "scare" him playing around and he does not think it's funny!! He ended up going to talk to someone about it and was fine weeks after..it's going to be interesting to see how he does when he comes home this second time! It will get better he probably just needs some time to adjust!! How long has he been home? :hugs