Ok Im going ahead and getting prepaired for DH not to be at the birth, just so Im not so let down later! How did you cope with him not being there? I feel angry and sad all at the same time!! How long did it take you to get over the fact that he wasnt there??

I haven't done it yet but my hubby might not be here for landen's birth either so I totally know what your going through. Damn fleet week

I gave birth to my 3rd dd without dh and it went fine. I had my best friend with me to support me through labor and it was great. But it was hard to be alone afterwards in the hospital, although the nursing staff was great about letting me sleep more because they knew dh wasnt home.

After I got home and was with the other kids it was a little hectic at first but we got into a rountine and it was fine.

I really didnt take me too long to get over him not being there, I knew before he deployed that he would miss it, I just accepted it and moved on. I think it was harder on him to not be there and have to hear over the phone that he had a new baby girl.

I had my 3rd child alone, in another country. It was a 2 week ordeal. In my case, I had to leave DH behind and fly to another city for a c-section, alone. Stay in a hotel room for a week while I waited for my scheduled date, then take a taxi to the hospital. I then stayed in the hospital for 7 days. I had no one. Not even a friend. I did have some ladies that worked at the hotel come by once to visit & bring flowers. The cleaning ladies and nurses made a point to come and visit me because they felt so bad for me. They were all very nice. I then took a taxi back to the airport with the baby and flew home. DH was home waiting for me with our two other kids and all was fine from there. I knew that I was going to have to do this, so I just mentally prepared myself to deal with it. I didn't let myself get into a pity party about it because there was nothing to do to change it. I was very proud of myself as to how I handled it and I now look back and wonder how I ever managed to do it. I also like to look at it as "all in a days work for a military spouse". We do what we have to do and move on.

I will be delivering Brenna without my dh there. Especially if we have her scheduled to come early. BUT I will have my family and friends here. Still going to be very different and hard but I can do it.

I delivered my DS by myself, DH left 3 weeks before he was born! My mom came in the morning he was born! Not something I wanted to do but didn't have a choice, you just got to deal with what you get! I wasnt mad that he wasn't there! just upset that he didn't get to see his first born! But I dealt with it and so did he! :)

I had my first son alone and I mean it was hard being the only parent at the hospital after having him but I got over it. I <3 my son so much it was totally worth all the tears that flowed that day. :)

I just went threw that. my family was there ,but its not the same. Im not so much sad for myself but for him because he missed it. I cryed about it already and Im moving on. He got to see the baby for a few hours before they left for 7 months. Evertime he e-mails me he talks about how sad he is to not be here to help and that he wont be able to hold the baby when he is this small again.

Thanks ladies, Im not mad at DH but more mad at the situation. We got pregnant now to avoid him being gone for the birth but the Navy has a way of screwing up everything!! It just hurts my heart to know that hes not going to experience this!! He will most likely miss the first year of this babys life and it just makes me sad for him!!! I know I can handle it and deal with it, I mean I signed up to be a Navy wife, but I guess actually being in this situation feels TOTALLY different!!