Well, i am new at all this. My sailor graduated from boot camp in December and he is in his A school (corps school). I am nervous. We are engaged. He is more then likely going to end up in Iraq and I am scared to death. My parents are not liking this so much cause they are afraid for me to be with a guy who is in the military cause they are afraid of me being alone all the time, but I love him more then anything and basically I don't care what they say, but I do love my family. Sometimes I don't think they understand how hard it is on me for them to act like this. Anyways, i need some advice on what to expect. I love him with all my heart... If anyone has had a problem with parents or can understand what I am going through please HELP cause it is so hard and I am totally out of words to say to them.

whitney(L)

:hugs First off, welcome. It's very rough being a military wife, but I wouldn't trade my life for anything. My parents were not thrilled at first either, but most parents aren't when their kid gets engaged anyway.

boy have i been there!!! both my mom and bio dad stopped talking to when i told them i was getting married. my stepdad talked my mom into talking to me again after about 2 weeks. it took me having my first child before my dad would talk to me again, that was 3 years. it's hard, but at the same time you have to remember that you cant live your life to make them happy. what good is that if you are unhappy? this life is tough... it has its ups and downs, but then again, whos life doesnt. it's all what you make of it.

Hey dear! My DB is finishing up Aschool too, so I'm in a similar boat with you. I don't talk with my mother, who definitely didn't get it, but my dad is trying to be understanding... so I kinda understand and kinda not... Still, if you wanna talk. I'm always here.

We can get used to this together! :hugs

Well I guess all I can say is stay strong and keep as much in contact that you can with ur guy. I think with my db he's in the same boat you guys are. He's in schooling right now because he got out of boot a few weeks ago. And he's told me that his staff sargent said that 90% of the people that he's watching over is going to Iraq. I was so torn apart when I heard it from my own bf's mouth when he said it over the phone. All kines of things were hitting the fan but then I realized that I got myself into this. And that I chose this because this was something that I was will to go through for my man. With the love of your man that you have it will definately get you through this. When times get tough just remember those good times when you 'n' ur guy were together. The letters that he wrote, the phone conversations you guys had, and the unforgettable memories. It seems like now it's just so hard to get through the day but it'll get better and you'll get used to it. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on PM me or IM me. I wish you best of luck and you'll get through it! :hugs

Aww Whitney :( everything is going to be okay, I know it sucks right now and your parents arent making it any better but I am sure they will start to understand when they see that you guys are going to make it. My parents they didnt support us until he had been in the navy for a year 1/2 and saw that we are head over hills for eachother. You just have to show them no matter what thick or thin,how ever far, you two love and will take care of eachother! :) EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY :hugs