are you okay with your SO going? alone, with you, both, neither?


I would never try to 'mother' Jason by saying he's not 'allowed' to go, but he knows I'm not a fan. I have been to several (before we were married and before I was even legal for that matter :neutral ) and I honestly believe that most of them are for absolute scum bags. Sorry if that offends anyone, but it's the truth. I've never seen a classy strip club with women who respect themselves. Its usually trash grinding on trash. Maybe I just have not been to the right places :hehe I'm not totally against going WITH him -MAYBE-, but I would be extremely resentful if he spent his free time away from me at a club lusting over other women... and spending our money on them :nutts If he's going to lust and spend money, I want to be with him :lmao

I'm not crazy about Dh going alone but am okay with him going with the guys every now and then. We have been talking about going together sometime.

I have been with him before and he has gone with friends. It doesn't bother me when he does go but he wont go by himself. It has been awhile since he has been to one I think he may have went to one when he was in Bolxi for C school but he was the desinated driver and chaprion (sp) for the younger guys.

I don't have a problem with him going.. I don't get mad at him if he mentions going with a bunch of the guys... I don't tell him "hey why don't you go out to the strip club with the guys either" ... I think the fact that I don't get mad and he can't get a rise out of me takes away all the fun of going... he's never gone when he's talked about it.... we've talked about going together though... who knows.. maybe one day

We've both been, but never been together. I don't care if he goes - but I want to know when he does.

I dont care about him going as long as I know....however, I dont want him blowing all this money on getting lap dances for him and his buddies or whatever it is that they do there. I have never been....but I hear it can be expensive

I don't mind if he goes with his friends from back in PA. He has before and they said the strippers were nasty and it was more fun to make fun of them!! I don't know any of the guys he is friendly with on his boat so I'm not sure I would want him to go with them.

I've never been to one and as far as I know, he has never been to one. If he has, it's only been when he was at school. He is always home.
I don't think I'd like the idea of him going and lusting over women and then coming home to put all that energy into me. I want to be the one that gets him hot. I even mentioned getting a pole for our bedroom when we finally get our own place.
I know it would bother me if he gave our money to the strippers. We can find better things to do with it.

i don't care if he goes as long as i know and he doesn't spend too much money

I dont really care as long as I know and preferrably went with. But otherwise I dont care. Providing he doesnt blow a shitton of money there..I have seen some classy ones before. They are few and far between but they are out there...

DH used to go when he was single, but he says now he doesn't want to. I tried to talk him into going with me, but he won't. He said he would rather spend money buying baseball cards. LOL

DH used to go when he was single, but he says now he doesn't want to. I tried to talk him into going with me, but he won't. He said he would rather spend money buying baseball cards. LOL

I think that's along the same thoughts as Jason. Why waste money on strippers when a.) he has his own personal stripper who can strip and do him :lmao and b.) spend the money on it when he can spend the money on GNC crap, the truck he's getting, computer parts, etc :P

I really do not care if he goes, there is a no touching rule though. If him going leads him to him cheating then I figure he does not love me no matter if there are naked women around or not.

DH used to go when he was single, but he says now he doesn't want to. I tried to talk him into going with me, but he won't. He said he would rather spend money buying baseball cards. LOL

mine says the same thing...he said he won't go without me though..i really don't care..i just told him if he does go to one, don't expect to come home and get some from me for a few days because i want to know he is thinking about me and not some other chick he saw naked...

I was just discussing this with df - one of our friends was trying to take him to a strip club last weekend but he said no, saying that I'd have his balls if he went!! :inshock I personally dont mind him going, but he's not really into it. I'm not sure that I like the idea of him useing me as an excuse to get out of it though!

Yeah, Conor only went because it was usually a friend's b-day, bachelor party..etc. He usually ended up spending his cash on beer, not dancing girls.

He's one that would also rather spend his pocket money on protien shakes, a car or me (L) !

I dont really care as long as I know and preferrably went with. But otherwise I dont care. Providing he doesnt blow a shitton of money there..I have seen some classy ones before. They are few and far between but they are out there...

My thoughts exactly!

I think that's along the same thoughts as Jason. Why waste money on strippers when a.) he has his own personal stripper who can strip and do him :lmao and b.) spend the money on it when he can spend the money on GNC crap, the truck he's getting, computer parts, etc :P

Yeah Rod says why go and spend money on that.. :hehe so he's the same way as well.

I dont mind him going. we have even gone together a few times. The nicer ones are around you just have to seek them out. He usually only goes when they are in P'cola and he may go if that is what his brother decides to do for a bachelor party. other than that i really dont care.

i don't think jason is interested in going and he probably wouldn't go unless i were with him actually. he's just not into that. i went to one once with a group of people because i was the designated driver. i found it hilarious and was amused watching the drunken men in the place make fools of themselves. jason didn't care that i went and i told him if he wanted to go once to see then fine. if it was a habit of his that'd bug me.

With me is cool. Any other time.... not really. Unless its a bacholer party, even then its REALLY iffy.

DF use to go alot before we were together, we have also gone together here. There are some really nasty girls and then there are some really nice ones. Some of the guys that go freak me out!!! It is always fun to sit and watch these guys too. I feel bad for some of the girls but they choose the lifestyle!! I always talk to them and ask them why they dance and other stuff. Alot of them do it to support their kids or put themself thru school. I met one that has been doing it for like 15 years!! I use to work for a Lingerie Store and I met alot working there because they said we had the best outfits.

I have asked DF if he wanted to go again sometime and he always says no, he has no interest anymore. I really don't think I would want him to go by himself but I wouldn't mind if he wanted to go together again. Some places remind me of just hangin' out at a club, xspecially around here. They do not strip, they have to stay clothed. So it's kinda like going to a club where there are half naked nasty chicks and half naked decent ones, no big deal to me! Also, as long as money isn't wasted, no biggie! :D

Jeff says he probably wouldn't go. Ive almost gotten to the point that I Don't care, if he wants to see some skinny perky girl, good for him. He's just gotta remember he's coming home to flabby, saggy me and better not bring any surprises home either.

Anyhow, that costs money and I'm stingy with my money.

I don't care as long as I know, plus I think that me not getting upset or worried about it takes so of the fun outta it for him, so he rarely goes and when he does its with some of his buddies, plus i know i can trust him and when all is said and done he's still coming home to me.

I don't care, not that big of a deal, just another thing for him and the guys to do. I know of a couple he went to in Hawaii and for one of the guy's bday's here in SD where they did a run of like 5 strip clubs in one night, he came home with a tshirt he won for doing pullups, LOL, silly. Its just looking, its not like he's going to a whorehouse or something, and its a male bonding thing. I think I actually prefer him going to a strip club than a dance club.

I know my husbands gone once for a bachelor party and then once for drinks with the guys. I don't mind because he's only gone like 3 times. If he were to go on every guys night out or if he were actually participating, then I would get upset but even the group of guys he goes with don't participate (as in put money in thongs, get lap dances and stuff). I don't think he's trash though. He's still going to come home to me and I know that so it's not a big concern.

Dh and I were just talking about this the other day.
He said he has no reason to go to one :D

I think that me not getting upset or worried about it takes some of the fun outta it for him


That's not cool. You mean he enjoys making you worry and upsetting you?

I don't have a problem with him going.. I don't get mad at him if he mentions going with a bunch of the guys... I don't tell him "hey why don't you go out to the strip club with the guys either" ... I think the fact that I don't get mad and he can't get a rise out of me takes away all the fun of going... he's never gone when he's talked about it.... we've talked about going together though... who knows.. maybe one day

yeah that's me and df :hehe df knows i get upset more when he is going to go and go to a bar with his friends b/c his friends try and get girls to hit on him and shit and it pisses him off. they know he's engaged. oh well that's the only real problem i have when he goes out, plus df is shy around women. :yes its really cute:lovestruck

I think I actually prefer him going to a strip club than a dance club.

You make a very very good point, and I never thought of it like that. I agree 100%

John went twice when he was single, and he didn't see the point in spending money on slutey women. (Those were his words, not mine.) :hehe I'm glad he's not into it, because I wouldn't be too happy about him going.

That's not cool. You mean he enjoys making you worry and upsetting you?
LOL no, he doesn't try to upset me on purpose, but normally when he goes out with his buddies, their gf's don't like them doing it, but he know it doesn't bother me like it does some people when he thinks it should.

Don't care for them. I think it's just another way to exploit women.

He's never been to one and has no desire to go to one, thank God.

I'd be pissed off if he pissed money away on a place like that.

Something funny- I accidently took a guy to one on a date. It was in TJ and I didn't know they turned "Animale" into one, so we went in, got some nasty water filled drinks, and watched as half naked chicks started coming out.

Needless to say, they weren't just dancing. ;) We left after we finished our drinks. It was gross, to me.

I just can't believe a woman would let herself be exploited like that. Even in the strip clubs in America.

He says he's been twice in his life, once to a trashy club when he was single and once to a so called "classy" place after we married. The second time my cousin from out of state talked him into it cause he wanted to see a nyc strip club. :shrug

It doesn't bother me at all that he went, I know he wouldn't spend any $$ (other than a cover charge and a beer) because he's so much more responsible with money than I am.

It would bother me if he made a habit out of it because A: it's a waste of money and B: it would say something about the way he sees women.

In general he's become such a goodie goodie because of me it's almost sad lol. He got into his share of trouble before we met, he and his friends weren't um.... nice boys :D His friends still aren't lol

Now it's like he'll sometimes have a couple of beers or whatever with friends after work but he doesn't even go out for the night drinking alone. He says he'd rather come home or go out with me. I didn't even know about his past until an old friend of his stayed overnight at our place and dropped some hints. Then I slowly dragged it out of DH.

i dont mind at all, as long as i know about it and i've not been lied to about it...

and going alone... i don't think so... but if it's like... a thing with the guys, then fine...

I guess if he thought he needed to go that bad I wouldn't say no, but then I don't really want to go.

My fiance's Ex-wife is a stripper. So because of that I am a little uncomfortable with the thought of him going. I shouldn't be though because he really shows no interest in them anymore. He says that was something he liked in his younder days. He would rather stay home with me now.

I couldn't care less if my DH ever went to a strip club whether it be with me, alone or with his buddies.

I dont mind if dh goes...

DH doesn't like strip clubs. So I don't have to worry. But if he goes that is fine with me cause I know he is coming home to me!

I don't care if DH goes...one day soon we'll go together but I know he'd prefer me over them so I let him go drool if he wants(he's not been yet since we were together) and come home to me :P

It would bother me alot. I think I could manage to deal with it if he went with a few other married guys.

I would not want him to go and if he went I would be beyond mad...

he has gone, i have gone, and we have gone together. no biggie:dunno

I don't care if my wife goes.. she'll be in and out in 20 seconds flat. And we'd be out the cover charge. But, if she REALLY wanted to go...

I don't care if my wife goes.. she'll be in and out in 20 seconds flat. And we'd be out the cover charge. But, if she REALLY wanted to go...


Don't worry, it won't be me that takes her to one :roflmao I can't stand male strippers :sick :sick I think they are cheesey and tacky. not to mention, I see no point at sitting and staring at a weiner when I can do more than that with one at home :wow :lmao I am a naughty girl :devil

Don't worry, it won't be me that takes her to one :roflmao I can't stand male strippers :sick :sick I think they are cheesey and tacky. not to mention, I see no point at sitting and staring at a weiner when I can do more than that with one at home :wow :lmao I am a naughty girl :devil

I totally agree. I too would be happier to be home!:lmao

The closest I have ever been to a stip club was when we hired a stripper for a friend in SD who was turning 21.
I video tapped it threatened him :hehe
Dh couldn't believe I wasn't turned on but sorry he had no hair anywhere that just isn't natural :roflmao

I don't know how else to say this but Hell No. John knows that is big no and won't fly with me.