My hubby is leaving in 2 weeks and its really not bothering me.. I love him and I will miss him but I am not upset about it. Is that wrong?? Or has it just not hit me yet?? This will be his 3rd time but my 2nd. WHATS WRONG WITH ME??

Hmm i don't think its wrong. Perhaps it'll hit you when he first goes, or maybe it never will.

As long as you love him, it's not wrong.

I wish i could be cool calm and collected when it comes to deployments.

Maybe your still in the denial phase... a lot of us go through that right before they leave. Like if it's still several weeks away, we don't have to think about it at the present moment.. kwim?

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you. I've got some info to post about the emotional cycle of deployment, but it's long and I don't have a lot of time this morning. I'll try and post it this afternoon..

There is nothing wrong with you. I was the same way, nothing really hit me until we were in the gym and I had to say bye. Everybody deals with it differently, so there is no need to worry.

nothings wrong with you! you just deal with things differently and that's totally OK! :) don't worry!

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. This is our 4th deployment and it didn't bug me. I keep waiting for some feeling to hit me. Don't get me wrong- I love my DH and miss him every day. This is his job and I support him whole-heartedly. Everyone deals with situations differently.

I was that way when my DH left, but when it hit me it hit hard... Idk why I acted the way I did, but man, I cried for days when I realized it... Hopefully it won't be that bad for you. But just keep faith and hope alive and all should be well... ;)

I felt the same way before my DH deployed. I dont think it actually hit me until I got back home and he was not there. Even still, I really didnt get upset about it. I dont think there is anything abnormal or wrong about it.

I definitely don't think there's anything wrong with you... like a lot of the other girls said... I was completely fine up until the moment he had to leave, and then I was a complete wreck for a good week. If I even looked at a picture of him, heard a sad love-type song, watched a sappy movie... I was in tears and inconsolible..lol.. We all just handle things differently :hugs

I was the same way until a couple of days b4 he left, then I broke down. I think I was still in denial.

there is absolutly nothing wrong with you! everyone processes things differently. i was perfectly fine till the morning he left and i cried for days after that. anything would set me off. maybe you are thinking of all the things you will do that will keep you busy (like things with your kids), or are just waiting for deployment to start so you can work on getting through it (that was me).

since you mentioned it's your 2nd time him being deployed, maybe you're not worrying as much because you know things will be fine.

There is nothing wrong with you. You have kids so you don't have alot of time to do any thing esle. So please don't be hard on your self. :hug

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you....I was perfectly fine up until DH left...even the day he left I was fine (except for some tears at the airport)...I think I just went into "uber-strong-deployment" mode and that means that things just don't affect me as much anymore.

I did feel bad about it too though, DH's mom kept calling and saying "are you doing alright? are you OK?" and I answered, truthfully" yeah, I'm great!" and I seriously felt really guilty about it....but I know that was dumb.

Nothing is wrong with you, you're just being really strong and collected. Everyone handles situations differently :)

I really wasn't that bad until the day he was leaving. So no I don't think it's wrong at all.