Ok so Ella still wakes up somtimes (most nights) atleast once. I hold her and she drinks a bottle (yes I know I should have my ass kicked) she doesn't need the bottle it's just she likes me I think. So anyway. She's always drank the bottle and went right back to sleep. Well this week everytime she wakes up, she eats and I put her back to bed like I always do. As soon as I close her door she is standing up screaming for me. I've patted and rubbed her back and I also hold her and walk and rock. Nothing is working. She ends up crying for up to 45 mins and it kills me. I don't understand why she's doing this. We have yet to put her in her toddler bed (that is set up in her room) b/c she is still waking up in the middle of the night. I don't know what I can do to get her to sleep. She has nights where she will sleep through the night no problems. I'm just at my wits end. With Landen coming very soon. I just don't know what to do with her. I know I need to take the bottle away (it's away just when she eats in the middle of the night) she is so clingy to me it's crazy. She wants nothing to do with her dad so he's no help at all. I guess this is a bit of a vent and a cry for opinions and help. thanks for listening.:freakout :nutts

It might be because your pregnant she is very clingy to you! She probably knows there is about to be a big change happening and shes probably not comfortable with it! DD has been extreamly clingy with me since I found out I was pregnant, doesnt want her dad either!

My advice?

Ditch it now and stop doing it asap. Deal with the few days crying. Because once your new baby comes you wont have time and when you wont be able to do it she iwll feel like you are taking the baby over her. Seriously. My son is having trouble adjusting in some areas because I still let some things slide before Ashley arrived. I would rock him to sleep for his nap. Yep shame on me. And now I cant and he takes it personal. I shoulda stopped well before. I didnt rock him to sleep for bed, I got him switched to a toddler bed well ina dvance but didnt stop the nap thing.

Also alot of it could be she senses a change. Or she is testing you. She is getting to that age...I really think you should just stop now. You will be much happier in the long run. BOTH of you. It'll be hard at first but with a new baby its something you will want to stop well ahead of time so she doesnt view it as being stopped BECAUSE of the new baby

My advice?

Ditch it now and stop doing it asap. Deal with the few days crying. Because once your new baby comes you wont have time and when you wont be able to do it she iwll feel like you are taking the baby over her. Seriously. My son is having trouble adjusting in some areas because I still let some things slide before Ashley arrived. I would rock him to sleep for his nap. Yep shame on me. And now I cant and he takes it personal. I shoulda stopped well before. I didnt rock him to sleep for bed, I got him switched to a toddler bed well ina dvance but didnt stop the nap thing.

Also alot of it could be she senses a change. Or she is testing you. She is getting to that age...I really think you should just stop now. You will be much happier in the long run. BOTH of you. It'll be hard at first but with a new baby its something you will want to stop well ahead of time so she doesnt view it as being stopped BECAUSE of the new baby

completely agree

My advice?

Ditch it now and stop doing it asap. Deal with the few days crying. Because once your new baby comes you wont have time and when you wont be able to do it she iwll feel like you are taking the baby over her. Seriously. My son is having trouble adjusting in some areas because I still let some things slide before Ashley arrived. I would rock him to sleep for his nap. Yep shame on me. And now I cant and he takes it personal. I shoulda stopped well before. I didnt rock him to sleep for bed, I got him switched to a toddler bed well ina dvance but didnt stop the nap thing.

Also alot of it could be she senses a change. Or she is testing you. She is getting to that age...I really think you should just stop now. You will be much happier in the long run. BOTH of you. It'll be hard at first but with a new baby its something you will want to stop well ahead of time so she doesnt view it as being stopped BECAUSE of the new baby

Excellent advice!

because she is getting the bottle she may be waking up now because its a schedule to eat at the time. I have read it is best to stop the bottle then get her to learn to put herself back to sleep.

I agree with Kristi. You have to be firm at night. I know its hard, belived me, Val would cry for two hours when I started doing CIO...but now she goes to bed fine. Take Kristi's advice...:hugs Good luck!

DD started doing that too, and since I've also got a baby coming, I was determined that she was going to have to learn to put herself to sleep. She cried, and she screamed, but in the end, sleep won, and she gave up. Now, I have no problems getting her to go to sleep at all.
Its tough hearing them cry, but as long as you know she's not wet or hungry, and nothings bothering her, then she'll be just fine.

Thank you all for the advice specially you Kristi. I really want to drop this bottle. Do I just stop cold turkey? Or do I give her milk in a cup and put her to bed with it? She wont drink milk out of a sippyI've tried more times then I can count. Once I get ride if night time bottle we should progress pretty fast.

Thank you all for the advice specially you Kristi. I really want to drop this bottle. Do I just stop cold turkey? Or do I give her milk in a cup and put her to bed with it? She wont drink milk out of a sippyI've tried more times then I can count. Once I get ride if night time bottle we should progress pretty fast.

with all my kids, i had them watch me put the bottles in the trash and take the trash out. the first 2 nights were always the worst.

How old is Ella?!
I'm pretty sure she's old enough to get the gist of how a sippy cup works. She's waking up because I'm sure that that bottle is VERY interesting for her. Maybe you can water it down until it's completely water.
Does she have a crib toy?! Ethan just loves is aquarium wonders toy.

How old is Ella?!
I'm pretty sure she's old enough to get the gist of how a sippy cup works. She's waking up because I'm sure that that bottle is VERY interesting for her. Maybe you can water it down until it's completely water.
Does she have a crib toy?! Ethan just loves is aquarium wonders toy.

Ella is 17 months. She uses the sippy cup all day with watered down juice but will not take milk in a sippy. I've tried have a "milk only sippy" but nope she wont take it. She doesn't have a crib toy but does take a babydoll to bed. I think she's waking up b/c I'm her security thing.

She could also be teething. Ethan just broke through one of his upper molars and woke up 2 nights in a row.

She is teething right now. I see 2 top molars popping out.

At night, I wouldnt give her anything to drink, unless you absolutely have to.
Milk at night in a sippy cup could rot her teeth out. Yeah, we would think milk would be great for teeth, but when babys use the sippy at night, they dont drink constant, and it just sits there, and it will eventually rot her teeth.

You should have seen my neighbors 2 year old in San Diego, she would NOT take his sippy cup away and the poor childs teeth where BROWN. :oogle Her Dr even told her to stop. But she would give in LOL. I learned alot of what NOT to do from her :)

You need to break her of having milk in a bottle/cup for bed period. I had a similar problem with Alex. He went to bed every night with a bottle of milk and got to the point where he would wake up in the middle of the night crying for more, a couple times a night. he drank it all not because he was hungry but because sucking on the bottle was like his security blanket. At her age she doesn't need to eat in the middle of the night. The milk at night will also promote tooth decay and cause her to become overweight.

The way I broke alex of his night time bottle was I gave him a paci just for bed (not the best either but it was better than several bottles of milk at night). I don't know what other things to suggest other than just take the bottle away cold turkey. It will only be tough for a couple days and then she'll get over it. I am SO HAPPY that Cameron gave his bottle up completely by 10 months and Wyatt gave it up completely by 8 months. I also learned never to give them bottles in bed ever, after what I went through with Alex. It's not good for them to go to bed with a bottle.

You need to break her of having milk in a bottle/cup for bed period. I had a similar problem with Alex. He went to bed every night with a bottle of milk and got to the point where he would wake up in the middle of the night crying for more, a couple times a night. he drank it all not because he was hungry but because sucking on the bottle was like his security blanket. At her age she doesn't need to eat in the middle of the night. The milk at night will also promote tooth decay and cause her to become overweight.

The way I broke alex of his night time bottle was I gave him a paci just for bed (not the best either but it was better than several bottles of milk at night). I don't know what other things to suggest other than just take the bottle away cold turkey. It will only be tough for a couple days and then she'll get over it. I am SO HAPPY that Cameron gave his bottle up completely by 10 months and Wyatt gave it up completely by 8 months. I also learned never to give them bottled in bed ever, after what I went through with Alex. It's not good for them to go to bed with a bottle.

Good advice also! :thumbsup

At night, I wouldnt give her anything to drink, unless you absolutely have to.
Milk at night in a sippy cup could rot her teeth out. Yeah, we would think milk would be great for teeth, but when babys use the sippy at night, they dont drink constant, and it just sits there, and it will eventually rot her teeth.

You should have seen my neighbors 2 year old in San Diego, she would NOT take his sippy cup away and the poor childs teeth where BROWN. :oogle Her Dr even told her to stop. But she would give in LOL. I learned alot of what NOT to do from her :)

I agree!!! We don't let Ethan eat or drink anything but water after his teeth are brushed.

She is teething right now. I see 2 top molars popping out.

Give her Motrin and nighttime baby Oragel. That should keep her comfortable throughout the night. :)

A nifty little factoid... milk is actually more damaging to teeth than juice!

IF you give her milk at night do it BEFORE brushing her teeth. So like what we dois he gets a sippy of milk, then we brush teeth, then we do nighttime stuff

And yes I would do it cold turkey. The longer you procrastinate it the worse it'll be. I cant tell you how hard adjusting has been for Ethan and I KNOW some of it has to do with some stuff I didnt prepare for. Like the nap thing. :hugs to you. I know it is hard trust me. But its even harder listening to your child scream and cry when your baby needs you too and your older one looks at you with confusion in their eyes and you have baby blues etc. Makes for a hard time.

Trent is 18 months and still wakes up. of course we are not having a baby soon so it does not bother me as much. he was a sippy cup of water next to his bed. when he wakes up most of the time he will take a sip or two and go right back to sleep. it is so dry in our house that even i get up in the middle of the night to get some water. We dont CIO but that is our own preference and it works out great for us. just hang in there. With her teeth coming in and it be rough for a few nights.:hugs

Thank you ladies!! I appreciate all the advice you've given me. Starting tomorrow night I am going to stop giving her the bottle and start a new bedtime routine. I'm bracing myself for the worst. I'm sure I wont get much sleep but it's for the best. I really do appreciate all you kind words of advice thank you :hugs

Hang in there! :hugs