Did you circumsize? Not meaning to start a debate, just curious as it's something I'll be dealing with now.

If yes, why. Also, how long till it healed?

If no, why not.

My husband is 100% for it because he is and I am pretty much for it but like to research things first to death before I really decide.

I have 2 sons and we circumsized both of them

My ex wanted him circumsized, so I talked to the hospital and my doctor to make sure it was done without a ton of pain. My doctor numbed him up and did it....he didn't even cry. It took a couple weeks to heal up, when I changed his diaper we had to change the gauze and put vaseline on the tip.

I am sure it will turn into a debate :giggle

Yes, I had my son circumcised. We had it done because both dh and I preferred it to be done. Dh is circumcised, so it was never a question on if we would have it done to our son. For us we found that it's better hygiene wise, and research shows that males who are circumcised have a slightly lower risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Noah had no complications, and he never cried once during the process. The nerves aren't completely "formed" in the penis area, so I am told they really don't feel a whole lot.

Really, it's up to you and your husband. It's was a personal preference for us.

We had Nathan circ'd without any problems. It was easier to care for than I thought it would be. The doctor did a great job! His was done in the office when he was not quite a week old. They gave hims some Tylenol, numbed the area, and had dh give him a pacifier that had been dipped in sugar water. It took about a week to heal :) :)

We are having our little guy circumcised. His daddy is and when I asked Dh what his opinion was on it, he said that he would like to have it done. My OB is pro-circumcision too. We talked about it at the last appointment.

Yes we did. It took a couple of weeks to heal, and he didn't cry or fuss when it happened or when we cleaned it. He's a tough cookie like his mom. :smooch :roflmao

I agree that it's a personal preference though. Good luck with your decision! :goodvibes

Yes ds was done before we left the hospital. I honeslty can't remember how long it took to hear...I don't think it was that long though. There weren't any complications or anything and it was very easy to take care of.

I am 90% sure we will have it done, but I can't help this thing I Have of checking everything first hand haha!

Yes all 3 of mine are :)

We had JD done because that is what Jess wanted. It took a couple of week to heal. He cried when they did it (I was told) they gave him a sugar pacifier and he came back to us alseep.

landen will be when he is born. It's a choice my husband and I made together.

I haven't yet..but we are going to circum. him just because his daddy wants him to be, he wants Bri to be like him..I think Brian has more say since he has the boy parts and I do not lol. I am nervous about it I dont want my little boy to be in pain or hurt so that is why I will not be there when it is done, DH will be. I think it takes about as long as the belly button to heal right? But I am not sure...lol as I haven't gone threw it yet.

I have 2 sons and we circumsized both of them

Same here!

The healing process isn't very long. They will give you instructions on how to care for it. I had to put vaseline and gauze on Noah's , and it was healed up within a week. Just be sure to follow the doctor's directions on how to care for it, and he should be fine :)

I guess I will be the first no. I do not want to get flamed for my beliefs... I am not saying that those of you who have circumcised have done anything wrong.
I am from Canada and it was not recommended. Very few docs will do it out there and it costs quite a bit because its considered elective.
2003 British Medical Association
“The BMA does not believe that parental preference alone constitutes sufficient grounds for performing a surgical procedure on a child unable to express his own view. . . . Parental preference must be weighed in terms of the child's interests. . . . The BMA considers that the evidence concerning health benefit from non-therapeutic circumcision is insufficient for this alone to be a justification for doing it. . . . Some doctors may wish to not perform circumcisions for reasons of conscience. Doctors are under no obligation to comply with a request to circumcise a child.”
Here is a link to the Canadian Children Rights Council, who have some very interesting things to say on the subject...
http://www.canadiancrc.com/circumcision/circumcision.htm
Bottom line, its your child and your choice. I will say that the men in my family were never done and there has never been an issue.
Good luck to you. I wish I could say this will be the hardest choice you make as a parent, but that would be a lie!
Take care.

If we have a boy we will circumsize him. I gave the choice to DH since I dont have a penis.

I guess I will be the first no. I do not want to get flamed for my beliefs... I am not saying that those of you who have circumcised have done anything wrong.
I am from Canada and it was not recommended. Very few docs will do it out there and it costs quite a bit because its considered elective.
2003 British Medical Association
“The BMA does not believe that parental preference alone constitutes sufficient grounds for performing a surgical procedure on a child unable to express his own view. . . . Parental preference must be weighed in terms of the child's interests. . . . The BMA considers that the evidence concerning health benefit from non-therapeutic circumcision is insufficient for this alone to be a justification for doing it. . . . Some doctors may wish to not perform circumcisions for reasons of conscience. Doctors are under no obligation to comply with a request to circumcise a child.”
Here is a link to the Canadian Children Rights Council, who have some very interesting things to say on the subject...
http://www.canadiancrc.com/circumcision/circumcision.htm
Bottom line, its your child and your choice. I will say that the men in my family were never done and there has never been an issue.
Good luck to you. I wish I could say this will be the hardest choice you make as a parent, but that would be a lie!
Take care.

Hey I appreciate your point of view! I like to hear all sides of the story and you! Thanks for posting it!!! :D

If we have a boy we will circumsize him. I gave the choice to DH since I dont have a penis.

See that is the reason my husband is 100% for it. He would not know how to teach our son how to clean it properly, etc.

both of my boys are cric'd and if this one surprises us, he will be too. I am very glad that I did when it comes to Gabe. Because of where his cancer was, he would have had to deal with being circ'd on top of everything else if we hadnt. The chemo treatments put him at a high risk so we have to really be careful with him with UTI's and bladder infections. that they dont get into his remaining kidney. And research shows, that uncirc'd boys have higher incidents of UTI's and bladder infections.

as for heal time. Gabe didnt come home from the hosp till he was 9 days old. I dont remember still having to care for it at home, because when Chris came. I was completely lost on what to do. I felt like an idiot cause I already had a circ'd boy but didnt have a clue. LOL

I had my son circumsized while still in the hospital. Wasn't a big issue and all was well with it. He even admitted later as a teen that he was glad I chose to do that. He personally did like the look of being uncircumsized. We had a friend that ended up having a lot of problems not being circumsized and ended having to get it done in his 40s. It was not a nice experience for him. I am not sure what his problem was though. I do not think it had to do with his hygiene though. My MIL's husband is not circumsized and she has admitted she is not crazy about it herself.

my son is not. We didnt see it as something that HAD to be done. plus I didn't want anyone cutting my babys skin off. Also My boss had her son done just a few months before I was due with my son and they had huge problems with him bleeding. He had to be readmitted to the hospital and I think he ended up with stiches. It was horrible hearing her talk about the diapers filled with blood and how awful it was for her son. She said she wished she never had it done.

Either way its a personal choice there is no medical proof thats states one way is better than another. Its about appearance and in my experience when it really matters (when its hard) they both look the same and feel the same.

I don't think they look the same hard.. I've seen both.

Aaron was done at birth before we left the hospital. We choose it together and I'm glad we did because I couldn't imagine haveing to teach him how to clean it, he hates anyone touching it anyways to clean it with a washcloth in the bath I would sure hate to have to teach him how to hold it and pull back the skin to clean it.

I don't think they look the same hard.. I've seen both.

:lmao sorry i just had to laugh i agree though

We had Johnny circ. and Zachary will be, too. For me I feel John knows what is best since I don't have a penis so I let him handle this decision. If I remember correctly it took about 1-2 weeks to heal. I had to put clean gauze with a vaseline ointment on it over his penis everytime he got a new diaper. Also, and I still do this, pull back the skin on the head to make sure it didn't reattach itself. I want to say I didn't do this til after I quit using the gauze but my memory sucks right now so maybe someone else can actually remember exactly when that was started. Good Luck.

Both of my boys are circ'd also. Their dad is and asked for my oldest to be done too. I do think it is mostly for cosmetic reasons even though there has been a few studies done to show that it may help prevent certain STDs. But even despite thinking that, I had my boys done anyway..

Well I don't have children, but I do know that my sister had a boyfriend and in 11th grade he was having complications with it getting infected and he had to be Cerm'd at the age of 17...It was VERY embarrassing for him because the older you are the more feeling you have and the longer the recovery. to me, i see it as something I would like done to my future children, just so they don't have to live through that embarrassment one day.

Yep sure did. They said that he cried a little...my mom was working that night so she was in with him but within a few minutes he was fine and it never seemed to bother him while it was healing.

:lmao sorry i just had to laugh i agree though


I only said that because Heather said they look the same hard.... and they certainly doesn't imo :pukey

Trent is intact. DH is not. DH's dad is intact. So the whole "looking like the dad" agruement did not happen in our house. We do not do unnecessary medical procedures on our children.

As for cleaning.....I do nothing different in cleaning my son than a mother that has a circumcised son. Actually I dont have to worry about a changing the bandage. All moms that do not circumcised their sons know not to retract the skin which in return protects the penis. When someone retracts the skin, that is when infection happens.:D

To each their own. Everyone will have their own arguement. I personally will be completely honest and say to ME it looks much better Circ rather than un cerc'ed. That's just my opinion so no bashing please. Thank you :D

As for the penis looking different intact or not. Here is a website that shows an erected intact penis. my opinion is that is looks the same as a circumcised penis.

THIS WEBSITE CONTAINS PICTURES!!! Also I have not read through this site for the information. All my pro-intact sites is saved at my home computer.

http://indra.com/~shredder/intact/anatomy/

To each their own. Everyone will have their own arguement. I personally will be completely honest and say to ME it looks much better Circ rather than un cerc'ed. That's just my opinion so no bashing please. Thank you :D


I feel the same way. I don't care what other people do with thier kids. I just care about mine :lol

Thank you for posting that link. But I see a diffrence for sure.

Thank you for posting that link. But I see a diffrence for sure.

I do too. I don't know why, but it gives me the heebie jeebies.

I do too. I don't know why, but it gives me the heebie jeebies.

OMG thank you for saying that. Me too I looks like a little worm or somthing :scared just not my thing. Not knocking anyone who is for it just my preference.

I do too. I don't know why, but it gives me the heebie jeebies.

I am sorry you feel that towards how my son looks. This is not in the debate forum so I am walking away. If the OP wants any more info, please PM me.:D

I have actually never seen one that hasn't been circ'd before now....thanks for sharing...and I do see a difference as well.

I am sure it will turn into a debate :giggle

Yes, I had my son circumcised. We had it done because both dh and I preferred it to be done. Dh is circumcised, so it was never a question on if we would have it done to our son. For us we found that it's better hygiene wise, and research shows that males who are circumcised have a slightly lower risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Noah had no complications, and he never cried once during the process. The nerves aren't completely "formed" in the penis area, so I am told they really don't feel a whole lot.

Really, it's up to you and your husband. It's was a personal preference for us.
Exactly what I was going to say! :)
Jer is and I will do it again. It was never a problem. The dr said he barely whimpered. And it healed so quickly. Its easier to clean and take care of for me and for him now he is older. Also like my OB class said... it's a "like Daddy thing" now and personally I wanted it that way. I dated a guy that wasn't and his Dad ended up at 40 having to have his done because it kept getting infected no matter what he did... so in the long run I believe its the best choice.
Definitly a personal choice. There is no right/wrong answer... like breastfeeding :lol

I am sorry you feel that towards how my son looks. This is not in the debate forum so I am walking away. If the OP wants any more info, please PM me.:D

I'm almost postive she meant nothing personal by that. We are entitled to our opinon plan and simple. If you were to say that a circ penis looked funny or gave your the hibbie jibbies ok no big deal who cares that's your opinion. I would never think you were talking about my child just a penis in general. I'm not trying to start anything just stating how I took your post :D

I am sorry you feel that towards how my son looks. This is not in the debate forum so I am walking away. If the OP wants any more info, please PM me.:D

Oh christ, I didn't say anything about your son :rolleyes .

I'm almost postive she meant nothing personal by that. We are entitled to our opinon plan and simple. If you were to say that a circ penis looked funny or gave your the hibbie jibbies ok no big deal who cares that's your opinion. I would never think you were talking about my child just a penis in general. I'm not trying to start anything just stating how I took your post :D

You're right. I'd love to know where I said "Jill your sons penis looks nasty go fix it." I even said that I don't care what other people do.. I only care about my own kids.

ETA: It DOES give me the heebie jeebies.. just like some people don't like facial piercings or don't like tattoos or ANYTHING else for that matter. It's just one thing that bothers me. I didn't direct what I said toward anyone. I was just making a statement about how it bugs me.

I'm with you girl. We were not trying to cause an up roar just simply said what we thought. Geez no hard feeling Jill!!

Oh and I wanted to add that I don't look at a childs penis in that way, I don't pay attention to that detail as a matter of fact. I am referring to an adults penis with foreskin giving me the heebie jeebies.

I would just because it would be less akward for him in the locker room yeah know? And hygein is easier but I don't have any kids lol

Hmmm very interesting! I've never seen an intact penis before. They really don't look too much different to me. Obviously one has the extra skin and one doesn't but I think all penises are equally weird looking, not just one with skin or one without :rofl

Anyhooooo- we chose to circ both of our sons. They were both completed healed up in less than a week, then stayed a little red for an additional 5 days after the gauze fell off and the skin healed. So, it was less than two weeks total until they were completely healed.

I understand both sides. I know why moms would choose not to circ and I understand why moms would want to. We wanted to, so we did. I really think it just boils down to your reasons and what you feel is important.

Good luck with your decision!

Anyhooooo- we chose to circ both of our sons. They were both completed healed up in less than a week, then stayed a little red for an additional 5 days after the gauze fell off and the skin healed. So, it was less than two weeks total until they were completely healed.

I understand both sides. I know why moms would choose not to circ and I understand why moms would want to. We wanted to, so we did. I really think it just boils down to your reasons and what you feel is important.

Good luck with your decision!

Same for us.

Yes we did. Hubby is, and its something, after we researched, that we both felt was right for our family. Healed in less then a week.

Absolutly. It was healed in a matter of days, but completly healed in about a week or so.

Yes we did. I asked Jason's opinion on it and he felt like we should, I read a bunch of articles about pros and cons I didn't see anything that swayed me really to one side or the other. In the end I felt like it would be best to just have it done.

Hayden didn't cry, I think it healed up in a week or at the most two.

Yes all 3 of mine were done.
Sylas had to go through a little more pain though due to having to have it done at 6weeks old. (we had to wait till his genetics testing came back)

But we did it because Daddy is and because in the Bible it does say to do it.

I have a little boy who is almost 6mths old and we circumcised him. Reason being is yes they say its elective, but if its not done their can be complications as well. My nephew was not circumcised and he is now 9yrs old and just had to be circumcised. Now for a 9yr old thats pretty traumatizing. Reason being that he had to have it done is because despite everything my sister was told to do to it to make the skin go back it never did. So due to risks for bladder infections and constant blood found in my nephews urine they saw a specialist who said it needed to be done. So in order to save my son the possibillity of future problems we elected to have it done while he was a baby...

As for the healing process. My son healed in 5days and the plastic piece came off at that time too. It was really easy to care for. They told us not to put vaseline or anything on it, just to wash it with water..

No my son is not. He is one of 5 in his class with 11 boys who is not. So I am absolutely not worried about him being "looked at wierd in the locker room" IMO it's an unnessecary surgical procedure and I feel highly uncomfortable making that decision for my child. If he wants it done at a later date he can. There is no extra cleaning required or anything it's the same as if he was cir'd. You don't move the foreskin back at all. Dh is circ'd but he didn't want our son circ'd he felt about it the same way I do.

We will have Aidan circ'd. DH felt very strongly about it especially b/c the scriptures say to do it, and because he is.

i don't have kids yet but dh and i want our boys to have it done

All of my boys are circ'd. I really let DH make the decision since he obviously knows more about caring for a penis than I do :teehee He wanted them done so we did it. Research shows that there is a lower risk of cancer, STD's and HIV from what I've heard

My son is. It took a couple of weeks for him to heal.

no, none of mine are....its not needed IMO as a mother and a Nurse


www.nocirc.org (http://www.nocirc.org) has alot of info....

I guess I should add for me this is a procedure that just wouldn't done if it was deemed completely unnecessary and such a completey awful thing to do to your child. As long as the choice is given it will continue to be a procedure that will be done. Why it is still an option if it is so unnecessary?

Um that nocirc website says circumcision began in the 1800's to prevent masturbation... now I may be crazy but how is it in the Bible if it began in the 1800's?

Yes, we had our son circumsized. We had various reasons for doing it, primarily because DH is also circumsized and I think an un-circumsized penis is ugly. JMO.

From-

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/system/surgical/circumcision.html

Despite the possible benefits and risks, circumcision is neither essential nor detrimental to a boy's health. The AAP and the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP) do not endorse the procedure as a way to prevent any of the medical conditions mentioned previously. The AAP also does not find sufficient evidence to medically recommend circumcision or argue against it.

Here is an interesting article on the history of the practice, including explaining the biblical references.
http://www.cirp.org/library/history/

DS is circ'd, and any boy after will be. I agree with Sarah and Jessica 100%!

I don't have a son but if I did I would have him circumcised.

yes i did because I feel that it is more sanitary for them to have it done and if when he got older and wanted it to be done then it would be major surgery. At least now he wont remember it.

Ryan is circumcised, same as my husband. My FIL wasn't and at age 43 he had to be circumcised due to an infection and for recommendation of 2 doctors, definitely NOT the best age to have that procedure done.

I don't have kids yet so I didn't vote but when I do and if we have a son, he will be circ'd. DB is and we think it is just the right thing to do, plus then he will be like his dad. Plus more sanitary and less risk of infection etc. I agree that it is totally a personal prefrence and some people may never have problems but others do, clearly from the stories in this post. I think that I would rather just have it done when he can't remember it then have to deal with something coming up when he is older and it will hurt more and be embarassing for him! just my opinion! :)

I am sure it will turn into a debate :giggle

Yes, I had my son circumcised. We had it done because both dh and I preferred it to be done. Dh is circumcised, so it was never a question on if we would have it done to our son. For us we found that it's better hygiene wise, and research shows that males who are circumcised have a slightly lower risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Noah had no complications, and he never cried once during the process. The nerves aren't completely "formed" in the penis area, so I am told they really don't feel a whole lot.

Really, it's up to you and your husband. It's was a personal preference for us.

:yes for us to

Ryan is circumcised, same as my husband. My FIL wasn't and at age 43 he had to be circumcised due to an infection and for recommendation of 2 doctors, definitely NOT the best age to have that procedure done.


Same thing happened to my FIL.

Yes.
It was the only thing exdh and I agreed on...

:lmao sorry i just had to laugh i agree though

Ive never seen an "UN".
:teehee

I don't have children yet, but I want them circ'd because of all the stories of men having to be circ'd later due to infection, disease, cancer, etc.

Yes both of my sons are circumsized!! It took a couple of weeks for it to heal.

Both of my boys are. Landin had some complications with his wjen he got it done but it still healed nicely. Both of them healed within a week or so.

I don't have children yet, but when I do the boys will be circumcized. I agree with many of the reasons listed (except the one about STDS... I don't believe that was ever proven to be anything but a correlation, and correlations do NOT equal causation). Also... I'm Jewish. It's a heritage thing. Just sayin'.