My husband is a US Marine and he is about to go out on his first deployment. I'm scared and I cry everytime I think about it. Can someone tell me if this is normal?

i don't have much experience on deployments. but many women on here do.

i know you need to keep busy, and be understanding if he doesnt act his normal self. good luck sweety.

Its so normal. Don't worry you will get through it.

How long is he gone for?

He is going to be gone for 8 months. I'm always busy and some how it finds a way to sneak in on me everytime. I go to school and have 3 kids, sometimes I just want to slow down, but I know if I do I will just cry and be over ran with sadness.

8 months :censored!!!!!!!!

Yeah keeping busy is good. I was the same way when DB left about 4 months ago. Its a good thing you are here on SOS. Since I joined I have been doing so much better with DB deployment, not as much crying as I was.

I knew it would happen, but I just want to kick the ground and throw a fit, ya know?
I'm scared for him!

I knew it would happen, but I just want to kick the ground and throw a fit, ya know?
I'm scared for him!



I feel ya on being scared. I am scared everyday for DB. The trick is to not think about it or turn on the tv and watch the news. I made that mistake this past week. His ship had to be moved and they said that it was hit. I was freaking out. I couldn't stop crying, I thought he was hurt cause I couldn't get ahold of him. I didn't get out of bed at all. I then turned the tv on later and they said that it was a rumor. A RUMOR. I WAS SCARED ALL DAY CAUSE OF A RUMOR!!!!That is why watching the news is a bad idea.

I know how you feel. I laugh at myself now cause the night DB left I had a fit like a 5 year old. I was on my bed kicking and scream, good thing I was the only one in the house. :lol

So very normal! I'm on our first right now actually, need any advice or any thing PM me :)

8 months will FLY by.. It'll be over before you know it..:hugehug

Don't worry! It's normal. Mine is gone for 12 months and he's been gone for 3 so far. I wouldn't say it gets easier. You just have to keep busy. Find new hobbies.

It is 100%-absolutely normal sweety-Hang in there & stay strong

yep never gets better or easier really but you get used to things..and get into a routine of living life...it sucks and you will have good days and bad days and some horrible days...but being on sos helps SO MUCH there are so many helpful supportive funny wonderful ladies and a couple guys too on here. my db is a marine too and hes been gone almost 2 months of a 7 month deployment...its gone kinda fast but there have been hard days too...STAY BUSY thats the best advice you can get! :hugs :hugs :hugs

Just give yourself a little time every few days to throw an absolute :tantrum. (In the privacy of your own home though so people don't think you're a nutter)

It helps me! :giggle

The night before he leaves you wont sleep at all, and all you will do is cry. It's normal because you have to prepare yourself for him to be gone. Give yourself that! You owe it to yourself to get all your grief of him leaving out so you can be strong while he's gone. When he leaves, take a hot bath, give yourself a Pedicure and watch a good chick flick to help you sob it all out!
You will of course, miss him like hell and have more tears..but don't hold it back, especially in the beginning. Good luck!!!!!

I'm ending my first deployment. It doesn't get easier but you learn to deal with it. Like Ashlee said, let yourself feel all the grief that there is. Some days will be easier than others. Some days you won't feel like getting up. It's all normal.
But each day he's gone it's one more day closer to him coming home. I made a huge calander and cross out each day. From the day he left I prepared for him home coming. *hugs* We're all here for you.

my DH leaves less than 2 weeks for deployment....and i have been a mess too. so dont worry. ;)

I hear you loud and clear. My bf is over and this is my first deployment and it's not an easy thing. Sometimes I feel like curling up in a ball and crying and usually I do. Then other times I am so busy I'm fine, but it's those times that I want to cry that I'm not sure what to do with myself. *sighs*

I've been staying busy. I think it hardest times for me are when I go to bed, I miss the warmth of him holding me and his touch, it's hard but I am making it. I have been so busy with school and the kids that I haven't really had the chance to cry yet but, I'm sure it's coming.
Thanks for all the kind and helpful words.

I know that for me... the time before he left was the worst... I was counting down my last few days with him... and then he went. And it sucks and I still have moments were it hits me he's gone... and I give myself a few minutes to cry and then I remember that he'll be back. I know for myself that getting on here... meeting his shipmates wives... and staying busy has helped me big time! Another thing that helps me is knowing that I get the honor of loving a man that is strong and true... and that since our relationship has been tested it has also been shown true. Its a bond that nothing can break! Good lucky honey! Let me know if you want to talk!

I got to meet a few wives yesterday and a meeting where my DH I&I talked with us about what was going on with our men, most the wives are great!

it is very normal. It is very tough but you will get through it. The first week or two is the worst!! Then each day it gets easier. Good luck!! :hugs

It is very normal hun. my Dh just left saturday for our first deployment. and i have been a mess. if you need anything just PM me. :hugs

hey all this is the first time my husband been deployed i was told it would get better he been gone almost 3 weeks now and 6 days haven't heard from him for two weeks all i did was cry out of know were but i don't cry that much anymore i think i had run out of tears for now.


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My husband is a US Marine and he is about to go out on his first deployment. I'm scared and I cry everytime I think about it. Can someone tell me if this is normal?

i feel exactly the same! im crying right now....:freakout

I just found out this afternoon the exact date when my airman will be deploying. He's back in his home state until next Wednesday so I'm pretty much about to go crazy!! I have cried and cried all afternoon. I've never done anything like this or been this personally involved in anything to do with the military so I don't know what to expect or what to do. I CRY ALL THE TIME!!! He doesn't want to talk about it much at all so I feel like I'm walking around blind-folded. Any advice...anything I should know that could help me in the next couple weeks before he leaves. I'm a mess!!:tears :tears :tears

:hugs :pray :goodvibes Well i know we all love our SO's so when they leave we all fall apart for a little bit and become this big mess...but honestly the only thing that will help you get on your feet is finding something to do, finding a hobby something to work on and keep you busy so you spend less time wallowing and more time doing things!! its an easy remedy but it is true, what ya'll are feeling now is normal but dont let your funk last too long, get out and do something!! Hope ya'll feel better!!

It is normal for your husband to act weird before and during his deployment. I am on my third deployment with my husband. He has been to Iraq twice and right now he is in Africa. My husband, Ronald, acted very detached and not quite as loving before he leaves. Then, while he is gone he acts a little more distant and doesnt want to talk about home life. I think it depresses him, which I wouldnt doubt. Just wait till he gets home though. It is like you are a newly wed again. He will want to do everything for you and spoil you. Take care of this kids without even being asked. If you ever need to talk, I am always here.
Renee

This is very normal!! I cried during my first one and when this second one came about I felt the same way but worse because during my first one was when I met him so after he came back we started building alife together and now hes gone again and im stuck helping to build OUR life together on my own