I got news that when Z comes home his ship will pull in at the Mayport base to let the guys of his squadron off, it’s AWESOME cause the ship is stationed in VA and usually they fly the guys to/from VA for deployments and work ups, however this will be the first time that I will finally get to see him off a ship. He is getting out as soon as this enlistment is over and this will be the last deployment, here is the thing: my in-laws want to see him off the ship too and they are insisting cause it’s their only and last chance to get to see him off the ship too, so after 11 years that Zach has been in the NAVY all of a sudden they want to be there, hey it’s not my fault that they never wanted to do this before when Z was single… but I can’t help feeling really bad about not wanting them here… I want to spend time with Z and have him spend some time alone with Ryan so they can get re-connected, plus we want to make some crazy hot monkey love.. LOL… it’s been near damn 8 months without seeing him and I don’t want my in-laws to spoil the homecoming I am dreaming about… Am I being terribly selfish??? :sadeyes

NO! Tell them they can come, but once they see him get off the ship and say his or whatever, they're on their own for a few days! If he's coming home after mid May, you can hide out at my house so they leave! :devil

your not being selfish

Oh, and if you need a sitter at all, let me know!

I don't think you are being selfish at all. maybe allow them to come to the docks, then go out to dinner as a family, then they go to a hotel for the night and the next day to give you guys some family bonding time?

No, you aren't being selfish and it's ridiculous for them to even ask but I know Z's mom and she is relentless. :rolleyes

I'd make Z handle it, and tell them that they aren't coming. If you say anything to them, you'll be the bad daughter in law.

We are going through something with my in-laws and Chanae's graduation (her graduation is during Allen's palm leave before deployment), and I told Allen that he has to set the boundaries and tell his parents-I'm not saying anything anymore! :wink I know that they are going to want to stay longer than just the weekend because Allen will be on leave. :rolleyes He is going to tell them that they can come on Thursday night or Friday, but they have to be gone by Tues. That is our time together as a family, and his parents overstep their boundaries all the time.

I guess you and I will be in the crazy house from the stress that we have due to our in-laws. What is it with southern parents?! :hairpull

I would feel the same way....and I'm meaner than everyone else I wouldn't want them to come at all!!

Hell no you are not being selfish! I agree that he should talk to his parents and suggest they stay at a hotel!

What is it with southern parents?! :hairpull

:lmao

My best friend and I ask what the deal is with the northerners!! My IL's are from Illinios and hers are from Ohio! The mother in laws are psychos!!

I say let them come see their son come off the ship.....then they can babysit!!! Give you the initial time with your husband. If they want to be there, they are going to be there whether you want them there or not. Might as well use it to your advantage.

Her inlaws are like mine, they wouldn't be happy going to the ship and then home to babysit. There are no boundaries with them. They would literally be crawling in bed with them (ewwww) just so they could see Z. Z's mom is very needy and isn't an easy person to please. :wink

You're not being selfish. I'd flat out tell them no. I also really really really really really really (i'll just say really a lot because hate makes me look bad even though I do hate her :D) don't like my MIL for very good reason.

no your not being selfish at all, I would ask your hubby to tell them no, if they cant be trusted to leave when yall want them to. Good luck to you though! I know how it is! ;)

Heck no you are not being selfish !!!!

My inlaws came for the first deployment and I was sooo pissed the entire time they were there. this last time they didnt come till a couple weeks later and it was much better. I dont think you are being selfish at all I completly understand.

What is it with southern parents?! :hairpull I have no idea cause I have great inlaws.

Alex, I don't think you are being selfish at all.

Jo, you're right, my MIL is a real PITA :mumble

I guess the best thing to do is just tell her NO! She is not the kind of person who would be happy staying at a hotel or giving us "our" space, it's just not in her nature, but I will let Z handle that.

I feel much better now knowing a lot of you would do the same thing :D

Thanks!!! :lovestruck

No you're not being selfish at all. It's their fault they haven't taken the time before this to come see him after a deployment. Tell them it's for spouses only :lol

I agree with everyone...your not being Selfish at all!!

nope i would do the same thing they had 11 years to do it so no not being selfish at all

I don't think you're being selfish, but I'd say since they're his parents, he should tell them.
I really dislike my MIL so I may be biased ;)