Ok, my DBF is going to deploy next month. We have been dating for about 7 months. I have talked with you wonderful ladies and with my dad and I feel SO much better about making it through this with him. So why do I have this absolutely STUPID thought in my head that when he deploys I won't hear from him again?

I am not letting myself worry about him getting hurt because he is a great soldier, he is always very careful, and honestly my mind just won't grasp it. I don't know why I am thinking he is going to get over there and decide that we shouldn't be together? I even asked him before he left for leave last week if he was thinking of anything stupid like breaking up before he leaves and he said no. He doesn't really talk much, but he does things to let me know he cares.

Other than being a bit distant (because he is really busy) he hasn't given me any reason to feel this way. Am I crazy?!

Thanks SOS!

I think its normal of all so/s facing a deployment to have these fears. It depends entirely on the person on how to eliminate them. For me I found my solution with praying. :)

Just relax a little bit!! He will not leave you once he is over there. If anything he will need your support so much more!! Things seem so tough right now because he is so busy and preoccupied with pre-deployment stuff and he probably just doesn't seem like his regular self. I think that you may be nervous and don't know what to expect when he deploys and that is OK!! You will learn to adapt to the new way of life while he is gone, and yes it does and will suck but just stay busy, support him, love him and let him know how proud you are of him and you will get through it. Deployments are tough if it is your first one or 3rd one...they are always no fun! He loves you he won't leave you! :hugs :hugs :hugs

It's totally normal I think. Things had been going really well with my DH(then DB) when he deployed to Cuba, but when he left, I just had this weird worry that he would just forget about me. It got better the further into the deployment because he had more internet access and there was talk about marriage and then actual wedding planning lol. Just relax...it's totally normal, especially if this is your first one together.

Good to know that I am not going completely crazy. I went to the gym yesterday and then treated myself to a movie after work. I am trying my best not to call him and to give him a little space. You are right that there are good days and bad days. I just have to keep myself occupied. Thanks ladies!